Hi all,

Im 9+1 weeks and im moping at home feeling sorry for myself today as ive phoned in sick!

I just dont know what to do anymore, ive had 3 MC in the last 12 months and I just cant be positive. I feel sick all the time which isnt helping my mood, and im just soooo worried that if I MC again I will fall apart! Im just in bits the whole time and im just no fun anymore poor hubby is soo good and i feel guilty that im not fun to be around. Im wishing away every day,

Does anyone else feel like this?

Han :-(

HI hannie

I'm gatecrashing from ttc - hope you don't mind.

I totally sympathise with how you are feeling at the moment. I had a mmc and erpc at the end of September (at 11+6), and since then have been on a real roller coaster of emotions. One minute I feel positive, the next I am freaking out that I will never be able to carry a child to full term (it was my first pregnancy so have nothing else to compare it to). At times I feel completely defeated and unable to see the point of anything. I have always been a "glass half empty" type of girl, and have the ability to worry myself into the ground and often feel anxious about, well, everything really.

Sorry, slowly getting to my point. It's not surprising that you are so worried after everything you have been through, and I am not going to try and tell you to stop worrying, cos I imagine that it would be impossible to stop worrying. But I would advise you to go and see your GP to see whether you can get any emotional support such as counselling, as well as any physical support such as regular early scans. If you're anything like me you will be bottling much of it up inside you which will make everything seem worse than it actually is. By talking it through with a third party perhaps you will be able to learn coping strategies and start to enjoy your pregnancy.

Sending you big kisses through the interweb waves. xxSara

Hi there,

I totally understand how you are feeling hun. I was exactly like that when I was in first tri. I was on my summer hols (I'm a school teacher) and I just felt like I was wishing my life away. I just wanted to go back to work to make time pass. And I seriously wondered if it was depression. But I don't think it was - it was just anxiety taking over my whole life.

Now that I am a bit further on (18 weeks) I feel much more like my old self, still slightly anxious, but certainly not the all-consuming feeling I had before. I had early scans which REALLY helped & found posting on here a great relief - I guess it is like a form of counselling!

I would definately find out about early scans, a HB at 9 weeks gives you something like a 97% chance of everything going perfectly (http://miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ma2006/information/ultrasound.htm ). Depression during pg is a known thing though hun, it is even one of the tick boxes on our green notes, so speak to a MW/GP if you are concerned.

Sending you ((((hugs))))

Kristen xxx

Im sorry your feeling so low. Your not alone in feeling this way. MC is such a sad time and its hard to feel positive after 3 losses, I remember my hubby sitting me down one day and telling me how worried he was about me, as i just was'nt the same girl he married. i could see it but just didnt feel able to pull myself out of it.
I felt very lonely as i had not told many of my friends ect what had happened, I decided i would be more open about the situation, spoke to friends, and all the lovely girls on here and bit by bit its got better. Come on here as much as you need to offload, We all understand.
Im now 15+5 . After 3 previous mc's i will never truly relax but happy endings do come around.
I know how hard it is. But you will get there hun.
Will be thinking of you,
Love Koala X X

Ahh thank you sooo much ladies all your advice is exactly what i needed and im definately going to get back on here a bit more.
The fact about a heart beat at 9 weeks is gr8 to hear, we saw a heart beat last week when I was 8+3 weeks and im feeling very sick today so im sure thats good. Im back at work today and just telling myself to snap out of it, the weekends are much easier to get through and by the time im back at work tuesday I will nearly be 10 weeks!
Its soo nice to hear that people managed to get past 12 weeks after MC, ive got everything crossed ringht now.
Thank you all your advice is great and knowing that people on here are the same as me makes me feel much less alone.

Hannie xxxx sending lots of good health to all xxx