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hiya newmum33,its so hard when the bf doesnt take any interest in the baby,years ago i was the same he showed no emotion 2wards me or baby and i ended up resenting him so much,i lost my baby and i got rid of him,on a brighter note i am now married and have a beautifull baby girl called primrose,some men cant cope with the whole settleing down thing they c it as loosing there independance but as soon as the little one arrives they soon change there tune.its a shame hes not helping a bit more through the pregnancy,how does his mum feel about things?in the mean time dont do everything for him u need to be relaxing a bit more try to be a bit more independant from him yourself,if he thinks your cooling off abit it will shock him!! sorry im not much help,im here if u ever want to chat.gud luck!!xxxxxxxx

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hiya newmum33,oh lord sounds as if it gets worse! he seems one of the selfish ones!money is such a big factor when ur exspecting a baby u have to cut down on things coz little ones cost a fortune,you must be brave and stick to ur guns!that means not jumping to his beck and call! and as for not moving when u hoover well thats a discrace! got to go 4 a bit but will certainly chat later.xxxxxxxxxx

hiya im back,as i was saying,does he really want to b apart of ur life?it seems as if he doesnt,im worried that ur not getting enough rest 18wks is still early on,you have along way to go yet and lots of stress puts babys at risk trust me i no!! how long have u been 2gether with bf?will chat later.xxxxxxxxxxx

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hiya hunny,try to keep ur head up high,why can men b so crappy!no dont do anything till his b'day is over but then after that u must sit down 2gether and talk things through,there is now 3 of u in the relationship,now i no its hard but dont tell him u love him untill he tells u first,a while ago i thought my husband was having an afair,we hardly spoke it was always me that did all the running till i got so fed up of it that i stopped telling him i loved him,after a few weeks he wanted to no wot was wrong and he started coming to my way of thinking,were ok now and have a great marriage but baby definately bought us closesr 2gether! i hope it does you,being pregnant is such a wonderfull thing(alltho i was sick for most of it lol) is he going to ur scans to get him a bit more involved?my name is claudia by the way and im 32+1 haha.xxxx

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hi claire,dont do anything to rash,if you really love him and he does you then things will sort themselves out,just dont like the thought of u doing to much and getting stressed,as i said before its not good for baby so go carefull!the zoo sounds gud tho will give u both time away from everyday things,do you both work?i spend all my time looking after primrose shes getting very hard work and coming up to the terrible 2 stage but she goes to bed at 6.30pm and sleeps without a murmer till 7.30am so me n hubby get time in eve its great!im not pregnant and dont no if i will have anymore im an independant kind of gal and wood love to go back to work,have adult conversation lol ! and no ur not boring me! how old r u?i live in lincs wheres u?claudia.xx

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hi hun,its so hard to get on property ladder,even tho we own our own house its all still such a struggle to pay everything with only the hubby working and me a full time mum its hard! i think with the situation as it is with u i think renting wood b the best op for u both as things are not stable and theres not such a commitment with renting,but i do think u need to have ur own place 2gether get him out of parents house.its nice were same age,my email is claudiakib@tiscali.co.uk ive got to go now hun but look forward to chatting soon! shame we live so far away,remember its gud to talk! hugs claudia.xxxxx

hi
erm...im new to this and im not too sure what im doing, so i shall say sorry now.
i read your first statement and i must say, your not alone. when i was about 3/4 months pregnant my partner went off the rails in quie a big way and i felt totally alone. luckally he sorted himself out and now we have a beautiful little girl(3 weeks and 5days old). as for the living together issue, you might want to suggest renting. that is what we are doing and it is quite managable. i do think you should be taking it easy andnot be doing all the running around. even if he isnt showing as much interest as you'd have hoped, im sureyour health is important to him, so maybe you should let him know how tired you are and that it would be nice for him to cook for you. you really should be looking after yourself.
anywho i think ive waffled on enough, like i said i havent a clue what im doing. i thought i would join this sight becasue im only 20 and i dont know many young mums, plus my social life has taken a nose dive since my baby! hugs and kisses giv x x x xx x x

my dh used to be the same with my first baby he showed no intreast in anything to do with baby and only when i went into labour did it hit him there was a baby . he said it just didnt seem real to him