Hi ladies, not sure if i count as young. According to everyone we are too young, i think its rubbish.

How is everyone? I am not even ttc yet, mostly hanging on preparing to ttc... but its so exciting that we've decided to add to our very small lol family!

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Hi Rosemary..... do I recognise the screen name from YAYW??!

lol you do indeed, i think many people have swopped from there to here!
How are you?
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I'm good thank you, how r u? Exciting that you are planning on ttc!! You are not too young, don't listen! I'm 18 weeks pregnant with our first - so exciting!! xx

I am super cheers, got married in August and am now becoming so broody its a bit mad.

I am hoping to ttc sooner than i want, but its getting husband on board. I am cooking him a yummy dinner and we're going to chat.

I am currently out of work due to stress and have no desire to return.... which is making it worse, as its all i think about!!

How exciting for you!!! You may have even had little one before i even get ttc!!
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hi g/c from ttc. im 23 and my oh is 24. we've had the whole too young speech and people don't even know we are ttc yet!

but my view is that life is too damn short to wait until the 'right' time to have a baby and tbh there is no perfect time! so we are going to go for it and take life as it comes.
a few things that have happened to oh and i have made me think like this and i feel that at 23 or 33 i will make a great mum so why wait!

x k x

p.s. im a former yayw addict hehe, got married in june and am soooo broody :)

lol awesome!

It takes away to 'make' a baby anyway, so if i dont get pregnant for 6 months and then it takes 9 to make one then i am 24!!! so its not as bad

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I'm five weeks away from 25 and my OH is 33 - according to everyone we're "far too young", so I think there's just no winning, to be honest! We're not even ttc yet.

We've decided that the reasoning behind the "too young" bit (bearing in mind that my grandmother was 21 when she had my dad and my mum was 26 when she had me) is because if OH and I have a baby, we're not the babies of the family anymore and although I've not lived at home since I was eighteen, it's like an official "flying of the nest" where you no longer need your parents anymore. TBH, I would have thought that having a first baby would mean you want your parents advice more than ever...:lol:

so... we're doomed if we do, doomed if we dont!

Oh you know what, i am going to ttc much quicker than i thought, because its what i want to do!!!

Defintiely! I'm sorry to hear you are out of work, but being a mum has got to be the best job in the world anyway!! We were told that because of my PCOS it was highly likely we'd conceive without help. We went on holiday, talked about starting the various processes you have to go through, and conceived naturally whilst we were there! So my bump is my little miracle! We have had the 'your too young' speech from various people (my dad mainly, I think blue bella is right - he finally has to understand that I'm a grown up now I'll have a baby of my own!) but everyone else who knows us is over the moon because we werent sure it could happen! I'm still 22, will be 23 when the baby is born and hubby will be 28.

I think that every situation is different, but if your hubby wants kids, then if he's anything like mine he won't take much convincing!! In the mean time if you want to hear about the morning sickness and the aches & pains of pregnancy to put a slight dampner on it then I'm your girl!! xx

lol bless you!

I did quit my job, i was a teacher, only an nqt but i just couldnt hack it. Its made me reassess whats important.

I think I am actually more scared of my mums reaction that anything and thats why we'r putting it off.

I think your mum will come round..... I've never seen my mum so excited, she rings me just to tell me how excited she is, she talks to my bump etc. Maybe at first she will be shocked or have reservations, but the first time she feels your baby move she will melt!

If it was up to my dad I wouldn't have had a baby til i was, well god knows actually! But it's you and hubby that are important, as you will be the new little family! xx

thank you for your comments, i suppose only time will tell to be honest.
I think the problem is.. grrr she lives really far away, like 600 miles, so i dont see her. Saw her at the wedding, and thats it... for, well i dont know when. So its phone calls mainly, which suck as I cant even see her reaction to anything i tell her. Maybe I will just have to bite the bullet when the time comes!

I just fear my baby won't have my family in its life as they all live so far away. Also, my brothers and sister are still younger (one older, 3 younger) so was wondering, do they cope when an older sibling gets pregnant?
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i am 23, DH is 29 and i will be 24 when i give birth beginning april. I dont think for one moment i am too young to be having a baby, we have been together for 4.5 yrs, married for 7 months, we both have decent paid jobs, a mortgage and a secure home. Surely as long as you can afford to bring up a child in a loving secure environment then thats all that matters....or am i missing the point? Both our families are happy and very supportive, maybe we are just lucky to have the blessings of our families, i dnt know what i would do if i didn't have my mums support as shes my best friend

k xxx

ah katie-rose thats great! I know I am ready to have a baby but I fear that everyone around me is not... if that makes any sense?

I don't know anyone who has had a baby so I can't really talk to anyone about it either. I suppose when i do get pregnant I will just have to hope that everyone around us is ok with it!

Good to hear from other ladies my age though, hope ur well xx

Rosemary, if u and hubby feel ready then thats all that matters!! If we waited around to try and please everyone through our lives we would never do anything for ourselves, and i dnt have many friends that have had babies but i find coming on here an absolute god send, plus when u are pregnant and get a bit further along u can start going to parenting classes etc which will get you intouch with other mums 2b

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Hi i'm 23 and hubby is just 24. We got maried in July (also an ex YAYW addict!!) and made no secret of the fact we wanted kids sooner rather than later. we were lucky to fall in our first real month of trying and are now due 6th June 2010 and so far everyone we have told except hubby's mom ( she's a different story anyway!) has been really excited for us. Sorry to ramble i'm just trying to say that if you know your both ready then go for it. People might surprise you and the ones that want to lecture you don't matter anyway!!

Carly 6+4 xx

I was 22 when I had my first and now 21 weeks with no.2 and I'm 24 (will be 25 when it's here). I was really worried bout how my parents would react but they are over the moon at being grandparents. I certainly don't feel too young to have children and don't feel like I have to miss out on anything. Still have nights out though not many but that's due to working weekends more than anything x

thanks ladies, you make me feel even more ready as I know u are talking the truth.

I suppose my worries stem from the fact i gave up my career very quickly lol, a month of teaching and i thought sod it! And have no interest in finding another career as it doesnt interest me, husband is fine with this as he earns a nice amount and we have a fantastic apartment in the best location so all our spare money is fun money.

I am just concerned what people will think of me, like i am a kept woman and not doing anything, i feel very lazy and extremely guilty to everyone.

After the wedding in august i feel very deflated, suddenly all that energy i had is gone and now the baby feelings are as strong as the wedding!
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Lol if people want to think that then let them!! When me and hubby got together within 6 months we were living together with a joint mortgage!! I know for a fact that certain members of his family thought i was "after him for his money" (even though at the time he only made about 6k more than me a yr.....not a significant amount atall!) but at the end of day we knew the truth, and i wasn't with his family or friends i was with him! Their will always be someone that will have an opinion on what you are doing, you cant change that unfortunatly but you can choose to ignore it!
One thing to take into consideration though before you go aheard and start TTC is at the moment you may have this "spare fun money" but once that lil one comes you wont! lol! All you extra money will go on the baby and also, like us, u are in an apartment (a two bed new build im guessing?) they only have so much room so u will prob want to sell for a house once baby comes along like we are having to do, in this current financial climate its extremly hard to sell and dont fall into the same trap as us and end up with an apartment u cant sell unless u make a major loss! (eck sorry to go on!!)

k xx

We don't have a mortgage as I just don't fancy one, we rent, a fabulous amount as well which is why we don't want to move. We do have 2 beds which would one would be the nursery but we talked about it and we're thinking of moving in a few years, but i dont want to put off having a baby because i need one extra room... if u know what i mean.

I reckon we'll save loads in the ttc months and while pregnant which will help loads but i dont want to go and spend it on moving to a house in a slightly worse area (in southampton i am in the most desirable area already)... oh dear i am rattling on about nothing.

I need another cup of tea i think!
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