it is a juggling act thats for sure. Feel like one of them is left out at all times. I find hardest when little ones in bed and all i want is to have a bath, tea and toast and chill out. However, older ones want to chat and tell me their news etc.. usually watch a freinds dvd or something we all enjoy so I can chill out while spending time with them all. Would be nice to have bit of ME time now and then. Like you say though would not change it for anything.
d x

my lil bro as adhd and im a young pregnant girl im 17 maybe if u got an msn my mum n u can chat or summit teens will be teens just let them kno u love them n the baby aint gonna change ya love 4 them they may feel as if they wil b left out

thats really nice for you to day.is your mum supportive of your pregnancy??? i hope so! i was bit older at 21 when I had my first. it is a bit scarey having them so young but the good thing is you have loads of energy for sleepless nights. My daughter is nearly 17 and we have great relationship since to her I am a young mum. Most of her mates mums are in late forties and I am still in thirties.
I dont have msn sorry!. Tell your mum to come on her and she can be our young grandma!!!!!!!!!!!
all the best with your pregnancy
d x

just deleting my post, read caz4mark post on support

sending big hugs to u hun. xxx
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hi, i havent been on the oldermums page before and I feel so much better for having found it!!
Im 40 and have 15 yo, 13yo and 2 yo and due in a couple of weeks.
I hate the word old when I think of myself as I still feel so young but the girls think anything over 20 is pretty much past it!
Will deffinately check this page out more often.
meg xx

hi megmum
How are the older ones coping with the news of another little one. Are they all from same dad (sorry to ask) or did you re marry??
I think we are quite unusual that they are all from same dad. We had lauren and chris and while preg with chris my husband was diagnosed with cancer. he was very ill and it was touch and go for a long time. Anyway, he recovered but we were told due to the large amounts of chemeo he prob cant father another child. We were advised to have a sperm test but never got round to it. anyway, ten years later we find out Joseph is on the way. when he was just 7 months I was preg again with Charlie and now here we are again with number 5 due in march!!!!!!!!!
Its bloody hard work isnt it???
I was just falling asleep on sofa then and 16 year old came in wanting a lift... we live in middle east and there are no buses here and you really would not let them walk anywhere alone! So, up I haul my HUGE bump body and take her to rugby club! come home to 14 year old needing feeding! 2 year old in bed (where i should be) and 3 year old dressed up like bob the builder and fixing the house.
Would I have it any other way????hmmmm ask me later?

Hi Dee Dee
Yes all that sounds very familiar lol!
Im slightly different in that the 2 girls are my step daughters. Their mum died a number of years ago from breast cancer. She and I were friends and worked together so Ive known the girls all their lives, we've grown up together. Their Dad and I just grew closer and closer after their mum died, first I used to just help out with the girls when needed and then he used to ring me to talk about anything that was bothering him and eventually we fell in love, ahhhh!
It was all very scary at first and wasnt a bed of roses, the girls missed their mum and I suddenly had a ready made family. But with loads of give and take, arguments, compromise, laughs and crys we get by. We are good friends. The girls are turning into lovely people, not your typical stroppy teenagers. I think they had to grow up much earlier than their peers considering what they've been through.
They love their little brother and have both started to use the excuse that they are talking for him and now call me mum, which is so touching, it was never something I even thought they would want to do. But they maybe see me as being a little bit their mum and to me they are just my girls.
They are the ones who nagged us to have another baby as they love the whole family thing, and they are very open about sex etc, too open sometimes!! The 13 year old loves to come out with things just to embarass her Dad!
Its a load of hard work but is also wonderful that we are a growing unit of fun an laughter again where there was once such sadness - I feel priveleged to be part of it.
Meg

what a lovely story!!!!!!!!! Bet your friend is thrilled that her family are in such good hands. To be honest once you have 3 another child will just slot in and complete your family. When are you due and do you know what you having???
d x

hi Dee Dee
Im due on 1st Feb but went to clinic yesterday and head still high. Ive to go back on thursday and if no change will be booked in for section on Tuesday.
Had same problem last time, think my pelvis is wrong shape.
I really dont mind to much but had hoped for a try at normal delivery. But you just have to be sensible dont you and do as they tell you.
Will keep you posted. How are things with you at the mo?

Hi ladies, im also an older mum, im 41 in feb and have 5 children, all from the same dad! My eldest son is 22, then daughter 19, daughter 11, son 6 and son 9 mths. I would really like one more but hubby says no way, so im working on him!! lol. Its wonderful having older children because they just want to be involved with the younger children and help out where they can. They all want me to have another baby so at least i know they are on my side. My eldest son went through a few rough teenage months but nothing too awful and now hes a manager for m & s, so it worked out ok in the end. My 19 yr old daughter is also a manager, she works in claires accessories, she also got engaged at christmas, i suppose i could be a grandmother really!! Not yet hopefully im not quite finished being a mum. Debs xx

Hi debbie...wow 5!!! I looking forward to having 5th but under no illusion that it wont be hard work! One thing to bear in mind when deciding whether to have another is that I was reading an article about Richard and Judy off tv. She was asked what her biggest regret was...her answer? Not having one more child! I think that says it all. When I announced I was having number 5 i was shocked at the amount of people who said they wished they had had one more. If you can talk OH round then do it before your body says NO!!!!
Good Luck

dx

Hi dee dee, thats something that i thought to myself the other day that if i dont go ahead i will regret it later on, just got to convince my oh now! Hes keeping well away from me at the moment! lol. x

Well good luck. Get him drunk and pounce one night!!!! I 34 weeks and finding it hard going. i really hate the last few months. I full of cold and chest infection so feel rough as hell.

Megsmum...any news????????? had check up today and baby head still very high and sort of semi transverse. They think placenta still low lying so i have scan next thurs to check it out. If so or if head wont come down then they will put me in for section at 38 weeks rather than an inducement then. I have biggish babies, PPH, quick labours and group strep b. Never had section and not sure what I think of them. I dont mind the proceedure its the recovery time. I usually sore but up on feet and in the bath few hours after birth. With section i will be in bed unable to get baby out of crib etc... Also with 4 others to care for.....more so the nearly 4 and 2 year old... I am not sure its good idea. As we live abroad and have no family support. have friends who I know would help me out though and have home help.
Ah well, what will be will be as they say.

d xxxx

Hi Dee Dee (callyb but changed user name!)

Cannot believe how quickly time is flying!!! Violet will be 3 months on sunday and is having her 2nd lot of injections tomorrow! Am also considering baby no. 4!!!!!! We aren't using any protection so guess what will be, will be!!!

I have been so busy sorting out our business and trying to get planning permission for change of use for the weddings and also sorting out some music festivals...all seems to be going in the right direction, but just bloody hard work. Am hoping that by working like mad this year it will mean that I can look to employ some help next year.

Are you feeling ready to pop yet???

C.xxx

Time has flown hasn't it. You must be enjoying her to be planning another so soon!!!!!
I not great to be honest. Had scan on thurs at 34 weeks due to low lying placenta at 20 week scan. Now its complete previa which means section and probably hospital addmission on bed rst. Have repreive till sunday as specialist was away on holiday. He is a very cautious man and I know friends here who have had any difficulties have been admitted on bed rest. There are no blue light ambulances as such here so if i started to bleed it could become critical before I could get to hospital. Was in total shock and really upset on thursday.
After lots of thinking time and research have decided to tell them to preform hysterectomy should the bleeding become a major problem. The risk of bleeding to death is a real threat and more so since I older and having my 5th! Never had section before so that will be different. Just hope he will wait till at least 36 week till delivery. have been told he will not let me past 37 weeks so in either case baby will be here by 6th march one way or other.
Will let you know
denise x

OMG Denise, that is a nightmare. I dont know what to say, apart from if I was in the same position then I would opt for the hysterectomy option too. I didn't realise the sort of problems you mentioned, maybe I need to consider carefully if we go for no 4. I guess you need to be prepared that in less than 2 weeks you will have your little one - will you be OK at home for help? I am guessing that your teenagers will pull together and suddenly become the best kids in the world to help out.

Let me know what is going to happen - and take it very, very easy.

Carolyn.xxx

HI
Well he let me stay home but on bed rest. Can get up for dinner, shower etc but cant lift kids, drive or do anything strenous. Boring!!!!!!! dont mind getting out of some duties but awful when i cant pick charlie up as he only 2 and does not understand. I have to go in on 1st march with delivery 6th march. If any bleeds then this could change. he was very nice and put me at ease. he said hysterectomy will hopefully not be necessary but good to know I researched it and if needs to be done that he has my permission! they wont let Andrew in the op theatre which is shame.
I taking it very easy dont worry!
In laws are coming out next week till mid march. My sister then arrives 21st march. We also have a live in maid (common here) who has been with us 4 years so to the kids she is a grandma really. She so far been very good and bringing me cups of tea! Daugther is 17 on Sunday and she been equally as good. Friends are rallying around and running kids to all thier activities for me. Andrew dropping little ones at nursery and pre school then going to work till pick up time at 12 and then working form home. All in all going well so far.
Will keep you up to date. I regular on due march 08 forum so birth announcement should be on there!
d xxx

Hi All
Havet been on for ages as bby came along on 23rd January. Went into labour myself but ended with emergency section due to baby heartbeat disappearing - very scary but he was fine thank god. Called him Calum and he only weighed 5lb 11oz which was a shock as I had been huge and my other wee boy weighed 8lb.
es doing well but Ive had the dreaded pst natal depression again. I was half expecting it as had it before so was ready for it and started taking treatment straight away so feeling a lot better already.
Love to all
Meg

Congrats Meg.. my 2nd child was only 5lb 11oz. He was cute though and by about 3 months he had caught up.

Sorry to hear you not feeling too good though. Glad you recognised it and got help though.
Thats very important and means you can get on with been a mum without a black cloud hanging over you.
Was it an emergency as in you had to have general or was there time for a spinal?? As you may have read i have to have my first section which will be spinal and I scared stiff!!! Not of the op but of feeling something! Cant be worse than full on labour pains is what I keep telling myself. Oh not allowed in with me so thats upsetting me too. Also, not looking forward to recovery period. How are you feeling now a few weeks on???
denise x
ps welcome Calum x

hi denise
Thanks. I had a real emergency this time a sbabys heart beat disppeared so had general. But I had a spinal last time and didnt feel a thing just felt like someone was rocking the bed...very weird bur not scary or sore or anything. Dont be frightened and try to keep calm, I got slightly panicy at te thought of being paralysed but it did not feel like that at the time. Also you are in much less pain immediately afterwards as the spinal is still kind of working for a while and I had a quick easy recovery, up and shwered that night and I think the quicker you get on your feet the better. Havent got on so well this time as have a toddler to deal with as well as a baby so you obviously do to much and cant be avoided unless you have a load of helpers. One month on my wound has broken down a bit and am feeling sore again so try to take things as easy as you can. Dont lift things if you can help it and avoid hoovering and mopping and stuff like that.
Cant understand why your oh isnt allowed in with you, did they give a reason. Mine was in when I had the spinal but obviously not for the general.
All the best. Meg x