I am having a really tough time today. I think hubby and i have separated. We have kind of been going down hill for a while and he thinks i have been playing on the whole pregnancy thing. He has been good round the house but emotionally he has been crap. We spent this morning arguing over summat or nothing but as i calmed down he got worse, dredging up everything from the past, calliing me all sorts of names and eventually i left. he carried it on via text.

i just dont think we can carry on like this. i love him to pieces but my heart and head are saying 2 different things.

i am staying with my parents now to get some peace but i miss him already (or at least the nice side of him)

dont expect any replies just feeling a little lonely and confused so thought it might help putting it down x

So sorry to hear you are going through a bad time! Take some time, get some rest and then take it from there when your head is a little clearer!!

Thinking of you
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Oh hun, I am so sorry you are going through this. Me and hubby had a massive row yesterday to the point where I nearly left and if my car hadn't been in the garage I would have done. He also said some really awful things and no matter how upset I got he didn't stop. Anyway, I went for a walk and came back and he didn't apologise, but we sat down and talked and he admitted he had been horrible and gone totally over board.

Maybe sometime apart would do you good. It's hard for blokes to understand what we're going through and how difficult pregnancy is. xxxx

Oh cozza. I am so sorry sweetie. I don;t really have much advice other than to say look after yourself xxx

oh poor you, pregnancy can be an emotional rollercoaster and can impact so much on relationships with our other halves.
All i can suggest is to give yourselves some time and when you're ready sit down and talk it out, maybe with the help of a third party.
Take care of yourself
B
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Hi hun,

Sending you massive ((((((((hugs)))))))). I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time. Were things rocky before you were pg or is it since then? Because as bod says, pregnany puts a massive strain on relationships sometimes. It also effects our OHs, though I forget that a lot of the time!! I think sometime to calm down and think is a good idea, then perhaps getting together to talk about things?

Really sorry you are going through this honey, sending you lots of love,

Kristen xxxx

thanks guys. he had an anger problem Kristen and he went through counselling and was so much better! We were getting on great and that was the stipulation i put on hvaing a baby. he had to sort our his temper and prove he could stay calm - and he did! he was never violent just blew up over things way too much and for too long.

recently he has started snapping again and me being hormonal hasnt helped - in fact it has made it worse x

Bless you honey - I can't really offer much advice but a big ((hug)) and I am thinking of you. I really hope that you can take some time and sit down and talk; so that you are happy with whichever decision you take. Its a big step so hope you can both take the time you need.

I really hope you are ok. Look after you and bean
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Sorry to hear this, thinking of u and sending Lots of hugs too. Xxx

Sending you a hug hon x

oh honey. so sorry to hear this. Hope it all works itself out. ((((hugs)))) xxx

Hope you're ok Hon - sometimes a bigh blow out is all it takes to out things in perspective.

Fingers crossed for the outcome you want - whatever that may be.

Been thinking of you, I know none of us can help, but I hope knowing we are all here to talk to is some comfort.

xx

thank you. i really appreciate all your support. i am trying my hardest to stay calm and not think about it. feel in limbo and hubby is still being nasty and poisonous. I have my 16 week check tomorrow and he is coming. I am honestly DREADING it!!! x

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Sorry to hear you are having such a rough time. My OH and I have a fairly stable relationship but we have really taken strain recently through this pregnancy. I am not normally moody or hormonal and he j ust doesn't know how to react to me at the moment. Also, it really is all about me a the moment (esp as I had horrible morning sickness) and he has had to take a back seat in the whole thing. I said to him that i was sorry I couldn't give him what he needed at the moment.

My only real advice is to talk to him and be honest... but when you are both calmer. And maybe go for a counseling session? Do everything you can to make it work before you walk away from it honey.
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thanks foxinsocks. i really want to but while i have calmed down, he is making a point of carrying it on and doesnt seem to be phased by the fact that our marriage is ending. x

I am sorry you are having a tough time Cozza, I can only imagine how hard it is one you on top of the ups and downs of pregnancy xx

Sending you lots of love and like the other girls have said, take care of yourself and bump first and do come here if you need to talk.

I hope your 16 week check goes ok tomorrow, perhaps going to your appointment will help OH feel involved in the pregnancy and recognise that he needs to look after you both - here's hoping things get easier for you xx

sending more hugs, i hope that your 16 week check goes ok tomorrow. Maybe this appt will help him put it all in perspective. Maybe you could talk to him tomorrow and explain how you're feeling and maybe see if he would consider couples counselling - it might give you some space to work out if you both want to be together or if not, how you raise your little one without being in a couple.
Hope tomorrow goes ok
Take care
B
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i hope you are all right! I have been up since 6am tossing and turning and throwing up (morning sickness stopped weeks ago!) so i think it is just the worry about what is going to happen x

Sorry to hear your going through such a hard time at the moment hun!
I hope everything went well at your 16 week check-up.
Sending you ((((hugs))))

Kim
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Hi hun,

How did you get on at your appointment today? Really hope that everything went well.

(((((((hugs)))))))

Kristen xx
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