Hi all

I was just wondering if anyone else has been/is in the same situation. I have a gorgeous little boy who is just over 2. I love him to bits and would love for him to have a brother or sister as I am one of 2. Hubby isn't keen and I am finding it really hard, it is almost becoming an obsession for me (although I don't mention it that often to OH as I just get upset)

I just don't know what to do really. I earn the money in our family and have just got promoted so will be on about the same as when we had DS, so I don't think it is a finance thing.

Am I being selfish?

Sorry for the rant xx

Hi Hun,

I dont think you are being selfish at all, its nice to have siblings and as you say you are going to be financially stable etc.

What are his reasons?

Oh, you're not alone and you are NOT selfish, you are thinking of giving your little boy a brother or sister, and that's great.

My daughter was born after IVF with donor eggs, and we have 2 embryos in storage and my husband won't let me go and get them; I so want our daughter to have a sibling and he just says that something might go wrong, she's such a handful (only to him) and we should be grateful that we have her and not push our luck, etc etc etc

But I want her to have a companion through life, especially as we're older parents, and his refusal is driving me mad as time is running out.

My ds is 6, and for years oh was adamant he didnt want us to have another. Due to stress and other things I must have forgotten to take my pill, resulting in dd being born in March. I was worried that oh would say some awful things when we found out, but he didnt and he's been great ever since she arrived.

Thank you all for your replies. Librarylil I really feel for you, it must be really hard knowing your embryos are there just sitting there. I really hope you manage to convince your OH before time runs out.

It is sooooo frustrating, I am hoping time will help, but I worry that the easier it gets with DS as he gets older the more used he will get to the easier baby-free life.

Take care all xx

Hi, I had exactly the same problem with my ex. (That's not the reason we split.) He was adamant he wouldn't have another. I was pretty sure I didn't want another either as I am one of 5 (2 step-siblings who I've grown up closely with; 1 full sibling & 1 half all who I grew up with) and hated it. BUT considering I was only 19 when Lo was born and my ex was 22, I wanted to keep my options open that MAYBE we might have another but he was so closed-minded about it (about that and everything else but I wont go on! lol!) . Unfortunately, I don't think there's anything you can do at all except hope he comes round. It might be worth talking to him more - if he's worth it, he'll listen to your feelings and you can have a discussion about the pros and cons....But with my ex he just would never listen to my opinion. Maybe he will set a date a few years in the future when he feels he may be ready. I would urge you not to convince him to TTC soon, rather to wait until he's ready and really will welcome a new baby just as much as you will rather than being nagged into it isywim?! Good luck x