hi, im 37 weeks today with my first a little girl! i split with the father in january, and ever since he has not payed a penny, and made everything difficult for me by sending stupid rediculous text messages that really get me down, and we have had many arguements through out the pregnancy, he hasnt been to any antenatal appointments or scans! im 17 so my mum has been helping me out alot financially! i just dont know what to do when baby comes, should i let the father see her? i know when he starts paying CSA, he isnt going to give me and the baby any addtional money, so i dont really see the point in him having anything to do with her, he hasnt helped out in any way! i just dont know what to do.
i suppose im thinking il stop him from seeing her because i think it will hurt him!

hi hun. by the sounds of it he doesn't want to see her anyway.
see what happens once she's born.
what does your mum say about the situation?
either way...your going to have a gorgeous baby girl very soon and you will have the most amazing bond...and even if he does decide to suddenly get involved...that will never change.
if i was you, i would give him a chance to see her if he wants, as he is her father, but it be on your terms. get any agreements you make in writing, and if he lets her down...log it in a book, keep everything logged, just incase he ever goes through court.
as for his text messages..pay no attention, he's doing it coz he knows your vulnerable at the mo and that it'll affect you.
good luck with the birth hun. let me know how it goes.
xxx