Ok, I need the truth. Thismorning when I was getting up at 7 to start the daily ritual my OH said to me I need a lie in as he was nackered. Now normally on the weekend I feed the littlin at 7 and my OH takes him at half past while I have some time to myself and go for a run. Now as some of you will know we dont have family to help us out and I spend every second of my days with my littlin without a break so naturally look forward to the weekend when my OH can take him and give me a break. Now normally I wouldnt be bothered by him wanting a lie in but on Sundays he also goes off to play footie so in the course of the whole day, again I dont get a break from the littlin and he did the same last weekend but also spent the later afternoon in the pub watching footie.

Now our littlin isnt bad realy, hes 11 weeks and has been sleeping through the night since 8 weeks but for the last two weeks hasnt been sleeping in the day. So hes a bit of a grumpy bugger from about 12ish untill he goes down at 7 and trying to keep him contented means constant attention and picking up etc. After two weeks of this Im so shattered, especially as Im also doing driving lessons a few evenings a week. My OH doesnt seem to get how nackering this is. Am I a bitch for feeling Im doing this on my own. My OHs life doesnt seem to have changed. He still does fooite a couple of times a week, doesnt get home untill littlin is about to go down at 7 so its no major impact on him. I on the other hand miss the amount of running I used to do, and am so shattered from the 24/7 time with my littlin and no adult company. I feel so guilty, I love him to bits but its just not natural to do it like this. Am I a bitch for resenting the fact that my OHs life seems to be going on as normal but mine now revolves around our littlin. I dread the week now because I know its going to be another battle of trying to get our littlin to feed and sleep without success.

Am I just being a moany selfish cow? Please be honest

Don't you dare think you are selfish! I have exactly the same problem. Only my oh is on nights so i do all the morning day and night times feeds baths attention etc. I know exactly how you feel. I feel guilty sometimes as well cos i love little one but jus once in a while it would be nice for oh to say you have a lay in I'll feed lo and entertain her. My lo won't sleep in day either. Its very draining and everyday i feel more tired! Why can't there men jus help out a little more! Gr! xHugsx

YOU ARE NOT selfish, no way. I started to resent my oh he has cut down the time he goes out now and only goes out once a week for pool which was a compromise after a long discussion and he was happy to do this, and i go out once a week also. But what annoys me now is just the small things like he comes in from work plays with erin for 15-30 mins and then hands her to me and says i'm just going to have a shower and get changed, or he will just go outside do some gardening or clean his car and i think omg i want to just be able to do things on my terms when i feel like it, and on a good day i can do things when and as i want to do but on a bad day sometimes i can't even manage to get washed and dressed. One day i had a bath in the morning and still had a towel on my head when oh got home from work, lol!!

So in answer to your question you are definitely not moany bitch, try and talk to him about it he might not realise how your feeling, i think i need to do the same xx

I think i need to do the same as well! The only night i go out is a sunday and thats cos i work in a pub that night.

I think i need to do the same as well! The only night i go out is a sunday and thats cos i work in a pub that night.

hey babe its not too much to ask for a bit of help for your little one so next week tell him on wed that you are up to something (any thing will do ) on the sunday and he needs to stay home so he has warning to tell his mates he wont be at footy and go out on sunday for the whole day and i mean the whole day babe go shopping ,running ,swimming or catching up with friends for a meal and give him an idea what your day is like.... dont give him the choice tell him your doing it and get out the house as early as possible so he cant wear you down to let him go to footy....god it sounds like a war lol but sometimes you have to be fierce with men before they understand lol
as for running if you have a semi decent pram then run with the baby it might settle him during the day being out in the fresh air and if hubby sees you being pro active he might just pull his sox up a bit
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It's definitely not too much to ask - I know what you mean in that your OH life hasnt changed but yours has been turned upside-down. I feel the same. My oh is more tired than me as he works nights and Gabe sleeps 7-7 so I always get sleep but it is tiring in the day doing endless bottles and nappies, it can get so boring as I'm sure you know. x x

I think the thing that some men don't get is being a mum, you don't clock in and out. You're switched on 24/7 whether baby sleeps through or not. I often have to remind oh, that when he comes through the front door, his job is forgotten till the next day. Mine is never ending. And it doesn't get easier, the more active they get the harder simple tasks like going to the toilet, or making yourself a cup of tea become. And its not that we don't love being a mum, but every once in a while its great (and much needed) to just be you again.

Hope you can sort something out x x x

He does try most of the time but as you say for us its like being at work 24/7. You just never get the chance to switch off. We are trying to organise some stuff and he says he knows hes been crap this weekend and that he'll try harder. Now I feel guilty for making him feel useless.

I agree with what the others have said & defo dont feel guilty!

They (MEN) need a big kick up their arses at times - does them good!!

Hope you sort some me time this weekend x x