I am pro choice too.

I've actually had an abortion before, when I was a lot younger. I have no regrets at all, I know for me it was the right thing to do at that time.

Now I'm older and feel ready to give a baby the love and support it needs, as well as being in a stable relationship and mentally and financially stronger, having a baby is the right thing for me to do now.

It's different for everyone and their own circumstances.

i think the gestational age should be closer to 12 weeks - sorry but there is NO excuse for not noticing you're pregnant for 3 months...

I'm supportive of abortions in that if I hadn't been in a stable relationship/stable career I would not have continued with this pregnancy, simply because if you can't support yourself, you can't support a child and that's no way to bring a child up...

Luckily for us we were in a position to continue and we were both delighted (and slightly shocked) when we found out about our LO at 7 weeks!

i think it all depends on ur situation are you ready or wat cuz if your not and you dont want it youll now wat to do if you av any doubt of wat it oud be like to be a mther keep the baby bcuz dats your heart tryin t tell u sutin!!!!

im pro i had an abortion it was very hard and i did have councelling but i was just not ready finacially or emoitionally also it was due to the pill that failed on me,

i think it depends on your situation and i coudlnt brin a child into the world that i wasnt ready for it wouldnt have ben fair, but it i think about it alot specially now im pregnant, but i was lucky and have alot of support from my family and nurse.

I dont agree with people using it as a form of contaception and i agree with the limit being taken down to 12 weeks.

Ooh this is a difficult 1.

Personally for me I was dead against abortion I hated the thought of it and couldnt understand how people could kill babies.

Then I fell pregnant and everything changed, I was no longer sure that abortion was such a bad thing, the baby was not planned and contraception was being used. It could not have come at a worse time for me, I was living with my mum, upto my eyeballs in debt due to my twat of an ex and did not feel like I could give my baby the life it deserved.

I asked my OH whether he thought we should have the baby or not, I told him why I did not think we should have it and he agreed with me. Really I think I was just looking for approval from someone and that I only told him the reasons for not having the baby because I wanted someone to tell me that what I was doing was OK, as deep down I must still have felt that what I was thinking about doing was wrong.

I could not go through with it, I couldnt even get as far as making an appointment with the Dr to be referred for the abortion. Turns out though that OH wanted the baby all along he just wanted to support and be there for me so agreed with what I was saying, I wish he would have told me what was on his mind, as it was our baby not just mine.

We are looking forward to meeting our baby, she is due to be here on 30th August but already I cant even bear to think how different things could have been.

So really I guess it comes down to personal choice and circumstance. But again I agree that the time in which abortion should be allowed should be reduced.

im pro if for the right reasons
if its used as contraception like people thinking 'oh if i get pregnant ill just abort it' then no thats wrong
if you feel its not for the best and your doing it for the right reasons then why thats fine
at the end of the day its whats best for the baby
if i got pregnant now no i wouldnt keep it but im doing what i can stop it happening
but i couldnt cope with 2 and dont want to im in no rush for more kids
i also have a disabled daughter it would not be right to have another yet nor for at least 5 years!
its everything own choice and right to choose what they do and its wrong to judge because its not something you believe in

I'm Con.

I've had a few people close who have had them.
My sister-in-laws to be:
The youngest, my age. Shes had about 4/5, since the age of 15. All of them where the same guys, the same one she was going to marry a few years back. She was on the pill from the age of 15 as well.
Another, while i was preg with my daughter actually had a 'miscarrage' which we later found out from a family member, she had an abortion. Saying this, she made the family feel guilty.At a funeral (i would of been 16 wks preg) she cried patting her tum.
What I don't understand, if your going to act like that, why bother doing it in the first place. I have no sympathy for my Sil2b's.

I do feel for those who think they've done the right thing, then have to live with regret.

Lucky when i went to have my first 'you are pregnant congrats' checkup, the doc asked if I wanted to terminate and my mum said no shes keeping it. She said when I was having my daughter, it never crossed her mind I felt different.

I am actually neither.

I am a firm believer in it being up to the person and what is right for them

HOWEVER..

It was in the paper the other day that now in this country you can register a birth if you have a miscarraige as opposed to a still birth..

So, will this make the limit of viability a problem if a baby before 24 weeks can now be registered as born.

I had an abortion at 17, i was in a relationship, when we split up we'd been together for just over 3 years. It took a lot of thought from the both of us, it wasnt an easy decision. Neither of us were ready, we didnt have the money, we were both still in college and just didnt feel it was right at the time, and ive never regretted it.

Allthough after having my daughter in july its made me realise i could never do it again, shes so precious. Allthough i dont regret my choice as its in the past and id never be where i am today, i could never go through that again, being a parent you realise how wonderful they are.

I am pro choice. I don't think i could have one myself, but it would completely depend on my situation. Things happen in life that i feel make abortion "okay" per say. I don't feel that people who have abortions should be penalised in anyway for this, i have a friend that had an abortion, and i don't think any less of her for doing so.

I agree with kayleyandharry - the laws should be changed in regards to when an abortion should be performed. I really disagree with it being 24 weeks.

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pro choice here..i had one at 15 and was 16 weeks and didnt regret it as at the time it was the best thing for me... im now 19 married and sat cuddling my 9 day old little girl who is my absolute world.. ironically my daughter was born on the day the first baby would have been due 3 years earlier..
choice is a persons right.. although anything above 16 weeks is wrong as i found it very hard to deal with afterwards and when i was pregnant with my little girl i felt her move at just after 17 weeks..
xx

Had a long storey here - for thos of you who read it, I have decided to remove it.

Everyone is entitled to their own choice, as they are the ones who have to live with the consequences

[Modified by: Tammybee on October 15, 2008 05:01 PM]

I am also very pro choice. Some would say I am wrong for saying this but having an abortion at 18 was one of the best decisions I ever made. I was with a scummer of a bloke and was in no way ready for a baby. I think that as long as you are supported in your choice, and it is just that, your choice, then you have to do whats best for you.

Im with you all the way, i also had one at 18 and dont regret it one little bit. I would never have met my oh and have my 2 lovely boys if id kept it x

to youngmomma21....
i am also a christian like youself, i believe its wrong
not to offend anyone but its a life! a gift from God & there ARE other options!
i also know someone who unfortunatly had two abortions & has since became a christian & been blessed with 3 beautiful children! but she does regret the choices she made & the reasons behind them.
your friend has to forgive herself, jesus died for us once & for ALL time, he forgives her, but she has to forgive herself! the aborted baby is with Christ!! i cant imagine how she feels, i can understand tho. please encorage her to let it go (as im sure you do) otherwise it will pull her down always, we make mistakes, we are not perfect thats why the Lord done what he done for us!!

im blessed with a beautiful little boy, my 2nd baby is due today, i have a wonderful husband who also loves the lord & im very blessed not to have been in that situation!
i can see how & why women think its they're choice & they're right but i really dont believe that is the case.

I personally am not religious so do not believe in the tales about jesus dying and coming back to life etc, i mean come on! As someone who has had an abortion i feel no guilt and no regret, i feel no need to be forgiven and no need to feel that it is with christ or whatever. Abortion is a real and physical issue, not a fantasy like religion, and in my opinion the 2 should be kept apart. I also do not want to offend but to me it was not a life it was an inconvenience. Its very good for people to say, "theres always adoption etc", but i didnt want to be pregnant or give birth so that was not an option for me.I made the right choice and will never feel guilt tripped into feeling bad by do gooders or god botherers, although i respect you have a right to your opinion obviously x

i am sorry if my opinions have caused any offense, i certainly dont wish to do so. i would never & haven't ever tried to guilt trip any one. i dont judge people that have or will have abortions. i guess my opinion on the subject is a strong one. the lady i spoke about is very close to me & i realise that 99.9% of people dont make the decision on a whym. my comments on christianity were more to the lady who started the topic as she herself said she has the same beliefs & they were not to offend or aggrivate any one.

You didnt cause offence you are entitled to your opinion, i didnt mean to come across as if i was mocking your beliefs, they just weren't relevant to me as i follow no religion. Didnt mean to sound nasty sorry if i did, i understand that you have a negative view towards the issue due to your beliefs which is fine and i perfectly understand why others are against it too, but i do think that abortion does have a place, if used correctly,in todays society x

hey no worries! ,
just didnt want to seem as if i condem anyones choice, like the subject says 'touchy subject'
i guess its something that we (people in general that is) will always have conflicting opinions on!

I would never have an abortion myself, and wunt even need to think about having one. I see it as at the end of the day it aint the baby's fault, and it has a heartbeat.