hello im kay im 20 years old and im 4 months pregnant!

just wounder if any one had the same problems as me with people telling you what u can and can not do, wat you should and shouldn't eat it drives me mad!! :x
i no people are only helping me but it makes me feel like i should b wrapped in bubble wrap!! also some people give me nasty looks and make rude remarks like one women said really loud so every one could hear " kids having kids thats not right her mum should have locked her in her room and not let her out stupid girl" and then the other lady turnt and said she wont no what to do with her self when the babys born "
i felt like screaming at this old lady and asking her who the hell she thinks she is,
who do some people think they are !!!

Hi,

I'm 19 & nearly 10 weeks pregnant!!

I've had a similar comment off a stupid receptionist, on the phone, mine was... " o, your pregnant, your only 19? Still a baby yourself then!! " I was fuming!!! I've been with my partner for over 2 years, we have bought our own house earlier this year, we both have cars, good jobs etc... so I wouldnt really class that as being a baby!!

I think just ignore them! && prove them wrong!! Alot of us young mum's (to be) will make a million times better parents than alot of older people!! So these judgemental people need to get a grip, && realise that it's the 21st century!!!

I hope your pregnancy is going well.

Vikki
9+4 x

hiya im 25+3wks and 17 yrs young, i hate it whwn oldies do that, i hate it when they stare at my bump and give me dirty looks, however a few times ive had people smile at me. i cant wait for my little one to arrive and to be totally honest ive learned to ignore them now at least im happy is all i think, and at least my baby was planned not like most people my age. good luck with the harsh comments. katie xx

Hi,

I myself was /am (!!) a young mum. I am 25 and my eldest is almost 7, so I know exactly how people treat you and it is awful.

Its not fair to stereotype anyone coz there are so many young mums out there doing a much better job than women 10 or 20 years older.

I was so pleased to watch a documentry the other night (no clue what it was called- found it while flicking!!) which showed a young mum of 16 who was a GREAT mum- she had a really supportive family who would have done it all for her but she seemed to want to look after her baby herself. It makes such a change from the young mums mansion type shows which make young mums look bad.

I personally wouldn't let anyone talk to me like that as they have no right I would ask them who they think they are to judge me when they don't know anything about me.

As for that receptionist I would make a complaint- that would teach her a lesson.

Young mums are not second class citizens

Agreed! I think i saw that program... was it something like Kizzy (or Kezzy or Kazzy) mum at 14?

I thought she was fantastic. She didn't rely on her mum and dad for much, if anything and its not as if she acted like she was a little slutty mother type or anything. Fair play to her. I was far too immature at 14 but she seems to have done well for herself.

xxx

Im sophie im 19 and 30 weeks pregnant with number 2! I had dd when i was 17 and was always getting nasty comments from old biddies and busy bodies who thought they had a right to comment on my life! Fair enough my dp and i hadnt been together very long (3months!!) but we were/are madly in love and in what we would call a stable relationship. We have now been together 3 years and have recently just built our own house. Unfortunately my dp was made redundant 3 months ago but luckily he managed to find a better paid job within a week! I look a lot older then 19 (all those sleepless nights lol) so i dont really get too many 'evils' (how vicky pollard is that lmao!) anymore but people have always got something to say about me being so heavily pregnant with no.2 while dd is still so young (19 months) even a midwife said i was mad having 2 so close together at such a young age, how dare she! People have always got an opinion especially when it comes down to young parents, dont let them get to you they have no right to judge you. Just smile sweetly and say 'and how old were you when you had children, were they planned?!' Or ask where their children are/what are they up to while your showing such interest in a random strangers life!' that one always works! hee hee! xx

yea ive had it all
i had my daughter at 17 and yes still a baby myself very young but wouldnt change it
im now 21 and people still think im young to have a 3 1/2 year old which yes i am but i think ive done the best by my daughter
she starts school next year and its so strange as especially being young still

i have had comments, looks and all that but i dont care they can carry on im happy so is my daughter and my partner
i do think alot of time people really arent looking at you and you might think they are looking down on you or they might just think you have a gorgeous baby and i find that most people really dont care
i see alot of 15 years pregnant or with kids its sad sometimes as they have all their life to have kids but i dont stare or really care as thats their choice

I was 18 when I had my son. Had only been with my partner 3 months also when we found out we where expecting him.
My parents where supportive but, 'outsiders' gave the funny looks and whispers.
However those comments havn't stopped, hes 4 in Jan and I still have the funny looks and when telling him off in the street for running off, older ladies telling me I/my partner shouldn't be threatening him at that age.
Did she know how old he was? Did she know why he was being told off? Nope. Even my mum wouldn't tell me not to tell him off.

I don't understand why people feel the need to judge, it's not like young mums are unable to cope. We mature quicker and learn to cope.

I'm now 22 and have baby 3 on the way.

i just think people are rude!! and need 2 keep there big nose out! now i just dont listen ! im happy im pregnant and they dont even know what my lifes about so the cant judge me !!!

Hi. Im 23 , from worksop nr sheffield, and pregnant with my first baby. I had a miscarriage in feb and was utterly heartbroken. People have commented, this time and the last on me being a young mum. I was only with my partner 5 months when i got caught the first time and family were very unsure it was a good decision. We have bought our own house and both have good jobs. It still doesnt seem to stop people sticking their noses in. I hate that fake pity people give you when it all goes wrongand you miscarry. People seem to forget you have feelings and just see you as another statistic. I even had one man say that it 'cant be that bad because i hadnt given birth to it'. As though its like you dont miss what you never had. Cheeky git!

kay 9+1d

hay everyone im 27 weeks pregnant my baby due in 13 weeks on 16th november im only 17 and i hate it when older people look at me with dirty looks as to say i put it about or dont deserve to be a mum the thing is tho i planned my pregnancy with my partner of nearly 2 years yeah im younge but we feel ready for her and i cant wait to meet her weve decided to name her victoria theresa stanford i just wanna let girls no my age that its ok to have kids younge dont worry what people think or say at end of day as lmg as your happy why bother what they say good luck everyone on your prgnancys x x x

Hi All,

Im 21 and baby is due 30th August. This is my first one. I havent really heard any nasty comments but I always feel that people are staring at me and judging me, then I end up thinking am I too young to be having a baby.

When I say anything people just tell me I am being stupid, even one of my bosses said its better that I have age on my side the older you get the harder it gets both with the pregnancy and keeping up with baby and the sleepless nights, I thought that was quite nice of her to say.

Take care everyone

Rachel

hi evryone

am 18 and 9 weeks pregnant. it really annoys me when people say oh your only young you have the rest of your life for a baby. just because i'm young doesn't mean i can provide for my child and love it , older people just assume that because i'm young i can't do either of these.

keep well everyone xx

hi everyone, this is the first time i've come on this topic, been posting in the pregnancy forum as i never really considered myself a young mum even though i'm 21...have a mortgage, car, really good job etc but i know what u mean about the whole 'still a baby' thing...my parents have been amazing but everyone else in my family still live in the olden days and want me to be married and about 10 years older etc...my oh is 26 so i don't feel it's the wrong time to have children as we want quite a big family and we haven't had to rely on anyone for what we have but we're lucky because my parents are so excited they've gone over the top with buying and have bought our cot/nursery furniture and tons of clothes but we didn't need them to or even ask them to! i keep getting nasty remarks off my nan cuz she thinks we won't manage and when i was really bad with morning sickness i told her i couldnt go in my kitchen in the morning cuz just the thought of food being near me made me sick and she said "how do u expect to keep a child well fed when you cant even feed yourself" can u believe that?! i was upset for days! anyway i'll stop writing my essay lol...hope ur all ok!

Jenny 38+5...9 days to go!!! x

thanku 2 every 1 on ur coments !!! i dont listen 2 wat ppl half 2 say!! im happy thats all that matters!!! but the more my bump grows the more nasty looks i get but i like my baby bump its well cute so who gives a flying cow!!! :)

I'm 26, and i have a 6 year old, a 3 year old, and one on the way. I do look really young for my age, and occasionally used to get funny looks when out, people asking if i was babysitting etc. But i think the worst thing i've put up with was when i was 17, i had a miscarriage, and the nurse who did the scan and told my my baby had gone said to me that considering my age, it was probably the best outcome and i could get on with my life now! At the time i just lie there, but if someone said that to me now i'd probably hit them!! I hate it when people judge without even asking you for your side of the story. And actually the human body is designed to carry babies in your late teens and early twenties. So we did it right!

Im 17 yrs old, and just begun to get my bump.
And some of the looks i get!
it actually makes me feel ashamed, even though im really proud!
I can understand that i dont exactly look my age, at all.
But that doesnt mean that im 'a whore'
AND i do know who the dad is cause im still bloody with him and have been for 3 yrs!
People dont actually know who you are, your cicumstances, your personality, or your life, but yet they're willing to pass a quick judgement, hoping you wont say anything back, but ive put many people in their places about this and all of them felt very bad afterwards.

If someone does say something again, dont just sit back, especially if you heard every last word, you tell them you heard them and you think that they're appauling and need to keep their sick thoughts to themselfs!

xxxxxxxxxxxxx goodluck!! Kat- 23 weeks (a little boy)

I didn't experience it much when I had my baby, but when I was 16 my sister was born and I got all the looks/comments etc from old women when out. My Mum used to go mad and make really loud remarks back about how rude they were. One woman once purposefully rammed her shopping trolly into me.

To be honest im 20,
i expected comments of people about been so young.
Iv only had a few, my answer is always the same- Im young, I have lot's of energy, me and my partner have such a loving relationship...and if we have our babies early then atleast when our babies are all grown up we will still be able to have our own life's cuz we will be in our 40's.

if some old lady rammed her trolley into me, or made a loud remark like 'her mother should have locked her up' i dont know how id control myself! im 18and 32 weeks pregnant and every1 is saying just rise above it and prove them wrong but i just think it is so rude that they think they can talk down about us just as they are a bit older?? ive been with my fiance a while and we have our own house and jobs so i dont see how i can be judged as incompetent just because of my age, i think the fact that im still young enough to run around after my kids while i still have the energy is a bonus, wouldnt you agree? i think its fair that someone would judge me for smoking whilst pregnant or going to the pub (drinking coke though!), but that should be for any pregnant woman and not just because of my age its unfair that they stereotype me, just because im a teenager doesnt mean im a lout or a bad mum !

sorry just needed the rant ive been dying to get that off my chest

tinkerbell x x x

hello x aww i knw tell me about it i am like size 0 and eva one starting give me werid looks as starting to get a bumb and loads girls calling me a slag and someone said u dont even look like can look after ur self wounder wat be like when the baby comes

its stupid i think most people have children young soo i dont care what people say aslong u got ur family and mates to surpport u tht all u need

there probley jelouse tht all us make better preants than they were

soz bout spelling x

luv danielle x