Hi Ladies,

I'm afraid I haven't been in here in a while, so I hope you don't mind me posting. I promise to try and reply more from now on. Sorry that this is so long.

A good friend of mine had her 12 week scan on Monday and although the baby was alive, they have spotting severe congenital abnormality. My friend has had further tests and it's not looking good, they think she'll either miscarry naturally or have to have her baby boy removed with surgery.

Been pregnant myself and having suffered an ep and a mmc I'm finding the whole thing rather hard to cope with. I'm crying just writing this. This may sound so selfish, so I just want to reassure you that my heart is breaking for them. I feel like what I've been through is nothing in comparison to what she's having to deal with and the thought of her having to abort her currently live baby is just so sad.

Does any of this make sense? I just know how much I love my baby and I can't imagine having to make the choices that they are right now. I want to be there for her (we live 100 miles away from each other), but I completely understand that I might be the last person that she wants to see/speak to.

I've sent her a bunch of flowers and feel like doing so every week for the next month just so that she knows I'm always thinking of her.

No response needed, I just feel so sad

Sam xxx

Hi,
Keep letting her know how you feel, my son was still born 6 weeks ago, I was 27 wks pg. I saw and spoke to my best friend for the 1st time last weekend, she lives 100 miles from me. But although we didn't speak, she constantly text and e-mailed me and sent me flowers so i knew she was thinking of me. Personally I didn't want to talk to anyone and people respected my feelings and were there when i needed them.

I hope your friend will be ok, all you can do is be there when she needs you xx

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