Ok everyone on here seems to be married....eek i'm not and have no intention to be anytime soon. Where engaged and yes i would love to marry my OH but theres no way we can afford it Now am pg i do feel maybe we should have tied the knot first but other than running off to Scotland theres just no way as we have a house, 2 cars etc. Just wondered what everyones opinions were, married or not?

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I'm not married!! Not even engaged! I don't think he dares pop the question coz then he knows he is stuck with my family for the rest of his life! haha.

I feel like I am a bad person for being pregnant and not married! It doesnt change how much we love each other and our little creation! xxx

We were trying for our baby beofre we got married, and I was 1 week pregnant at my wedding even though I had no idea. It really wouldn't have made any difference if we were married or not though, we both want to be together for the rest of our lives and have a family, you dont need a wedding ring for that xx

meee, im not married!!

We are thinking about a quiet registry wedding next year then a quick weekend in alton towers for our honeymoon! He has been married before and we aren't close to our families!

Not Married!!! OMG how utterly terrible that means you actually did the deed out of wedlock and I suppose you are all living in Sin too!!!
Of course because all us marrieds didn't move in with our partners until the day after the wedding and were all virgins on our wedding nights we have nothing to be ashamed of. Lol. Seriously don’t fret about it. You may get some snotty old woman turn her nose up at you when she doesn’t see a wedding ring on your finger but do you really care what someone like that thinks. In my book anyone who is that rude is not worth bothering with in the first place. At the end of the day will you love your baby any less because you are not married to your partner? Will you be less of a mother because you are a Miss? Of course the answers to these questions is no and at the end of the day what is important here is how you, your partner and how your baby all get on together as a family. In this day and age so many people get divorced and become single parents it is considered normal. When I was at school my family was the exception in that neither of my parents were married before they met each other and that they were still together. And that was 15 years ago. Oh they are divorced now btw.

I am married but Squiggle I would not feel bad for being pregnant and not having a ring on your finger. Its just the way it worked out for us, house > wedding > baby. My OH would definately loved to have a baby before we got married but I knew that if we had a baby it would take us forever to save for our wedding. A baby is a joy to have and its own little miracle weither or not the parents are married. Do what feels right for you*

:) Thanks Vbaby.

I am 21 although I look younger so no doubt when I start to show I will get some interesting looks, but I will rise above it! I know I am able to support my child and bring it up to respect people and have manners. More then a lot of other people can say! Rant over :)
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Hey squiggle, I'm sure no one will give you funny looks, I'm 21 too and starting to show. No funny looks so far but I really wouldn't worry even if you do, As long as your happy And able to bring up your child who cares what some people may think xxx

I got married in August but wasn't married when we had Lily. I honestly don't think it matters these days as long as you are both happy.x

We're not married, not engaged....yet.
Plan was house, engagement, baby, changed to baby, house still going through (taking forever)...waiting for the ring lol!

I dont feel bad about not being married, not sure we ever will be, we know what our relationship is, we know we want our family. Don't worry about it, like LouMichelle said these days it doesn't matter as long your both happy

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i was 21 and we wernt married when we had archie who is now 3.we got married when he was 18months old and to be honest,its soooooo nice having your child at your wedding, a real talking point as archie was a mini me of my husband awwwww!i think we did it a nice way round, we couldnt have afforded it if we got married first because having a baby teaches you to budget well and we may have overspent if we hadnt had any children to think about and then put off having kids for a few year, that was something i defo didnt want to do....

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