Hi Girls...
Im having my 3d scan done tonight and sooo excited. The main reason were having it done is to find out the sex as im way too nosey and wana be organised etc. All along hubby wasnt fussed wether we found out or not, but he was happy to go along with what i want (as usual lol), but last night he said he really doesnt want to know and i am sooo annoyed! Yesterday felt like xmas eve, ive not been able to sleep with excitement etc and i am soo dissapointed that he has now said this :(
I am desperate to find out and he was happy to aswell until every1 keeps telling him it ruins the surprise etc and hes listening to them, wish people would keep their noses out!!
Ive told him 'TOUGH SHIT'!! and that its happening end of story but i feel such a bully, how can we compromise on something like this?? Im just hoping by 7.30pm tonight and we are there that he will be happy for them to tell us :)

Fingers crossed xx
Sharon x

[Modified by: xxMrsJohnstonexx on 06 October 2008 17:12:09 ]

well i got this prob too only im not havin a 3d scan i got to have one at 36 weeks and my oh said he is going to ask and i dont want to know then as i think we only got a maximum of 6 weeks till we get a suprise so how about ...u say u want to know and can they write it on a peice of paper and then look at it when ure on your own say tomorrow when he is at work and then if u happen to buy anything pink/blue hide it from him im sure the suspense will kill him and he will ask u x x x

ooh i hate that. never give men a chance to change their minds, tell them everything late!
my dh didnt mind and good job really as he couldnt make the 20 weeks scan due to work at the last mo!!
when you speak again speak quite quietly and clamly and maybe even turn on the old waterworks, heehe.
good luck and cant wait to find out if you suceed, lol
Filo x

My hubby did that last time just before our 20 week scan so I told him I was still going to find out regardless. At the scan I asked the sonograper to write it down on piece of paper as hubby didn't want to know, so she did.

By the time we had walked back to the car hubby had asked to see what it said because he had changed his mind, (don't think he liked me knowing and not him!). We didn't tell anybody else what we were having, kept it to ourselves. I knew he would change his mind!

Hope you manage to persuade him.

h x

He wont let me find out and not him, doubt it'd work, how could we do nursery? (weve done walls white and i want a pink or blue border), and we couldnt go shopping together, id end up saying he/she all the time and my mum etc would end up finding out, so its either both of us know or none of us :(

Im praying he will feel sorry for me, ill just cry and cry lol
Sharon x

Just try and convince him by listing the practicalities (sp) of finding out, ie decorating the nursery, buying clothes and toys, picking a name.
Tell him how it would feel if the 2 of you had a special secret, and dont tell any friends or family.
And if all else fails CRY! My OH always gives in if he thinks hes made me cry! LOL

This might just be my sadistic side coming out!lol

I hope you do get to find out as it feels lovely to know if you have a pink or blue baby growing in there, you can form another little bond.

Good Luck

Naomi xx

Same happened with my hubby, he was fine with me to find out so long as i don't tell him, we've stuck to this and when i have got anything pink i've put it in my suitcase under bed and locked it (he doesnt know the code). I was never going to tell people the sex if i did find out so am still happy to refer to her as beanie bob/bobet xxx

thankfully my hubby wanted to know as much as me
if he didnt know i would have sent him out and found out by my self
i hate not knowing it makes planning a lot harder x

My hubby has wanted to know the sex all along as do i but the other week he changed his mind.

So i wrote him a really nice email (note or letter would do) saying how i really wanted to know because i want finding out to be special and exciting. I explained that if we found out at the birth it wouldn't be as special because having a baby come out of me would be the most amazing thing ever and i wouldn't care then if it was a boy or girl just that it was well and healthy.

He caved and said we could find out i think he was suprised by my reason and agreed.

Just lay on the tears and emotion and the i'm carrying your child stuff and he'll come round!!

xxx

Im going to not mention it until were there, he didnt say a definate NO! last night, but i knew he wanted to say that lol.
Im not saying i rule the roost but i usually get my way! lol
His mate that he's working with today had a baby girl a few weeks ago and they found out, so maybe theyll chat about it today and he'll be fine. Id like to keep it between us and no1 else, but my best friend wants to know, hubby's mum does and one of my sisters. I couldnt not tell my mum either, as i go shopping with her every week and i couldnt buy pink/blue stuff when she was there and no1 could visit house as theyd see the stuff, grr! So think what i'll do is keep the name a big secret from EVERYONE! lol
Weve always said Ryan for a boy but hubby likes Riley and im coming round to it, so we could kid on its still ryan and surprise mums/dads etc when he's born and weve not set a girls names yet so thats fine.
God, what we have to do! lol
Sharon x

I got quite annoyed at all the 'spoil the surprise' people. Like having a baby won't be as good if you know what you are having. As if! Just because I know the sex doesn't mean actually meeting my baby wont be amazing! So we found out and anyone who had said it would spoil the surprise didn't get told!

Yeah i get really annoyed at people who say that too! One person even told me the other day that its 'sick!' to find out, GRRR! I hate some people lol
Sharon x

i actually still found it exciting because even tho you've seen that scan and it's like 99.9% certain what you're having, there's still doubt in ur mind until you see ur lo...while i was being induced the mw's kept asking if i knew what i was having and i replied with confidence that i was having a boy but once i was lying on the table for my c-section and they asked me i wasn't as confident and added 'i hope' to the end lol...i think it's the same feeling because as soon as they pulled him out we still had the 'is it a boy/girl' conversation because until you see it for urself there's still doubt! hope this helps! x

anyway, u don't need the scan cuz ur having a pink one...i'm convinced

Haha mrsjbourne!! I think so too but im getting scared now as ive went on sooo much about it def being a girl and ill be morified telling ppl i was sooo wrong lol. Id love a wee boy too, but im sure it is a pink bump!
Every1 says so aswell, weird! When baby moves im like 'shes kicking', im forever saying she so if we find out tonight its a boy then ill have to get used to saying he LOL

Sharon x

Aww Sharon that's pants! We would've had this same problem if we went for a 3D scan as Neal didn't want to know but I did, that's why we decided not to find out, I knew I couldn't keep it a secret so it was easier that way - although every now & again I wish I had just found out You'll just need to twist Kev around you're little finger, put on the waterworks and I'm sure he won't be able to say no

Yup thats my plan Lynsey lol,
I WILL GET WHAT I WANT, ITS SOOO UNFAIR!! LOL

Bad Kev, he was ok til every1 keeps saying we should leave it a surprise, nosey ppl! lol

Sharon x

Hey hunni

You need to put it like this.... tell him that it is very important to you to find out the sex as you feel as though it will help you "bond" with the baby before it is here.. tell him its crucial that a mummy bonds with there bump and that you feel that if you knew the sex it would make you and bump closer as you could say he/she rather that "IT" which is horrible and possibly choose a name.

Worth a try hope it works because i want to know lol.. i still think pink! x x x

Hi Katie, hope your well xx
Yup im gona say all those things, i do genuinly think i will bond more knowing what the sex is, the name etc. I want to get to know her/him now.
Im still saying she/her lol.
You will all get a shock tonight when i log in and say 'ITS A BOY!' after me going on about it being a girl lol
Sharon x

I have no doubt you'll get what you want hunni By the way, I still think you've got the pink bump & I've got the blue one

Good luck, I hope you can persuade him! It's too late now for him to change his mind- that's too cruel! As has been said, finding out doesn't spoil the surprise of meeting your baby. We had a traditional "surprise" last time, and this time we both agreed (phew!) at the last minute to find out the sex. TBH before that I was a bit concerned it would take something of the experience away, but this hasn't been the case at all. Yes I know that we're having another boy, but I still don't know him and who he is actually is, and that's the main thing- the moment when you hold your baby and know God's given you the right person. That's the surprise- suddenly meeting your lo and finding out about them. The sex is such a small part of who they are.

I hope all goes well for you tonight xxx