hi all...

i need some advice from you!

iv been with my OH for a year and our baby is due in september. Even before i got pregnant my OH has never really been the one who instigates things sexually... its usually me and iv tried to speak to him about it but he just says theres no reason for it.

I didnt think much of it until a few months into the pregnancy i found some pics of women on the laptop... i asked him about them and he said they were from some website he had been looking at them and that he hadnt kept them intentonally and that he wouldnt look again. After an argument, i left it thinking it was just a stupid mistake on his part.

Anyway the other day i noticed he had a secret email address... after looking in this email address (wrong of me i know i shouldnt have) i found some emails he had been sending to women and these women had emailed him back with pics of themselves. The pics werent rude, they were just pics. But i cant understand why he would want to see pics of other women. I confronted him and he said that he was just been stupid and apologised and he swore that he hasnt cheated. but i cant get my head round the reasons for it when we have a baby on the way!

sorry for the long post... just needed to speak to someone!

Jess XX

Oh hun, i can totally understand how you feel.

You really need to get the truth out of him and then see whether you are able to trust him again or how you feel towards it all.

I found my lo's dad commenting on women in their photos and then also guessed his password to fb, went on his inbox and he had been chatting up a women with the intention to meet her, this was when lo was only 3 months old and i decided to split because i knew he had broken my trust and would never trust him again!
He never cheated on me but it was more down to the trust issue.
All i can say is you need to have a very good talk and work things out if this is what you both want.
Maybe he was doing it all for attention? My ex did it for this reason as i was a nightmare when pregnant and had no feelings for him so pushed him away.
I really hope you sort things out, it isnt nice being in that situation so big hugs, sorry i probably havnt been that helpful! xx

Thanks... i appreciate the reply.

going to talk to him tonight and let him know how im feeling because at the moment i dont feel like i can trust him!
xxxx