hi my little boy is 6 months old. ive been forced to be a single mum as due to his childhood my fiance has to go through an assessment before we can be a complete family. while hes goin through this we have to follow socials orders.
my fiance has only been allowed to have contact with our son for one hour a fortnight and when our little boy was born my fiance could only stay with us for 2 hours after the birth and then he had to leave and not see him again for another 2 weeks. i had a really bad labour and all sorts of complications afterwards and had to be kept in hospital for a week and it was so hard seeing all the fathers coming in and out all day and my fiance not being able to see our new son.

he has had to move out of our family home that we have shared for 2 years and it is so hard going from living with him everyday to seeing him once or twice a week when my mum can watch our son for a bit.

now he is 6 n a half months old and they are nowhere near close to completing my fiances assessment as they dont seem to care that its ripping our family apart. in the last 6 n half months my fiance has seen his son for a total of 15 hours and has missed out on so much.

we have now been told that his assessment will not be completed by xmas and so we cannot spend our sons first xmas as a family as they will not supervise a contact visit on xmas day. i guess they are all too busy being with their own families.

i dont know how i am going to cope on xmas day on my own. we had planned our pregnancy and never imagined all this would happen and it is so unfair that people can control our lives like this

i am finding it really hard to cope on my own. our son is very advanced and already he crawls everwhere and pulls himself up on furniture and walks along it. he messes with everything and only naps for half hour at a time and thats if im lucky. the only time i can get a bath is if i get in with him and he doesnt sleep til midnight and lately has refused to sleep in his cot he will only sleep next to me in my bed and i feel so lonely that its a small comfort to me to have him next to me but i know this is not good for him

i am so tired all the time and sometimes just feel liike giving up

i just want to know if there is anyone out there who is in remotely the same position and if there is then how the hell do i get though this?

Hi, I didnt want to read and run and feel sad I cannot offer much hope. I'm not aware of the full situation, but this sounds very serious and stressful for you. I am sorry you are feeling sad and hope things work out for the best for you and your family. Very difficult to comment on this, like I said, but wishing you and your baby all the very best. x

Hi

Sorry I can't be much help. Just wanted to say that even though you are going through a really hard and difficult time, don't take it away from yourself that it sounds like you have done a fantastic job with your little boy. Its not easy, even with 2 of you, and you have done it mainly alone.

I can understand how unfair it is for your partner to only see your son a handful of times during his life. Its truely upsetting. Just I guess, no matter how much it hurts now you just have to lok forward to the time that you are going to be together as a family. I know that you can say that it is easier to say that than to do it.

Is there any way of complaining about the time it is taking. Can you appeal?

And with christmas, what about celebrating it properly when you are all together again?

I'm sorry this reply isn't want you wanted in terms of someone going through the same as you. And I wish your family happiness in the future. And if you ever just need to talk, please feel free.