...when I go and see the midwife tomorrow. I'm fully expecting my blood pressure to be raised even further.
Sorry this may turn into a bit of a rant.
I'm feeling quite down at the moment and my selfish mother is the one to blame.
Basic jist is that she went to America on the pretence to see her sister for 3 weeks, well that was on the 5th of September that she left and here we are today on the 3rd of November and she's still in America. With another man she met online 18 months ago that we only found about 2 weeks ago (nice!).
So my dad, me and my 3 sisters and my 3 nieces all feel like we've been lied to and generally pooped on from a great height.
And today just to top it off she comes fishing for sympathy because people are being horrid to her and making her cry - oh boo hoo. Try crying more or less every day because you feel let down and abandoned at this emotional time in my life! Not once since the end of August has she bothered to text, email, call or fb message me to see how me and pook are, and she was the one who wanted to be more involved with my pregnancy than she was with my older sisters.

OK I'm actually rambling now, but I just need to get it out.

And Breathe...

Hopefully I won't get told off too much tomorrow.

Laura
39 + 2

Hey Honey..... just breathe.... Just because your mother has been selfish and upset you all doesnt mean she can do it to your little one! Your baby is the most important thing in the world right now so dont let her get you in a state and get your BP going up!! Im glad u r seing MW tomorrow at least you will know if there is a change.

I am really sorry to hear of this news hun, at such an important time in ur life, its not on. She shouldnt be coming to u crying on ur shoulder - you have enough to contend with right now.... you should be totally chilled and ready for your pook to arrive!!

We are here for you if you want to get it off ur chest.

Big hug,

Carly 38+3
xxx

Sheesh - if it's not one thing it's your mother !!!!
I don't want to make light of your situation hun cos I'd be devastated too but if you want to borrow my mum for a bit you can?! She specialises in fussing and changing her mind depending on whoever's opinion she's listening to ...

i know it's tricky but for pook try and stay calm - she's the one missing out - you have the rest of your family around you

sending hugs n chocolate chick

Welsh x

39+4

Massive hug honey, I know it's not really much consollation but you sound like you need one! Your mum's being downright selfish, it's awful that she's done this to you. I really hoped she'd come back for you. It's crap, but the other girls are right, your priority is yourself and Pook at the mo. She'll be the one to regret it when she does come back, pregnant daughters have long memories...

Welsh, your mum sounds like mine. She's trying to take over because we 'haven't got enough time left to get organised' so she's trying to wrestle jobs off me. Thanks mum, basically you're saying I'm not doing this right and by washing all my nappies ready for use you're somehow rectifying that? I think not!

Makes you realise what sort of a mother you want to be though...

Em 37+1 x x x

Bless ya! Try stay calm though because I've noticed if I get stressed or upset it sets off my bh really strongly aswell.
I'd be no good with words for your mum situation as I have small issues with my own!
I really feel for you though, her loss?!

x

Thanks girlies for the hugs and choccie. I got smacked puddies last night for getting upset over it all again from my dad, bless him.
You're all right she's the one that's going to miss out big style, OH has imposed a no go area for her and the other man that she will be bringing back with her!! So sensitive to thrust it in everyone's face.
Still my lovely MIL has said I can share her with hubby as she's got lots of love to give.
I've going to see the MW this afternoon so hopefully i won't get another smack! But I know that this whole situation is doing something to me, I've lost 4lbs since last week do you think I should mention this to the MW? I assumed that I'm meant to be piling the weight on not it falling off??

Laura
39 + 3

Laura apparently in last few weeks you do lose weight. So mention it by all means but im sure she wont be worried.

At the end of the day your midwife telling you off will only make things worse in terms of stress so she shouldnt do that. I hope its not high for you love

big hugs

Em 38 + 3 x x

Oh Laura I remember you mentioning about your mum a while back. I cant believe that not only has she not made it back yet, but dropped THAT bombshell on you all - for you at a time so close to giving birth!! Geez...

Its good for you to get it all out though as no point bottling it up, but treat it like that. Get it off your chest, then push it aside. Or as I like to say "put it in a bubble, then blow it away...."

Im sure you mw wont give you a telling off today - if she did she would be quite insensitive in doing so. But come up with a plan to deal with your stress. Taking your MIL up on her offer sounds lovely. She sounds just what you need right now.

Your mum is in a world of her own at the moment with her new man. One day she will look back and live to regret her actions..but let her get on with it. You cant change that. So focus on the fantastic new arrival who is about to join you and make you a family with your OH! And draw on the support from your dad and your sisters, your OH and your MIL who all want to be a part of this fantastic moment in your life!

xx
39+1

Thanks again everyone - No telling off this week from the MW (last weeks MW wasn't my usual one and was quite blunt in her delivery). My MW was lovely actually reassuring me that everything is going OK with pook, blood pressure had come down a wee bit so back in another weeks time to see her again (if I make it to then, I really hope I don't!!).
I'm now going to try and relax with what little time I have left to enjoy being pregnant, as the last 4 weeks haven't really been that enjoyable with all the bum stuff going on. But now its time for some PMA and to get properly excited.

Thanks again for reading my rambling moans.
Love you ladies in here, can't wait for it all to transfer over to My baby was born in Nov 09!

Laura
39 + 3
Happier than yesterday, plus I've just scoffed a twirl! yum!

Hey Laura,

So glad to hear your BP is ok, any rise at this atage can be very dangerous so make sure you chill out lots, put your feet up and try to put things behind you. I know that's easier said than done but it sounds like you still have lots of people around you who love and care for you very much. Try to focus on this :)

Yum on the twirl front, I think I might have to have a mars bar now

Emily xxx
40+1

Hi,

I can't imagen how cheated you feel, but don't let it spoil this most special time.

It sounds that you have a lovely large family around you including those that have been there before.

Stroke your tummy and tell your little bean how much you love it!! and try to put your mum to the back of your head.

Thinking of you,

HJS