Hi girls,

Just feeling a little down about my dd1 at the mo, bless her shes has had so many problems with a awful girl at school. My hormones are all over the place today so thought i'd get my feelings down here incase she comes home after a bad day-and I need to be in control not blubbing along with her!

Ok so the outline of it is this................ Last term dd was having a few days here and there , upset, stroppy etc but wouldnt tell what was wrong. Anyway I finally got it out of her that a girl in her class has been hitting, poking, kicking her bottom etc in the playground. So I goes in and had a word with her teacher ( as it was it was parents evening..anyway....) the teacher has no idea, and says she will look into it etc.
Ok so fine, had great but busy half term.
Kids go back to school and in the first week back I get three days of hell from dd, she is so upset and emotional I just know whats been going on. Any way on the third day she is hysterical and this carried on till 6.30pm that evening when she finally told us that the girl is still doing it and kicking her really hard etc. The girl had told dd that if she told she would be a tell tale and a chicken.
I marched right up the school the next morning and before the teachers even had their morning coffee before starting the day I was ranting away like a good en!
Much to my disgust, the teacher I saw at parents eve had never said a word to anyone else, ooh I was fuming!
I then found out that one teacher had asked dd if she was ok the day before (after a awul lunch time of getting bullied) and dd didnt say a word.

Anyway, again I have been told that they will have a word with all concerned etc BUT on friday dd came home rather teary and a little off. This week she seems better BUT at on saturday dd had a party to go to and the girl was there. hubby was standing talking to another mum and child and the girl started poking dd in the back constantly. dd ignored her but hubby turned to this girl and said "that she might want to stop it as dd might well do it back" the girl turned round and said "why, she never does"

What a shock, my dd and this girl are only 6yrs old......its just ridiculous that she can be such a bully in this way.
the girl and dd used to be best friends before the summer hols...what on earth could have happened to the girl to make her so evil?

So as you can see things are a little upsetting right now, I try and be strong but it breaks my heart as I was bullied at school and by golly, felt like killing someone by the age of 10!

I am fully prepared to keep going to the school etc, BUT is this working? it seems that dd just wont say anything until it gets too much? I have tried to explain to her that she need sto tell someone when it happens but she gets so upset and says "I cant"
I just hug her to death and cry right along with her....my baby is normally a little sweetie she doesnt deserve this.

Scuse the spelling etc, cant see the screen for tears!!!

Just needed to get it out, I just have a feeling something is going to happen today...hope it doesnt but I expect it to!!!

You are right to keep going into the school!! I would keep going back til it stops! Do you know if the school have spoken to the other girls parents? do you know them?
I'm sure you do... but keep telling your dd its not her fault she had done nothing wrong etc Children can ofter feel being bullied is their own fault they must have done something or they must be bad etc!?
I hope it gets better soon!
xx

Oh hun. Your poor DD. I would deffo keep on at the school. I would have a word with the parents too. Do you know them well? Its tricky coz its such a young age. If she was older I think I would be inclined to say do it back ( I know alot disagree but personally thats what I would do) but beings as they are so young I think I would keep on and on at the school - Everyday that she comes home upset if you have to. The school need to take it more seriously than they have.

((((big hugs)))) to you both and I hope its just a phase for this spiteful little girl.

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Thanks girls,

I was right yesterday, the little (cow) girl kept pulling dd's hood on her coat at playtime and wouldnt stop. Not sure what the dinner lady did as dd just wouldnt talk about it so am going in to see her teachers again this afternoon.
Fine, I know pulling hoods isnt a major thing BUT when it comes after a few weeks of her being nasty I think it needs to be thought of as serious.

Hubby also spoke to the girls mother ( I think I would have just blew my stack if I did it) and the mother said that the girl is being awful at home, mouthy, nastey etc. No appology for my dd though, she was just wallowing in her own denial that her daughter would be like this!!!!

And so I am going to tell the teachers that if dd has any more times of being pinched, kicked, bullied by this girl I will go straight to the headteacher(not sure if she knows or not) wether they like it or not. I will give it two more days for them to deal with it, either get her parents in or keep her on detention at lunch time so she realises that its bloody down right nastey.

gggrrr I am so ready for the fireworks today.....pregnancy hormones in full force right now!!!!!

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Oh babs, thats awful, it is so horrible when your child is being bullied, I went through a situation with Jake being bullied at junior school, in the end I phoned the headmistress up as the boy who was bullying him was supposed to be watched at play times but he still managed to pick up a rock from the sensory garden and throw it at my sons head, I told her that unless she could guarantee his safety then I would not be taking my son into school until she could, she did try to argue with me that it was unfair to keep the other boy in but I pointed out to her that I was serious and fully prepared to take him out of school and go to the lea and the local press and tell them why. Funnily enough he wasn't bullied after that.

how did it go with the teachers hun? xx

The usual crap!!

But they also said it doesnt happen in the classroom at all anymore( dd confirmed this) so this means ita down to the dinner ladies(fat lot of good they are!!)
Anyway, I have told them if she comes home one single more time and says the girls has done anything, I will be in to see the head mistress etc.
Basically the teachers have said in the meeting they will notify the dinner ladies etc and make sure it stops.

I turned round and said " it had better stop NOW or you wont like my pregnant hormonal mother instinct ranting away in the headmistress's office because the dinner ladies were not told, would you?" Oh you should have seen their faces lol!!!!!

Fingers crossed they listen.....for their sake as well as the kids cos I wont rant quietly lol!!!

Thanks for asking hunnie, this situation really winds me up, my children are in their care all day, nothing should happen that makes them this upset.( fine I knwo theres always a little playground bustle but not bulling!) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I hope it stops now.. Dinner ladies are a pain i had the same thing with my daughter if she told them they would just tell her to stop telling tales!!! Pregnancy is terrible, i think i have spent most of this one thinking home schooling sounds good. Wanting to wrap them all up in cotton wool.
Hope she has a better, fun day at school today
vicki

orr bless your little girl, pulling hoods ect might not seem lke a major thing to an adult but to a 6 year old its very serious and i can't believe the mother is doing nothing about this.
I'm in a similar situation, my ds is 3 yo and at pre school, he's the youngest in his class (born Aug 31st) so quite a bit smaller than some of the other boys. There all lovely apart from one boy who is an absolute terror. He just tears around class screaming, shouting and swearing at the teachers ect. My son has come home nearly every day with a new mark on him, which if its just lads being lads i expect some accidents but i found out the other day its the same lad doing it over and over! I spoke to his teacher and explained that i would be removing him from her class if things didnt improve and then went to his mother. After having to fill in an accident form for her son scratching all down the side of my sons face and biting him, instead of telling him he'd done wrong she had him playing on the park, eating sweets! It honestly is beggers belief! I'd be disgusted if my son had acted like that.

Anyway i hope that you manage to sort things out for your daughter. It's the fine line between telling the teacher over and over and eventually telling you kids to hit them back. Granted we spend all of our time teaching them why this is wrong but sometimes a bully needs to be stood up to. Good luck x x