Hi everyone - sorry but i just have to tell somebody this because i could explode!!!!!!!!!!! Earlier today the in-laws came round to see our baby son - i dont have a problem with that at all, they rang first to make sure we weren't busy, sleeping etc which i know was pretty good of them!
Anyway, they'd been here for about 1/2 hour when my son decided he needed feeding - i got myself covered with a blanket cos i didnt really want them seeing my boobs and started to feed.
All was going well til my son got a bit restless, as he's MY son and i know him well I knew that it was only because he was a bit windy and needed to burp. (sorry I'm droning on here i know!!)
At this point my father in law told me that he didnt think i was "holding my son in the right breastfeeding position" and that was why he was restless!!!!!! WHAT!!!!
Number 1 - who does he think he is????
Number 2 - how many kids has he breastfed!!!!!!!
This is my second baby - i fed my daughter for 6 months and my son is now 8 weeks old and is the happiest baby ever so i think im doing something right!!!
I am just soooooooo mad - i know the hormones arent helping but aaaaaaahhhhhhh!
Does anyone else have inlaws like mine?!!

I do! But usually they only have a go at my OH and not me as they know better lol! I do know how you feel.

Well i'm sure my F-I-L waite til he left the room!!!!
Glad its not just me who has awful inlaws! They were lovely and we got on really well til i had their grandchildren!!

Hmmm, my in laws would come and stand over me and watch (gringe) I hated it, then as soon as dd had finished and I was winding her, they'd swoop in and take her off me. Fortunately I have small boobs so there wasn't much to see, but thats not the point! :)

When I was trying to learn to breast feed (weaning son who was in special care from tube feeds to breast) so very sensitive time my fil walked into hosp room. I was horrified as almost topless and my oh sent him away. He stood in the door way and said 'It's ok, I'm not embarrassed. I don't mind'.
YES BUT I DID!!!!
Why do they think it's all about them. I will never forgive him for that. Ohhh don't get me started x

Hi sorry, I'm sure it was awful at the time and I have had annoying comments from my in laws with all 3 of mine but your post just made me laugh!! Did you say anything to him? I probably wouldn't have at the time but after thought of loads to say such as "can you show me the right position then?" or "oh and how long did you breastfeed your children for?"
Actually I am mainly laughing because having done breastfeeding courses and bf my first 2, my 3rd lo just wasn't putting on weight and still hadn't regained her birth weight at 3 weeks old so my hubby (who has always been really supportive with all my bf problems and came along to see bf counsellors etc so does actually know quite a bit about bf now!) kept telling me to change position and feed in the rugby position. I really didn't want to and so didn't for days then gave in and tried it and she put on 2oz a day for the next 2 weeks! At 15 months she still feeds like that now!
Anyway, I can just imagine him saying that to his daughter in law in 20 years time!! xx

i do. they were fine until i had their grandchild too. now they just grate on my nerves. if somebody just mentions them coming to visit or even worse me visit them. i get a funny knot in my stomach and suddenly feel a bit sick?! you would think i was making it up?! i wouldnt dare tell my husband.

my grandmother in law is just like that i have to prepare myself if she is coming for a visit lol. she just keeps on and on about the same things how i am such a bad parent for not giving my lo a dummy, how i should be giving him water with sugar in it instead of breast milk and how shoicking it is that he sleeps on his back. she wont just say it and be done but just keeps going. my fil confessed that he had the same conversations with her when my oh was a baby and that he used to get into big rows with her about it so its nice to know im not alone. on the positive side my mil and fil are brill

This thread has made me laugh - my mil came into the hospital room the day after I'd given birth to my lo by section. I was feeling really sore and although delighted with my little bundle was feeling quite hemmed in (tiny room) and overwhelmed by all the people that were in and out to visit me and Reiss.

Mil came out with the fact that she was disappointed it wasn't a girl as she wanted one and asked me if I was! She then went on to say that my belly was so big I looked as though I had another one in there!

My 17yr old dd was nearly rolling on the floor with laughter/mortification as she could see the look on my face.

My fil probably still doesn't know he has a new grandson as he never bothers to contact us and my sil still hasn't been to visit our baby - despite the fact he is now 5 weeks old and she lives a mile up the road!

Families huh - can I go back and choose mine again?!xx

oh god Karen, I can sympathise with that one.
I'd been in labour all weekend, and the in laws were going away to poland on the sunday. I was told they'd said i better have him before they go, and as i did (unfortunately) they all piled into my room about 4 hours after i had had him to see him. God it wound me up. The next day wouldnt have been too bad, but i was covered in blood from where they had to try many times to get into my vein, couldnt sit up, was on a drip, and could hardly hold my lo. I felt like an exhibition. And ever since its always been Ollie they come to see (no bad thing really) but they always fuss him and spoil him and it just winds me up.

another thing my MIL does is always buys everything for him without asking us.

We've just bought him his first proper pair of walking shoes, and a harness, to be told that he didnt need a harness because she had seen one last week and bought it and never thought to tell us about it. Grrrrr.... she never seems to listen either. Have told her to ask before she buys and thought we had reached an understanding, but it appears not.

Wth regards to the bf, she was supportive, but always came out with 'well i cant help much because i formula fed both of mine'

My FIL lives in corfu, so rarely gets to see Ollie, and never usually rings unless he wants something. Ollie was ill a while back with a gastro bug, and he rang every day telling us he should be in hosital etc etc coz we werent looking after him properly. !!!!!!!!

Cant kill them, dont want to live with them!

xxx

LOL SY - I agree! I actually get on really well with my mil cos she has a heart of gold but she comes out with classic advice like 'make sure you squeeze his nipples cos otherwise he'll get BO when he's older! or don't stroke his chin cos it'll get big, or my favourite, pull down on his nose to make it smaller'! She is West Indian and these are all old wives tales - I'm sure she makes them up on the spot as and when it suits her cos the advice seems to change with every baby!

She was also the one who gave my 4 yr old lucozade to drink (until he threw it up on her carpet - I told her he's allergic to it) gave him cups of tea with 2 spoonfuls of sugar in it and juice in a bottle when he was a baby - he has always drunk water so why you would feel the need to give him sugary drinks is beyond me! AAAGGGGHH!

Like the motto - can't kill them........xx