Hello! I'm 24 and my husband is 25. I am currently working as an NQT on my first year of teaching.With the job situation as it is the worst case scenario I will be unemployed next year so in a twisted way think that this might be a good time to have a baby as I will have the time I need. My husband is currently working on a masters at uni and (we assume) will be working next year. We rent our home and ideally I i would have liked to buy a house first...but it will be a long time before we would be in a position to do that. My worry is that I should spend time being sensible and saving money and working on my career but Ireally want to have a baby of my own now. My husband feels the same. We've been together since I was 17 and he was 18 and have had lots of time together....How did you decide to go for it? We've been married for 15 months so a wee while now! lol My main (only) worry is money! :(
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Hi Lou and welcome, there is just never a right time I have played around with all sorts of different scenarios in my head to the point where I have done my own head in!!

I am 30 and hubby is 31, been married nearly 6 months so not quite as long as you. We have just decided to go for it after xmas as hubby knows I have been mega broody lately and also he doesnt want to put it off any longer.

Money is a major issue to us to as hubby is self employed and I work for a Charity so my job is unsafe but even so as long as we are both in work after xmas and have managed to pay some off our bills off then we are going to go for it.

Go with your heart because your head will always find loads of different reasons why you should wait.

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Hi there! You almost sound like me... i am 23 husband is 22. Married 2 months (little bit off you lol). We rent. I love where we live so wouldnt move to a crapper area just for another bedroom. I have recently given up my NQT post due to stress, was too much for me!

I am also worried about money, but what we're doing is putting £100 in a bank account each month and a bit more here and there when we can till baby is born, and then we'll have a nice lump sum for when the little one arrives.

I think its all about doing what you want at this stage. I don't want to wait anymore, its our choice to have a baby. People keep saying to me 'but what about your career' and i just sigh and say 'i dont really want one' which throws people off!

Hope you ok and look forward to speaking lots on here!
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Thanks girls....it's such a big thing to think about and really scary/exciting!!! We were looking on the mamas and papas website the other night...how sad eh? lol We were getting all excited!
Rosemary-the NQT year is awful isn't it!!!? I'm finding it really stressful and just want it to be over and then I will be free to start my wee family! It feels like a black cloud over me all the time! :( Counting the months until next summer.

I could also have written this myself im 24 and h2b is 25 been together since we were 15 getting married in feb and im nqt and he is doing masters lol!! my hjob isnt temporary though its permanent but i still am woried about money we are going to start trying in april cant wait. everyone says there is never a right time so to hell with it!!

Yay, so pleased other people are going to take the plunge too! Its well frightening!

I lost the will to carry on with the NQT year so fair play to you ladies who are doing it. I decided I was starting to resent everything and that was no way to live, luckily husband to be is happy with me being at home for now.

Dont worry Lou, I worked at Mamas and Papas for 6 months while at Uni, it well put me off (price wise lol) i ordered a mothercare brochure and we wandered around john lewis nursery yesterday. And I have learnt to knit, so my baby has home knitted blankets. Sad huh.
So excited!
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Hi broody bride to be...you must be mega busy planning your wedding with all of your work at school. A good distraction though! :) I think we are going to start in July...! :) We're thinking about things we need to get for the house just now like a new sofa etc and we're maybe going to start getting things like that as well as trying to save! But I agree...to hell with it! everyone else manages! ;) Good idea with the knitting Rosemary-you must be so creative! That'll be lovely for your new born, the knitted stuff is always gorgeous! :)

Hello,

I just wanted to agree with what the other ladies have said really, in that there will never be a right time and you should just go for it! Life is far too short to put having a baby off when you want to do it. I was also worried about money as we have no savings after getting married in August, wondered if I should build my career up first, and I have also just started a two year masters. But in the end me and my hubby decided to just go for it, some things are more important than money and a career. Also, you never know how long it will take you, as some of the poor ladies on here have been trying for months or years. So I am now waiting for my first AF after coming off the pill 24 days ago so I can get cracking!!

Oh and also wanted to say, I did a three year degree in primary education but never made the NQT year as I got so stressed in my last placement that I had a mini nervous breakdown! So good on you girls for sticking it out, and Rosemary I completely understand why you got out!

maybe I just want a baby so I don't have to be a teacher Magpie!!! :L Just kidding! ;) Good luck with ttc :) So exciting, feels like I have AGES to wait! Can't wait to start ttc though. Thanks for all the advice

Hi Lou,
I am coming to the end of an UG degree next summer and was planning to get a job and then ttc.But then I started 2 think do I really want to be taking maternity leave right at the start of a new job??

Like the others have said,you can always find reasons to put it off,and I think that has a lot to do with others opinions ie.finances,career,age etc. It almost seems society wants to put people off having a baby because it's such 'hard work'.

I have decided that I'm going to start ttc before I get started with my career as I have more time now. I have a PT job which I earn enough on to claim SMP and we are moving into our house early next year :)

Just got to persuade OH that its best to start ttc sooner rather than later...
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lol thanks magpie, i met some of my old TA's for lunch today and remember why i left and i find comfort in that!

If I don't want a frigging career thats my choice.... grr am so sick of people asking why i dont want a highly stressful and badly paid job. Hmmm wonder.

lol thanks magpie, i met some of my old TA's for lunch today and remember why i left and i find comfort in that!

If I don't want a frigging career thats my choice.... grr am so sick of people asking why i dont want a highly stressful and badly paid job. Hmmm wonder.

Wow this thread is so reassuring - in a weird way! I did my nqt year last year and it nearly killed me. This year I am doing supply. Last year I was so stressed out, used to get to school at 7.45am and would leave when the caretaker kicked me out, worked nearly every evening and weekend, then every holiday as well. It was horrible. Everyone kept telling me that it was just hard because I had to do the whole nqt thing as well, but to be honest the nqt paperwork was a piece of p*ss compared with THE ACTUAL JOB!!! I found that I got disenchanted very quickly - I was doing so much work, but only a very tiny bit of it had anything to do with teaching!

When we started thinking about ttc I was unsure because I felt like I would be throwing my career away. Then one day I realised that frankly, I don't want to work my way up to Head, or Deputy, or even subject leader! I really couldn't care about having some sort of high flying career - a couple of days a week would suit me down to the ground! Plus, like everyone else on this thread I started to think "Just when WILL it be a good time?" So decided, sod it! The only concession I made to my teaching career was to wait until my nqt year had finished so that I would have that under my belt.

I am SOOOO glad to have found other people who think teaching sucks as much as I do! Well, not actual teaching children, I love that, just the whole being a teacher thing - that sucks.

YAY this is making my day, in a weird way lol. I think teaching is dying, its paperwork after paperwork after ofsted report what a load of...(insert swear word). I got fed up after a month.

My TA's say having a family is such a better idea for me than slaving away for something i dont believe in anymore.

Now, who wants to ring my mum and tell her? lol argh!

Hey Lou yeah mega busy is right but all wedding stuff sorted pretty much finished last bits over half term. Luckily my school is fab and everyone has been great. Think NQT is going good for now anyway! Can't wait till april though till we get down to business. To be truthful I would give up my job in the morning if it meant we could have a baby even though I do love the job! Best of luck ladies x

hello ladies i am gate crashing this must be a new catogory? i dont remember it being here when i was ttc. i have a 14month beautiful little girl and just wanna say it is hard work having a baby especially if u enjoy sleeping lol BUT i have never loved anyone as much as her and u wont believe the love u have until u have one everything changes but for the better!! the saying their is no right time is true in a way but u know when its right for u and what feels right and no matter what u will make it work. just want to say goodluck and time goes by sooo quick so it wont be long til u have ur beautiful babies xxx