Well, what a **** weekend so far...

For those who don't know me-on month 26 TTC, 2 m/c, 1 x IVF.

Found out last night on the dreaded facebook that a girl I went to school with is pg and due in April, having got married in June this year. She wasn't even engaged to her husband when we started TTC

Thought that was bad enough. Then AF starts today. THEN my sister tells me she is pg, having just come off pill and not even having AF yet! So devastated that I couldn't even wish her congratulations. She knows all about our problems and said she felt bad but I know she doesn't know what we're going through, cos everything's been so easy for her with TTC-last time as well.

Managed to hold the tears back til I got home. DH was there and he gave me a cuddle and said he was sorry. Think this is the first time it's all really hit him.

To top it all off, I'm working this weekend and can't even have a ****** drink!!!

Hope you're all having better weekends x

aw hun that really sux, and nothing i say is guna make it any better, but it's good to know hubby's being nice and understanding xx

Aww....hunny

I wish I was there to give you a big big hug. I totally sympathise with you. I have only had one MC but one is enough to understand what you're going through. I can only imagine that my pain is yours multiplied by 100.

Your sister must have been in a very difficult position and I'm sure she worried herself sick about how and when she would tell you that she was pregnant. I understand completely when you say that you were devastated and couldn't wish her congratulations. Its not that you're not happy for her because I imagine you're over the moon for her its just very raw, very real and very personal to you. Please dont feel guilty or annoyed at your reaction this is only natural and your sister will fully understand and be thinking of you.

My sister announced that she was pregnant and was 2 weeks ahead of my EDD if we hadnt of MC'd. Then our good friends who got married in Aug (we got married in April this year) announced they were pregnant. I was gutted and had a rant as I felt completely out of control and jealous. To make matters worse my sister sent me her 9 wk and 12 week scan pics via text (the 12 week one yesterday)...I was speechless....but neither of them knew that we were pregnant or trying so I cant blame them. I also burst into tears last night when my MIL asked how I was doing....I felt like a complete idiot but she has been fantastic.!

Maybe you could invite your sister round for a 'girlie night' and explain your feelings to her. That way she will understand the position you are in and she can explain how she feels. There are bound to be unhappy tears and happy tears but I think this might help you both enjoy her pregnancy and look forward to yours!! Who knows your BFP might be round the corner and you may both be PG at the same time!

I hope you're feeling a bit better. If you need a rant come on to BE and rant away. Thats what we're all here for. I'm more than happy to lend my shoulder to cry on.

lots of love
Snooks xxx

[Modified by: Snooks on November 07, 2009 10:15 PM]

[Modified by: Snooks on November 07, 2009 10:16 PM]

Thanks for your kind words girls.

Snooks-sorry you're in a similar situation but it must be even harder with people not knowing about your troubles. It's very hard to hide such strong feelings, isn't it?

Wishing you and Rocky lots of luck x

Think there must be something in the air at the moment taking away all the PMA. I've been feeling down as well lately. It seems like a cruel twist of fate that when you are trying with no success to get that BFP, everyone around you is announcing theirs. Since my MMC in March 6 people in my close circle of friends have announced they are pregnant and gone on to have their babies around the same date my EDD would have been. And although I am happy for them, each time it feels like someone has ripped my heart out. I have got to the point where I dread someone else telling me they are pregnant. But, somehow we have to find the strength to keep going, because that is the only way we are going to get our BFPs. And although their are days when we all feel really fed up and miserable with it all, I think we have to acknowledge that we have all gone through or are going through a really traumatic experience, and because of it we have actually become much stronger woman than we give ourselves credit for, and our relationships with our OHs have become much stronger. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for lots of sticky BFPs for us all.

I think you're right josieposie. There must be a reason why we are all having to go through hell and back. I think it has made the bond between me and DH even stronger, cos of what we've had thown at us.

It's so so hard when you hear someone's announcement yet again, and to try and hide your sadness when all you want to do is cry.

Wishing you loads of luck x