I am soooo gutted for my cousin she was pregnant and has lost her baby :( she has been trying to get pregnant for ages and her sister is having her baby by c section on Monday. I just feel so sorry for her, I dont know how I would cope. I really want to support her but don't know the best way to do it it must be awful for her,

I don't think there is any 'right' way you just have to read the situation how it is and that will prob change each day too. Sorry to hear your and her sad news.

I'm so sorry for her. Like El Mac said, each day will be different for her. Sometimes she will want to talk about it and sometimes she won't. I'm afraid you just have to judge each moment as it comes.

oh bless her - just make sure she knows your there if she needs you but which im sure she does!!! makes it worse as her sis is having lo! xxx

poor girl, when I was pregnant both sil n my cousin had m/c n I felt really guilty. Like others said all u can do really is just be there when she needs you x

Oh, so sad. I'm in a similar situation...my friend thinks she's had her third m/c this weekend since the start of the year. She has to wait til Tues for a scan but is pretty sure it's happened again. I really hope it hasn't. They're coming to Spain with us in August and although she has a girl who's nearly 3, I feel sort of bad for having had three los with no problems.
Hopefully, they'll have healthy pregnancies and bouncing babies soon x

So sorry to hear that news.... all you can do is be a shoulder to cry on and someone to talk to if thats what she needs.

Ali... I was so sure I was having a mc after the last mc - I had bleeding and cramps but the scan showed that it was a healthy pregnancy and now we have Bryn... so your friend could be wrong and I hope she is.

Big hugs to everyone having a bad time xx

How sad. Im one of the lucky ones that havent experienced this but i should imagine that its an awful thing to get through.

Sorry cant be of much help but big cyber hugs sent to anyone that needs them

x

Really sorry to hear about your cousins sad news, best thing you can do is let her know you are there for her at the same time as giving her space to come to terms with it. However as Emalena has already said, i also had 2 mmc and at 6wks had bleed, cramps etc and thought i was miscarrying again and now Philip is here. My sil also had a c/section 3wks after i had the 2nd miscarraige and it was really hard but i made myself go and meet my neice the day she was born cos i knew if i didn't go then i'd make excuses to stay away for a long time and i wanted the same kind of relationship with this one as i have with her older sister.

Hope things work out for her, and other people having problems
x

Oh no how awful.. so sorry to hear that. I think as everyone else has said..all you can do is let her know you are there for her.

Ali - I really hope your friend is wrong and her lo is okay

Im so sorry to hear the sad news. Like everyone else has said all you can do is be there. Sometimes i wanted to talk and talk and talk about it as i had so many feelings, but other times i didnt want to discuss it at all. I had 2 miscarriages and still feel that way now. I too was sure i had lost holly as had some bleeding at 6 weeks. Thank God she was fine (although first scan showed no heart beat, second one a week later did and it was the most amazing feeling ive ever had!). I think m/c is more common than we think because people, particullarly in the past didnt talk about it. Its so so hard to deal with. But all i would say to people is to keep trying, because as much as it breaks your heart to loose that baby, and it really does break your heart each time, when you hold your precious bundle in your arms for the first time you realise that each heart break was worth it to get to that point. And i believe im so much more greatful everyday for holly becuase of the babies i sadly lost.
I hope your cousin has some luck very soon. Best wishes xxx

ps ali, i hope your cousin is wrong like i was with my 3rd pg and that all is well x

sorry waffled on a bit there didnt i! Told you sometimes i feel like i want to talk and talk about it! x

Thanks everyone, my cousin was ment to have her baby yesterday but it was also going to be the day her sis had her d+c so she is having her baby today now still waiting to hear if she's had him xx

Well my friends fears were right, she has lost her third baby. She will now have tests and be put on medication when she next becomes pg. I can't quite believe it takes 3 mcs for anyone to investigate the causes for them, and I'd feel so upset and cross. 1 perhaps not, but 2 is cause for more concern in my eyes, never mind 3!
I've felt so upset today, never mind her. She's just really glad we booked Spain so she has something to look forward to. They've been told not to try now for 3-4mths so she can try to relax.
Sorry to hear of others' losses, it must be so hard to comprehend.
Hugs all round I think!
x

Awww Im so sorry for your friend Ali :( I hope she enjoys Spain and manages to relax xxx

Oh so sorry for your friend Ali
I'm the same..can't believe it takes that many m/c before they look into it! Its cruel!

Hugs sarah.. I know how you feel - someitmes you want to talk and sometimes you don't.. and I feel so blessed to have Cole - espeically after going to my friends works summer fair at the weekend and seeing all the severely disabled kids there..its heartbreaking