lol know its a bit of a long subject!
im 19 have 2 little boys one 2 years and one 12 weeks live with my partner and plan to get married next year, we dont fit into the sterotype of the young mum and dads although we did start very early. i dont know anyone in the same situation as us at all . before we found a house we liked to rent we lived in a block of flats which were full of young mums , i thought great i can make lots of friends all with the same in commom but i was wrong! lol with the expception of one mum all the others i meet are not capable of looking after there childtren and all lived off benefits which they spent only on themselves, when the poor kiddies were in clothes to small with nappies that had been on allday!
just get sick of being looked at by older mums as if im not worthy of having what i do because of my age, igo to alot of toddler groups and get stared at first of al but once i talk to people they see im not what they thought!
does anyone know other young mums who are like yourselfs?? and can anyone tel me where they are hiding lol!!

I'm lucky in that a couple of my school friends have babies. Their oldest are 2 and 1 is pregnant again now and the other has a second who is 10 weeks. My lo is 5 months now.
Luckily my friends are like me and our lo's always come first.

Hi ya.I know what you mean. I'm 19 have a 3 month old . i've been with my bloke for 4 years and were married have a lovely rented flat.
Every young mum around me fits the steriotype young mum , most of them got pregnant to get benifits!! I like to think i'm very mature for my age and hate it when people asume i'm a bad mum just because i'm young. i've met alot of my friends with children through baby and toddler groups only problem is they are in their late 20's early 30's. The only social things the young mums in my town want to do is dump their kids at grandparents and go clubbing.

i'm 21 and have no young friends with babies. i tried lots of mother and baby groups but people there were older then me and if i'm honest we had nothing in common and i just didnt gel with them. None of my friends have babies yet and none of them are ready to either. I do live in a council flat but that is because i was homeless at 18 and i do work. i am mature for my age and often people make assumptions before they really know me and everybody that i do know well always tell me they cant beleive i'm only 21, they feel i'm older...i do enjoy a night out with the girls occasionally but my baby Harry comes before everything so i dont go out often. However i have a stereotypical young mum a few doors down, she's a little older then me but fits the stereotype perfect and does my head in! I have one friend with a baby but she is early thirties and my next door neighbor has recently had a baby so although i dont know her all that well i'm hoping it could be a new mummy friend as i think we all need someone in the same situation to talk to sometimes as there are some things non-mummy mates just dont understand arent there? to sum up my waffling...no i dont know any young mums like me and i dont fit the stereotype and i think other people should wait to know a young mum before assuming the worst...we do good!xxx

im 24 now but was 18 wen i had my first. i was lucky and had a young mums group about 5 mins walk from my house. it was there that i met lots of my current friends. i really enjoyed going to this group once a week to meet other young mums. young mums shouldnt be judged. i also did a course " peer mentoring" with the group which entailed me meeting up with younger mums and take them to the group as some feel isolated and dont take that step. why dont u see if there are any groups like this in yous area, ask ur health visitor/mid-wife. also libarys usually will have information on it xx

im 20 and my son will be 1 next week. i have 1 friend with a baby that is (pretty much) like me. i found her on netmums and turns out she was in the year below me in primary school.
i will soon be living in a council place as we're bein kicked out tuesday (long story) and yes i am on benefits as (another long story..) manager completely screwed me over when i was pregnant with hours and maternity pay! i am also a single mother. some days i would like someone to take him for the night so i can go out but that very rarely happens. my son comes first.

It sounds like you live in the same place as me, im 21 ut do look young and wen out pushing my DD in her pram with my pregnant belly people tend to look down there nose at me like im a bad mother or something, but me and my partner have our own house and altho i am a stay at home mum my partner works very very hard to provide for us!its like grow up were not all the same! anyway enough ranting! i know a few people my age in the same situation however they dont seem to be as happy about being a mum as i am! wish there were some groups round by me where i could go and meet mums my age!

as an answer to your question...yes i am a young mum, im 19 and my son is 13months and no i dont know any other mums my own age as the majority of girls in my city only have babies for the benefits they get form the state then spend the money on drugs/clubbing/themselves while leaving baby(ies) with whoever.
i am well educated, getting excellent grades in all my exams. my fiance is 31 and works hard to ensure i dont have to have any state benefits, while i am a stay at home mum to our son as i want him to grow up knowing his mummy was always there for him. we live in a lovely house in a good area and i am very proud to be in the situation i am in.
i hate seeing young mums who dont give two hoots about their kids, not keeping them clean/not feeding them properly/not dressing them appropriately/swearing, smoking and drinking around them - it makes older people tar us all with the same brush.
luckily i dont have a problem with people looking down their noses at me as i look older than i am and when people do know my age and see me with my little boy they can tell i am a great mum!

I am 21 and expecting my 3rd and dont really give a damn what people think of me as it is their problem. I have been raised with manners and respect and will teach my boys the same.

I dont think it matters if ur old or young, work or r on benefits, single or with a partner as long as ur children are in a stable, loving environment thats all that matters.

There are some young mums that cause steriotypes but there are also ones that come across really stuck up like theyre better than every1 else and look down on some young mums who maybe need guidence rather than criticism. Then they can bring theyre kids up in a way so as to not pass on the steriotype.

Hello every1! I am 19 with a 4 and a half month old little boy. Me and my partner are currently in college determined to get good carears to look after our son. We are planning to get married in the future, but we are on benefits, MOST OF OUR MONEY GETS SPENT ON OUR BABY, he never goes without! He always comes first in everything! I totally agree with brandollarz, i sometimes feel really sorry for the young mums who haven't been taught how to look after children properly, all i wanna do is help them! I would not expect to be looked down upon because I am on benefits I am on my way to getting a good career.I am very proud of myself! My partner and me suffered a miscarriage and because of this, even though it werent planned, tryed for another baby and now we're blessed with my little boy! I currently am in a mummy and baby group for young mums, i was hoping to meet friends but I am bitterly disapointed! Do feel a bit lonely sometimes and would love to make friends with other mums in similar situations to me.

Argh.... this kind of subject gets me really riled up. I CANNOT STAND these young mums who live right up to the stereotype of the teenage skank.

Not being rude... i'm sure they are all lovely people, but in my village there are three girls i know all about 16- who constantly are out really late at night with their kids, smoking in their faces (i do smoke but never ever around harry - only when he's gone to bed) taking drugs and just causing trouble. Its really gutting to think that these girls are making a bad name for themselves and making us all a social stereotype.

I'm 18 and my son is four months old. I have a good job to go back to if i want and a partner who im engaged to and have been for over a year and a half. We also started our lives young, but i love every single second of it. I am a good mum, regardless of my age. I knew exactly what i got into when i saw the word 'pregnant' on the test and i was in no way under the impression my life was going to be easy and perfect.

I made the decision to keep my child and i made the decision that i didn't fancy going on benifits and was going to work my ass off to get enough money for us to be able to have food on the table, clothes on his back that fit properly and enough left over to i can treat him everyso often. I have no problem with benifits - if i needed the help i'd take it - but we all pay our taxes to fund a lot of these people's 'free life' habit and it F*CKs me off.

If they need the help then fair play but if theyre scamming the benifit, they're scamming me. And thats not fair.

X sorry... done now X

I would just like to add to my post, I am a very good mum even though I am only 19. My partner and me are settled down early but its suits me to every last detail! I am not planning to spend the rest of my life on benefits. I am planning to work hard to get a good career! I think the people who have no intention of getting a good job should not be scrounging off other people, people who are working hard to get a good job(or any job) I think are fine in recieving benifits if they need the help! I don't smoke< don't drink and only go out to visit family and go shopping for all our needs e.g food, toileties, nappies, milk etc. I would hate it if people put me into this stereotype because am on benifits as I do noy fit the desription of the 'teenage skank' whatsoever. I think people should get to know me before they judge me! xxx

thanks for all of your replies you all sound like you are in the same boat, just wondering where do you all live? sorry for the short post bit of hectic day today! x x

hiya am from liverpool!!

Hiya, Im 21 and had my daughter at 19. I live with my hubby 2b in a rented flat in a lovely town. We do receive some benefits but only because h2b works all hours and I have no time to work myself. I have one friend who I met last year at our local toddler group. We meet up every week and take our girls on days out and to toddlers. We're are very close now which I love because I have noone else in my situation, I find that all my mates from school are very imature.
I love being a mum and she ALWAYS comes first xxx

hello, i just popped in here to see what every1 were talking about and i just wanted to say that you all sound like really amazing people who obvoiusely adore being mummies and i just wanted to say that its so refreshing to read, i am 22 and myself and my husband have been together 7 and a half years, we are high school sweethearts and we both have amazing jobs, we are currently TTC and we hope it happens really soon, we actually wanted to be young parents as we have the stability, finance and energy!!! i hope everything works out for every1 and i will hopefully be joining you all v.soon!!! xxx

hello, i just popped in here to see what every1 were talking about and i just wanted to say that you all sound like really amazing people who obvoiusely adore being mummies and i just wanted to say that its so refreshing to read, i am 22 and myself and my husband have been together 7 and a half years, we are high school sweethearts and we both have amazing jobs, we are currently TTC and we hope it happens really soon, we actually wanted to be young parents as we have the stability, finance and energy!!! i hope everything works out for every1 and i will hopefully be joining you all v.soon!!! xxx

hello, i just popped in here to see what every1 were talking about and i just wanted to say that you all sound like really amazing people who obvoiusely adore being mummies and i just wanted to say that its so refreshing to read, i am 22 and myself and my husband have been together 7 and a half years, we are high school sweethearts and we both have amazing jobs, we are currently TTC and we hope it happens really soon, we actually wanted to be young parents as we have the stability, finance and energy!!! i hope everything works out for every1 and i will hopefully be joining you all v.soon!!! xxx

hello, i just popped in here to see what every1 were talking about and i just wanted to say that you all sound like really amazing people who obvoiusely adore being mummies and i just wanted to say that its so refreshing to read, i am 22 and myself and my husband have been together 7 and a half years, we are high school sweethearts and we both have amazing jobs, we are currently TTC and we hope it happens really soon, we actually wanted to be young parents as we have the stability, finance and energy!!! i hope everything works out for every1 and i will hopefully be joining you all v.soon!!! xxx

hello, i just popped in here to see what every1 were talking about and i just wanted to say that you all sound like really amazing people who obvoiusely adore being mummies and i just wanted to say that its so refreshing to read, i am 22 and myself and my husband have been together 7 and a half years, we are high school sweethearts and we both have amazing jobs, we are currently TTC and we hope it happens really soon, we actually wanted to be young parents as we have the stability, finance and energy!!! i hope everything works out for every1 and i will hopefully be joining you all v.soon!!! xxx

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