Hi everyone

Just another moan!!

This weekend was mean to be babydancing weekend, the first after the mc. I have tried not to put the pressure. But my oh couldn't perform, i tired not to get upset, but all he needs to do is produce the goods!!!

we had a chat found out that he was too busy concentrating on the baby making and not just making love.

just wonder if any of you had this problem?? and what can i do ???

Thanks mand

Aw hun sorry to hear that! Maybe you need to refocus. He obviously feels under some amount of pressure. I try not to tell my H when I am ovulating unless he asks. We usually just BD reasonably frequently from last day of bleed until first. MNaybe you need to put some fun back in, cook him a nice meal play some romantic music. Make it about the two of you rather than the creation of a child. Maybe try some naughty undies! Hope you are ok xx

Hi

I could have written your post myself as I have had exact same this month - i think to be honest we have totally missed my ovulation time this month and inside I feel so resentful! 20 Sep this month would have been our EDD but i m/c in feb at 12 wks. I just want him to make as much effort as I do but I think at times he just can't be bothered. Does your oh talk about prev m/c?

Hi

Everone

last night had a talk about the problem, and that I felt frusted that he couldn't produce the goods, He felt pressured to perform, tried to make he less pressurised, but I think i have missed out this month :(

I don't think he realise that that i was still upset from the mc, and how important it was to get pg again. That all I have been focusing on...maybe should focus something else???

I did try to make it romantic nice dinner, candle lit bath etc....maybe next month won't tell him when i am ov.

Aw mate, I know what you mean about having to re-focus. I had to do this after my mc. so I booked a holiday. I just needed something else to look forward to and not keep remembering that I should be x number of weeks pg by now and it would have been a scan this week or telling people that week. I have forced myself back into a very relaxed state this month. AF is due next week I believe and I am already having period pains. I am ready for her. At least it means I won't be 6 months pg on a ski slope in January lol! Get yourself something to look forward to, it really works, especially if it is something you can both look forward to. Big hugs, hope your ok

thanks socks, yes me oh do want to go america next year tour west coast, maybe that kept my mine off the pg...feel abit better today

So book it! How exciting, if you have to rearrange the plans slightly then so be it but don't put your life on hold it makes it so much harder to deal with. I am glad you are feeling much better today. You are bound to have good days and bad days, I do. It is tough and no one can appreciate that unless they have been through it. Have some happy days though xx Life is too short xx

yes, it is hard tell people have you feel, many forget you had mc and just carry on as normal, even my oh forgets sometimes, but it is my head every day...hopefully nxt cycle will take it a bit easier...good luck to you sock x

And to you hun xx we are all here for you if you need us x

I've been there! My oh was non-stop asking for sex until we decided to try for baby number two (number one preg had been an accident...no need to perform!) He suddenly started feeling too tired for it in the evenings! I confonted him with it and asked him if he really wanted another child. He was rather shocked as he hadn't realised what was happening to him! Turned out he didn't like the idea of 'trying' for a baby, and would have rather not known I wanted to get prego! Anyway it took us eight months to get there! Stangely enough, the next time I just mentioned that I was off the pill and we'd see what happened and it didn't even hit home with him so off course I got pregnant straight away!