I don't think this is normal and I think it is bordering on obbsession! My MIL is obsessed with my baby. It is not her first grandchild (3rd) and I thought she was a bit loopy over the first, but gosh, she's worse with Lily and I can't take anymore.

When Lily was 4 days old they came to visit (her and partner). They live almost 3 hours away. We had to put them off coming sooner as they wanted to come the very next day and hubby and I didn't want this. When they arrived Lily was asleep and they wanted me to wake her. I said no as she had had a bad night and had not slept (neither had I!). So they sulked. Well Lily didn't wake up the whole time they were here - I couldn't do anything about it! They wanted pictures of her with them and she HAD to have her eyes open. Again they said wake her so we can have her eyes open on the picture. Hubby said no and just let them hold her and asked them not to prod her awake! They still tried to wake her by jigging her about a bit though. Anyway, while they had lunch they stood over her carry cot -eating- and watching her and prodding her! I was livid! They used up a 35 film camera plus god knows how many on the digital camera of her asleep! They moaned that she hadn't woken up and told us we MUST send pics of her awake.Before they came she asked us if we wanted anything in particular buying for Lily so we said some pink sleepsuits and cuddlerobes. She bought neither instead bought lots of clothes from next that Lily has hardly worn. She bought something someone else had got us but in a larger size and she saw it in the wardrobe and thorugh a wobbler! Saying she would take hers back!

MIL rings/texts all the time and is a pain. I'm sick of her. She texts and asks if Lily has poooed or if I've been to clinic to have her weighed or have I gone for a walk with her today! She also rings when we are bathing her despite us saying don't ring around 7pm! I'm sure she does it on purpose.
Today we get a letter '' for ''Lily saying she's coming to stay next week!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hubby insists he knwos nothing about it and is realy cross with her. She sent more clothes through the post and they are things we have already got but we dare not tell her or she will sulk again! We can't win.

Ok moan over. I just don't think her behaviour is normal???/

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.....and breathe! Your oh is going to have to have some stern words with her. Don't allow her to spoil this special time Honey!

All the best, Denise xx

Oh my god, you poor thing. That sounds like a nightmare. Are you going to let her stay with you? I'd get hubby to call and say it's really not convenient when you're getting into a routine etc.

My MIL is completely the opposite, she is obsessed with SILs daughter, but not fussed at all about our little man. In fact, when they were due to come and meet him at 2 weeks old, SILs daughter had chicken pox and they said they would still come as they were sure it would be fine! No way! So we told them the midwives advised no way as he could get brain damage if he got it, and they got all stroppy and told us we were irrational, and SIL sent hubby a really spiteful text.

MIL still came, but her and FIL spent the whole 3 hour visit trying to make us feel guilty about it throwing things in our face! How dare they?!

Anyway, sorry for going on, but in laws just never fail to amaze me!

Hope you can get her sorted out, could you try horribly offending her? hehe.
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What is it about people picking up sleeping LOs? When Gabe was about 4 weeks old he was asleep in his carseat. I said to my dad that the carseat just clips onto the pushchair so there was no need to wake him. Dad heard - but "pretended" not to and picked him up. I had to laugh. So sneaky! But not nearly as bad as your inlaws!
I would never let someone wake Gabe so I know how you feel. I have never ever woke up up unless I have an appointment & mil not around to watch him. Never even woke him for a dreamfeed!

I have no idea why people buy clothes for newborns. Gabe lived in sleepsuits for the first 2 weeks!

I feel so lucky I had major concerns about my MIL before Lily arrived so my OH set her straight before Lily was born- thank goodness. They live 5 hrs away too and so have only seen her twice in 6 weeks both times were bareable although she did kinda take control when they first came but her heart was in the right place.
My mum though is another matter!!!

My Lo's grand-dad from her Dad's side has never seen her or even rung or emailed to ask how she is doing. As far as I know he hasn't even seen a picture of her and has no desire to. I think that's almost as wierd as your MIL's reaction. It's like the 2 extremes of extreme grand-parenting! Lol

Some people seem more "baby" than others, I think that is normal.
What makes me laugh is my oh uncle's girlfriend lol. She had a lo 8 months ago and she always says to me "OK I hated it when people kissed my baby all the time but Im going to kiss Gabriel ok???" LOL!!! And "I really hated it when people touched my bump but I'm going to touch yours!"

I needed to get that off my chest! LOL.

She always has been a pain. I showed hubby the letter when he got home from work and he was really cross. He has promised to speak to her about it (again). He has finally realised she has a problem! He's said he's not letting her come and was quite miffed she tried to invite herself by 'writing' to Lily. Hubby has spoken to her before we had Lily but it obviously didn't sink in. I don't mean to be ungrateful about the clothes but she doesn't listen to us. She has to out-do what everyone else bought for Lily, it's weird. We don't mention what people have bought for her now as we know she'll sulk about it!

She has downloaded pictures of Lily onto her work computer (shared by other people too) and I don't like this. She shows random people them when they come into her office too. It makes me feel uncomfortable.

Tiger Lily - she had a weird thing about my belly while pregnant. She kept asking to see pictures of my bump and when she visitied she would grope it without asking. Urgh.

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