hi girls.

Elle is now 13 months and the last few weeks she has started to push the boundaries a little. we have bookcases in our front room and Elle has started to go up to them and start pulling hte books out on the floor. I say no and go over to her, kneel down and say no but she refuses to look at me when i am there and then when i have walked away, she picks another one out with a big smile on her face and places it gently on the floor then runs away to the other end of the room.

i know she is only 13 months but surely she knows what she is doing. She used to respond to no but now is pushing it a little to see how far she can get. I have just been watching supernanny and wondered how i should react to this. i dont want to ignore it as she will learn it is ok to do and will get confused in the future when she gets in trouble. am i doing the right thing? does anyone have any advice?

xx

I would remove her from the situation. so if she's at the book case and starts taking books then i'd say no but pick her up and take her away from them, walk her into a different room and distract her with something else.

I don't think I really had a problem with my ds at13months, he really started to push the boundaries at around 21months adn now he's 25 months we are having to instill more discipline.

I think the key is consistency and sticking by what you say

hope this helps

my daughter is 17mths and a couple of months ago she learnt how to climb up on the sofas and stand on the arms and pull books out the book case. I gotfed up withs aying no and her not listening so I let her climb on the chairs so ling as she is safe.

For the book case I cant turn my back. I tend to sit on the chair so she cant access the book case.
Have you tried putting the books back, taking her away and making her interested in another toy so she forgets about it? Unfortauntely once they know what they arent allowed to do they tend to do it! Alternatively put a piece of furtniture in fromt of the bookcase or mover the books elsewhere.

My lo started showing signs of not listening and throwing himself about at 11months. I had never even thought of disaplining him because he was so young and easy before that.
Spoke to a hv who said he's young yet but it was obvious something needed to be done. She said he wouldn't need it til he was at least 18 months or older.
Anyway I ignored her and put disapline in from then, (he's nearly 20 months now) and an angel.
He listens and knows instantly when I tell him to do something mummy means it.
He's very good and we have a great understanding.

Put it this way Zacky has been pushing the bounderies from as soon as he found he could (about 5 or 6 mths if i remember correctly). He threw his first holding his breath tantrum in from of all of my family on xmas day last year. He was 6 months old.

I believe that kids should be able to learn and explore the new world they are living in, but they need to be introduced to rules as well (usually for thier safety and our sanity LOL).

Zacky can still be a cheeky monkey, but he can be an angel as well. I get him to apologise when he hurts anyone, and he will go give them a hug and kiss to make up LOL.

I think it depends on what she is ready for. At that age I would distract her and say no firmly but there's not much else you can do.

They get worse though. Gabe's 18 months and his newest thing is putting things down the toilet! He knows he's not allowed to do it so if I say NO , NAUGHTY very loud and firm (and he really won't listen unless I shout!! - he'll just do it anyway) he'll stop but if I turn my back he'll do it anyway so I just have to keep on at him.

Kids never really stop pushing the boundaries so all you can do is be firm I'm afraid! With a proper tantrum it's best to totally ignore them until they've had enough!!