Hi ladies,
I 8+6 weeks pregnant with my second child and it feels so different to the first. This pregnancy was planned so obviously we are over the moon, but I find myself thinking about this pregnancy far less that with my son. I remember with my son I thought about ALL the time and would day dream loads, but I just don't get that this time round, infact I have to keep reminding myself that I'm pregnant as I will often keep forgetting. Other people are different too in that they don't ask questions all the time and don't really seem that bothered.
I also feel guilty for my son who has his Mummy and Daddys sole attention for 3 yrs and now all of sudden he has to share it, and I wonder how its going to affect him.

Despite me feeling guilty I am still so excited and over the moon to be having another baby as it feels like a long time ago with my son that he was a baby and I'm very much looking forward to going through it all again.

Have any of you ladies felt the same with their second,third or fourth prenancies ect, it would be nice to know I'm not on my own.

I was exactly the same!!
I didn't stare or stroke my bump half as much as I did first time round. Didn't mean I didn't want it or love it any less, it was there and happening if that makes sense. I put it to myself that thinking that way just made this baby a bigger part of me bcoz it felt so natural this time.
For me it took a couple of months to get used to the guilt when dd2 arrived. I felt guilty dd1 had all my attention as a newborn and dd2 didn't, but then I also felt guilty bcoz dd1 had to share me. But in actual fact it was the best thing for dd1, she's learnt to share and wait which is all part of growing up, no matter what age.
I know it's hard not to feel guilty, but try not to. Once your new baby is here you'll remember what it's like to fall in love again and everything begins to fall into place x

Thaks for you reply hayls, and your right I suppose its because this time it does feel more natural and all the symptoms I've experienced before therefore doesnt feel so Alien to me.
I also think it will do my boy the world of good and to be honest since he's found out I'm having a baby he is obsessed with mothering all his toys especially his special bugs bunny lol, which I'm hoping is a good sign that he will be as loving to the new baby.

For me the fact that new baby doesn't have my full attention while my son did isn't so much of an issue as my boy is at pre-school and starts school next september, therefore I will have plenty of one to one time with new baby (I hope lol.)

Thank you again for your reply, you have made me feels alot better, and its nice to know I'm the only one who felt that way. xx

Starrky - Im felt exactly the same.. exactly.. I think its natural... Still worrying now (23wks) but its getting more real and Im getting big so I can't forget anymore.

My son will be 19 months old - terrible 2's with a newborn.. ummmm
x

Hello....I am 17 weeks preg and my son will be 4 in december, I am feeling exactly the same and really feeling worried that my son will feel left out.
he says he is excited about the baby as long as it does not play with his toys....hehe.
I just hope that while the baby sleeps I can give my son the attention he is used to having!
xxxx

i was the same, i think some of it was down to having a toddler running about, so didn't always ave time to think about it, but i think some of it was, been there done that, and i knew not to worry at every little niggle and twinge.

It's completly natural and chances are once the baby starts to kick, you might change abit in regards to it.