dont want to go into everything that has happened the last couple of days but I have had comments form people that i only have just met a week ago such as; ''oh my god you have got bigger'' etc
... then my OH made a hurtful comment last night... and now I feel that it is never going to be the same between us again...Im really really down..I know I should be really happy that my bump is a baby and its natural but I just feel horrible....I want a close and loving relationship with my OH but its difficult at the best of times making him want to have sex and now it just seems impossible...and its our wedding anniversay today!

sorry just had to unload as by myself today and very tearful..:cry:

Hi Hun,

Sending you a great big cuddle...

I know what you mean, I feel like an elephant at the moment!

My hubby doesn't like like me being pregnant and calls me 'big-un' which I usually take quite light heartedly but when you're feeling a little sensitive ain't the best choice of pet names!

People are rude and you should tell them. How would they like it if you just walked up to them and gave your comments on their body parts?

Tell your hubby how he's made you feel (men often think they're being funny when they're just missing the point completely), he probably didn't mean to upset you (I hope)...

Take care of yourself and remember you won't be pregnant forever, eventually you'll have a lovely little baby and you'll get your figure back...x

Thanks twonklemum....
..I would happily say something to those people but its my second week in a new job and they are my new work colleagues...im sure they dont mean it nastily but its really hard when you feel sensitive...so I just make a joke out of it...
I told my hubby how I felt and he left me ''Im sorry'' notes all round the kitchen this morning before he went to work and a letter explaining that he loves me and baby..he also got me a ''Im sorry'' card as well as an anniversary card when he popped in earlier..its sweet but I still cant forget what he said to me...
I really dont mean to come across as vain in any way..I had a bad last relationship so I think it has made a scar in my mind about my looks in general so its difficult having all these changes to my body..hopefully I will get a grip and sort myself over the weekend!
thanks again
x

hey chick my fella is good as gold however he is very sharp with his
comments about how fat i look, i just tell him that my tummy will go soon but he will always have a small willy! that usually shuts him up, and ignore what the others say we all take things to heart a tad more when we are preggas. big hug 2 u xx

people can be so rude and not realise they are doing it. if you didnt eat they would say it wasnt fair on the lo. when you do eat you feel everyone is scrutanising you.

sometimes i feel i will never lose this weight. my legs are huge now!!

i stopped weighing myself weeks ago as it was just getting me down.

just tell your oh that its bad enough carrying extra weight as well as all the pains, sickness etc and a little sympathy wouldnt go a miss. xxxx

Hi ya,
Ignore him,mine also makes very sharp comments about my size constantly at the moment. His latest thing he keeps tellling me is that I waddle like a duck. I have SPD and its very painful to walk and I really dont think he really understands how I feel and he will probably never do. My mum in law says that I shouldnt let it get through me but its very hard sometimes. All I do is keep reminding myself that I've grown fat for a reason and my little girl will be worth all the ache,fat and etc I have at the moment.
Big hugs too xx
32wks+2

I told someone I work with, who constantly called me 'fatty' I didn't have a problem with him calling me fatty because I'd loose the weight but he'd always be an ugly b*st*rd!

Try and think of your new work colleagues sat on the loo if they get to you and just have a giggle to yourself about them!

You're not vain, your body goes through a lot of changes during pregnancy and if someone has already made you paranoid about the way you look then you will be more sensitive to it.

Take care of yourself...x

I felt the same way with my first pregnancy. Most of the people i worked with did not have children and when i would pop in to see them when i was on maternity leave they would look at me horrified and just stare saying "you are huge"! not that my 'bump' was huge but that 'I' was huge. So mean. Then i overheard a colleague chatting about how much i ate at lunch and then i would be really fat after i had the baby!! Another commented after my baby was born that 'ohh some of your baby weight is going'!!! How dare people judge you for your size especially when you are going through the most physically and emotionally challenging time in your life! I have just found out i am pregnant again and am frantic about putting on weight as i am still the same weight i was after i had my first baby. Its not fair that we feel so vulnerable to these mean insensitive people. Hope you feel better soon xxx

sod them all i say and it only matters what we think at the end of the day and what our loved ones think, if there your work mates put a few laxatives in the coffee pot, that should keep them busy for a bit,

You guys are all so great! you have made me smile for the first time today..thank you for all your support.
x

dont let it get you down chick honestly.

unfortunately its one thing we cant really control when pregnant.
dont forget at the end of pregnancy about 20 pounds is baby, blood, boobs, water, placenta etc...

it will all be worth while. xx

i know what you all mean, i was in boots today and a women asked me when bubba was due i said 8 weeks and she said i was big for being due in 8 weeks, my oh i wont let him near me as i feel fat and ugly, i love him so much but i carnt stand hin to have sex with! my 5 yr old daughter keeps telling me im fat!!!

H2525 - how was ur anniversary evening in the end hun??? I know it's hard, especially when we hear things from the ones we love but the fact that he felt bad enuff to make sure you knew how sorry he was - sounds like u got a special one this time hun!! xx

Men can be so insensitive! Fortunatly my hubby only has nice things to say like my bump is all in front and my bum looks exactly the same and he's constantly telling me I'm beautiful but my father in law keeps telling me I look un-natural and I look like I've swallowed a beach ball! I'm fed up of people stopping me to tell me I'm huge..do they not think I realise as I'm the one carrying it around?! They always say I must be having twins or its a big baby when I say I have 8 weeks to go but again, I know I look big as my bump is measuring 40 weeks now at 32+3 but why do people always feel the need to tell you?!
xxx