I feel lost for ideas of what to do with harry all day as my friends are at work...and even if they werent they dont have babies! Do you all have lots of mummy mates? (i dont as you may guesse!) x

Hi i dont!I do have my sis but she lives afew miles away so i go over once a wk so Benji can play with Jack(her 13mth old)Benji is 11mths!otherwise he wouldnt see other babies as we dont go to any mother toddler groups!!!!!,otherwise we play,though he is happy to just entertain himself by crawling around or in his walker!we go for walks,more so i can get out in the fresh air,go on park..when weather permits!watch baby tv!and for my sanity I come on here lol!it can and does get tedious at home all day,though i have just started to go back to work part time so i shouldnt be on here now lol!had to really as needed the pennies and being at home too much was beginning to grate!

I have to keep busy or i think i would get cabin fever. Mondays we go to Jo Jingles music group and then go for lunch with the mums and babies from there. Tuesdays we don't have any groups but always doing something, painting, baking go feed the duck, walk in the park, play dress up or have friends over etc, wednesday afternoons is swimming, thursdays my older child goes to nursery and me and my youngest go to tumble tots and on fridays i host a coffee morning for local mums and babies. There is so much going on for babies and new mums and think having children in common is such an easy way to make friends x

i always thought that would be the case but i'm not all that outgoing myself and when i did start going to groups i found each time i was the youngest mum there (i'm 22) and most other mums werent easy to talk to so i found them boring and didnt go back. i've started swimming with harry once a week and when the weathers good we go to the park...i just feel everything is a bit mundane now, my job at the moment is washing up...i'm so fed up of washing up!! Harry's only 7months so we cant do dressing up, cooking etc... i still spend half my time rolling around the floor with him tho lol. i'm just stuck for cheap things to do to keep my sanity!! xxx

try www.netmums.com to find other mums in your area, maybe you could find some mummies to meet up with/ have coffee (i love it!)
its hard with a 7mo old coz they can't really do that much, i'd really recommend trying more baby groups, we go to 'bounce and rhyme' at the library since he was little that might be worth a look (and its free) most softplay area's are free for under 1's and might also run toddler sessions!

we do park on wednesday, playgroup thursday, coffee morning friday, visit library once a week (he loves his books)
i'm trying to get my garden sorted so he can play out there when its nice, we have a swing that is yet to be assembled (!!!)

btw with my first i didn't do any of that and didn't really know anyone, i know how lonely and boring it is being stuck at home. it's only since ds1 has started nursery and have made friends with nursery mums who also have l/o's that i've started doing things! (sad i know) and finding netmums has helped me loads too, even if its just to chat online with other mummies!

hope that helps hun xx.
p.s if you've got msn i'll give you my addy if you like?

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I am at home with my daughter and we play for most of the day. I make a point of going out every day either to the park or the shops, so long as she gets fresh air. I sit and read with her, we sing (badly) and she loves to jiggle around. We have a ball pit which is the best money I ever spent as she has never tired of it. I did find the repetition was driving me crazy some days but kept reminding myself it wasn't about me. She is quite content to sit and play quietly on her own and I think she looks forward to her time. I was feeling very isolated for the first 6-7months during the week, but joined tumble tots and now have other Mummy friends of my own and she has friends also. I only keep that one morning as a structured routine, but we've been to soft play, swimming, library. My lo is now 17months old and is such a happy contented & very sociable little girl. There are lots more activities we can do now she is older which does make it easier and a bit more fun for my hubby, especially as I'm due in about 6-7weeks again.
It all comes together, and the simple things are always best.
Ell x

One of the best things a did was join the NCT, its a great way to meet new mums and everyone is so welcoming, There is a huge age range of mums and babies (i'm 27 and my little ones are 2 & a half and 9months) they don't just have coffee mornings but also organise great days out with all the children and also mums nights out from time to time too, x

I think now all my mates have babies.
Most my old friends from where i grew up dont have kids but now a days i only really speak to them on the phone as im over 200 miles away, i have moved a few times since my son was born and each time i move one of the first things i do is join the local mother and toddler groups that way all the friends that i have are mums so we can do all the same things and they also understand when you need to cancel at the last min because of something child related x

hi. when i had my first child, i found all my mates kept their distance, as if to say oh your a mum now and thats too exclusive for us, so we never met up as much as we did before. 5 kids on and i have quite a good day to day social net work of mums things to do and meeting up places.
i have 6 school runs to do every day for school and nursery so that does take alot of my time up as i walk every where, but in between, i go to my local sure start family center , i am chair person at my local mother and toddler group, where i go 2 times a week, i go to my local library for story time, meet up with new friends i have made since being a mum. so i can say that i am very busy. and in between all that i look after my house and cook a meal every night. so my days are pretty full.
it can be hard to find things to do when you become a mum , your life and social life totally change an dit can be hard to get into all that . but when you do it's all worth it. xxxx

well my eldest is 5 and at school and my son is 2 but when school starts again they have toddler sessions at the trinity church down from where i live its just on a wednesday so im going to take him there as im due to have my 3rd in 12 days the a yr in september my son will be starting nursery at my eldests school but the cost of childcare now a days in more than an average weeks wage so many mums stay at home and look after the children, i dont make friends very easily im 30 yrs old and im dreading trying to mix in with other parents with the toddler group

ive moved 150 miles away from all my f&f all know up here is MIL. I joined my local Surestart - they are fantastic and it gets us out of the house and the kids active and socialised. And its all free!!

Elaine xx

We´re lucky enough to be in Spain so I take the kids swimming every day, to the beach or my 4 year old loves the driving range!Its such a different way of life and the weather does make all the difference.Even so I still spend the good majority washing clothes,cleaning the house and running after them,just like before! In England I spent most of the day watching baby TV though one thing Spain doesnt have is as much choice for mum and baby activity clubs.Im a young mum and I also found that I didnt connect quite so well with some of the mums at tumble tots and nursery school.Luckily a few of my friends had babies of a similar age.

Hi, just wanted to say thanks to mumto2 for suggesting mumsnet.org. I 've just been on the site and found quite a few people in my area. There isn't 1 person on this site in my area and it's just nice to speak to people who know what your going on about sometimes! lol xx