elo everyone,

im 21 weeks pregnant atm,i was seing a boy and wen i found out i was pregnant he didnt wana no me anymore and havent spoke since so i dont want him ever to have anything to do with the baby now. but i found someone really nice when i was 7weeks pregnant and where still with each other now steve has been there 4 me 2 every scan an appointment etc and him and his family are really fine and excited about the baby and want to bring him up as his own,
has anyone been in the same position as us? and should we tell the baby when his older that steves not the real dad?

xxxx

Hiya Hun.

My Best mate split with her boyfriend when she was 10 weeks pegnant because she found out the scumbag was cheating on her. He then told her he didn't want anything to do with her or the baby.
She got together with somone not long after the split and like your oh he went to every scan and Hospital appointment. He was even there at the birth.
He has brought Kiaren up as his own and he calls him Daddy. He is 14 months old now and my friend is expecting again.
When Kiaren is old enough my friend said she will explain the truth. Nothing will change as he has known her current partner as his Dad all his life.
I think if a man takes on the responsabily of someone elses baby/child even more so through the pregnacy are more of a man that the boy that left you pregnant!
You are very lucky to of found someone that is going to love your lo just as much as you.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and Im sure you will make a lovely little family together xxx

thank u so much :) xxxx

Bex82 has said some lovely words. Even though the bloke your with is not the biological father of your baby, sounds like he will be a fantastic Daddy to your little one. It's important to explain to your child the real situation when they're older but it sounds like you've got a lovely bloke now and a good support from his family! Good luck with everything! X x

I am the result of a relationship a bit like that and have always known that my dad is not biologically my real dad and i love him no less for it. I think when the child is old enough to understand then you should be truthful-honest is the best policy. But try not to worry that far ahead yet...your a fair way off that at the moment and should enjoy your pregnancy with your 'daddy-to-be', someone told me a little while ago, anyone can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a dad...and it sounds to me like you've found a real man. Good luck to you both and bump xxx

It sounds to be that your oh IS the daddy of your baby. I think you have found a gem in steve. When your baby is older you can then think about telling him, that is your decision to make, and when the time is right you will make the right one whatever it may be. Until then, enjoy being pregnant and enjoy being a family. The fact that steve's family are supporting you as well shows you hes from good stock.

All the best with everything.

Lynda

iv not been in a position like yours but i was adopted and raised by parent that werent the ones that that consieved me.
And i am a great believer in being truthfull with children on this isue for as early on as you can.
I have known all my life and grew up knowing my parents where my parents not mater what DNA said, they were the ones that loved me, suported me and stood my me through everything. had i grown up and found out later on i can almost garantee that my relationship with my parents wouldnt be the same as it is today, and there is no way you can stop them finding out it always comes out in the end. x

hi huni
my partner is not my oldest whos 3 real dad but he brought her up since she was 10months she calls him daddy and she is such a daddys girl i will tell her when she is older but i no that she will always thinks as my partner as her dady