Hi everyone,

I’m 26 weeks pregnant and my other half has told me that he uncomfortable having sex because of the baby being there… which I can kind of understand. He knows he can’t hurt the baby but just finds it too weird.
He has said that he loves me and still finds me attractive and he’s still very affectionate and always telling me how much he loves me. I’m just really scared now that this is just the start of a downhill spiral, I’m worried that the childbirth and me breastfeeding is all going to add to this and he’s going to end up looking at me in a different way and not fancy me anymore. I don’t want to tell him how much it’s bothering me because I’m really glad that he was honest with me and I don’t want him thinking that he can’t tell me how he feels for fear of upsetting me, also I don’t want to make it a big issue and have him worrying about it too in case that makes things worse.

I feel awful because I get upset then I worry about the baby and I was enjoying being pregnant so much and I feel guilty now for the baby because I feel quite sad instead of excited.

I just wanted to find out if other women/men have had a similar thing with their husbands/wives/partners and if it all turned out ok in the end?

Thanks x

Hi eve76, I am affraid I have the same issue as your partner, I am 30weeks 1 day pregnant and have had sex twice since 20weeks, I just cant cope with the thought of baby inside and doing it, I know its irrational but you know thats the pregnant mind for you.

HOWEVER - my husband has also gone off it, he hasent been as blunt as yours to say it but then again hasnt had to cos I havent tried it on. It has made me realise how UN touchy feely we are though and I miss the closeness you get after romping to be honest, lack of hugs and kisses make me feel like a fat minger :-(

Guess its a no win odd time for all involved?

Hi there!!

My baby is 11months now and i can understand a) how your partner was feeling and b) how you are feeling jmp!

When i was about 28 weeks pregnant and baby was moving much more i started to feel as though it was no longer me and me partner in the room and i just couldnt get in the mood knowing this little bundle was kicking and moving inside me! I told my partner this and he to admitted he sometimes felt a bit odd especially when he would see the movement it was hard to enjoy the sex!

I can say however, having now had my baby things are completely back to normal! so i personally wouldnt worry. I think its hard for both partners to get their head around being pregnant and still wanting to do the things they used to and i can understand why some feel uncomfortable, but it doesnt mean for one moment they no longer find you attractive in any way and i think men try to show that by in some cases being over affectionate and helpful so you dont feel low, fat or unattractive.

Just enjoy the freedom LOL!!!! it will soon be back!!!

Happy pregnancies!

xx

ive totaly gone off sex... i cant stand that there is 3 of us in bed, doesnt stop anthony tho... i just pretend im asleep lol.

My partner has also said the same to me, that he finds it a bit off putting with the baby. However we do make up for it with the closeness, cuddles in and out of bed, and he also talks to the baby all the time and we enjoy other forms of touching etc.

I was the same as you eve at first thinking that he was finding me unattractive now and this was the start of things to come, however he has told me this is not the case and it never will be as i will have brought his child into the world.

i had this n i felt unloved men dont always like aving sex when ur preg cos theres a extra person in the bed, and beacuse ur preg men may think that ur mite not b sure of what u want,as due to mixed feeling's ect,
but tr sit down with him n talk sex aint evrything maybe having a nice relaxing bath n candle lit meal and a cuddle or something theres other ways of showinf affection n mite help him get in the mood or you could give him a massarge even tho it should be him looking after you but i wouldnt suggest him massarging u if ur preg beacuse i heard the person as to know what thier doing ect

Sorry to blabber on hope this helps

Caz n bump

Hi hun, my partner is the same. We haven't had sex for 4 months - at first I wasn't bothered about it but as time has gone on i've started to feel so fat and ugly it's really getting me down :-(

He says the same.... there's babies in there, don't wanna hurt them etc.... but it feels more like he doesn't find me attractive now that i'm pregnant.

As for oral sex etc, he's always pestering me for that but i'm like 'well what's in it for me?' cos that's how I feel now.

I still get cuddles and kisses so at least I'm getting some affection!

I'm sure everything will be back to normal once the babies are born (well I hope so!)

xx

Hi there dont worry about it. if hes saying he loves u often and been affectionate then i dont c any thing to worry about. And when the babys born he'll be even more affectionate and close to u. And after a few weeks he shud feel better and feel like getting closer in bed.

I've recently gone off sex, and feel ugly and fat but it will soon go. What i know is he is looking forward to the baby on the way anotha son. And although he still asks for sex we only do it once a week or week n half cos i dont just feel like it. but it will be bak to normal again soon.