I'm in a dilema and need some opinions please. I know i will get mixed reactions from what i am about to say from previous stuff on here but I just can't decide what to do!

Ok, I desperately feel I need a holiday. I haven't been away for over 3 years now, not even a weekend, except to my mum n dad's but it is far from a holiday when we go!

Hubby just isn't keen on holidays. he has OCD and can't handle the change and every holiday we have been on he ruins in some way so not keen to do this as we don't have the money we used to so it needs to be spent wisely so to speak!

Chloe has been playing up for some months now, some of it typical stuff for her age etc and some very extreme behaviour. I have an underactive thyroid which is still not properly under control with medication. I feel permantly exhausted to the point where even after 8-10hrs at night i could happily nap all afternoon! Basically I just feel I need a proper break from normality

Things with hubby also aren't great and I feel I need some space to sort my head out.

I half-heartedly said to hubby the other night I feel like booking a holiday abroad for me for a week and leaving them both here. he turned round and said why don't I then as he isn't bothered about holidays etc.

So anyway I was out with a friend for a catch up last night. She too wants to go away. She is older than me and divorced and not in a relationship so got no probs with going and was going to book something. I would have no probs going with her and we jokingly said about going away somewhere abroad for the week.

I've told hubby what me and friend discussed last night and he thinks i should go. But i don't know. I do really want a break but I am not sure i am can leave Chloe for that long. A couple of nights wouldn't be a problem (she has stayed with my mum n dad several times since born and although i really miss her I am fine with it and she is too) but a week is a different story.

I am torn in two and don't know what to do - Part of me wants to go but part isn't sure. I'm also worried, knowing hubby, that although he says it is fine, there will be a price to pay afterwards and by then it will be too late.

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Lara xx

What about a compramise if you aren't sure about going for a week? Book a city break for 3/4 nights instead, that way you get your break but wouldn't have to leave Chloe for as long. I think that if I was in your position I would feel exactly the same, I'd hate to leave the lo's, but I'd love a break.
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You sound like you need some proper time out so it might be worth taking the 'chance' while you can. You and your girlf could go somewhere in the UK not too far away but in the middle of nowhere for a spa / hotel break.

We went to Lake Vyrnwy in Wales and it was total middle of nowhere, lovely walking, chilling out, a few pubs and houses and best of all.,,a spa attached to the hotel for treatments, massage, sauna, steam room, heated sun loungers etc etc!!! I never thought I'd be a spa person but once you've had a baby, a spa is like 2nd heaven!!

[Modified by: Lizzie77 on July 17, 2009 03:59 PM]

Sweetheart it sounds as though you really really need this. I think you should talk seriously to hubby about it & as bedhead says maybe a 3-4 night city break would do the trick although sometimes they are as expensive as a week...

I hope you get sorted love, I know how things have been for you & you definitely deserve some time to yourself xxx

Sweetheart it sounds as though you really really need this. I think you should talk seriously to hubby about it & as bedhead says maybe a 3-4 night city break would do the trick although sometimes they are as expensive as a week...

I hope you get sorted love, I know how things have been for you & you definitely deserve some time to yourself xxx

Personally I would go, you sound really fed up and maybe missing them both will do you good, its not a crime to have a holiday way from your lo and you would be leaving her with her daddy who has said he is happy for you to go.
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Hey and check out these views (sorry, couldn't resist!!)

Thnaks for all replies and suggestions. We both really want to go abroad if poss to really feel like we have had a break and we are both craving some lying by the pool with a good book, alcoholic drink or two if you catch my drift?!!

We both do really want to go to New York as well but even a mid week break would cost more than a week in august all inclusive somewhere!!

I just don't know, I know the first couple of days I would be fine but just don't know how I would be after that!!

I just wish someone would book it for me then it was done but she doesn't have the internet so it's down to me to look and book!!

Lara xx

Honestly, sounds like you need the break. If you aren't sure about a whole week then I'd also suggest 3/4 days - one of those city break things would be good. Hubby & I had one in paris (4 nights i think it was) a couple of years ago and it was great - not too long a flight and no hassle getting there. Course we ran about like idiots sight seeing which wasn't that restful so you might not want to do that

Why don't you pop into a travel agent and see what they can offer for short breaks - maybe even you might get some good last minute deals

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Oh dear! Do you have one of those magic sponges (might be worth a try)

Lara

I so much understand your position.. I took my real break while I was home and even our 3 nights 4 days stay in the sea side hotel has changed our relationship after the pregnancy and delivery stresses and tensions.. My holiday was worth every penny that I spent on my own expense... and we came back so fresh and as one...

Lara go for it! you simply deserve it...

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Bubbly

I don't know how old your lo is, probably younger than my older kids were when I went on hol with a friend. They were 8, 7 and 4. I got divorced the previous year and after a lot of trauma decided I needed a break before starting university. My kids stayed with their nana and she took them to her caravan - they actually had better weather then we had in Greece! When my mum took the kids for a break when I was doing exams I really really missed them cos I was the one left at home in the familiar situation, but when I was away, because I was in a totally different place with diff routines, I didn't miss them as much as I thought I would. We were there in May and there weren't many familles - on the last day I saw a little boy about the same age as my son and it did make me really wish he was there. But the kids had a fab time, and so did I. I came back feeling really refreshed too. So, I would say go for it, and I hope you have a fab time.

hun, as the others have said, it sounds like you could really do with the break!
If you're feeling really tired and run down, a little time away will do you the world of good. Yes you will miss your lo of course you will, but whats better in the long run, missing her for a week but coming home well rested and happy, or staying home, carrying on with things and not enjoying her so much because you feel tired and poorly? And as for hubby, well you know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder! It will probably do the two of you some good to have a bit of breathing space.
And if the worst did happen and you were missing lo so much it was making you miserable, i'm sure you would be able to get to the airport and take an earlier flight home, just tell them there is an urgent family matter you need to attend to! I would think your friend would understand if you needed to get home sooner than planned. I'm doing the same next year, PIL want to take boys away so hubby and i are going to take Bella away just the three of us. I've already told him we need to put some money aside for an earlier flight out to the boys in case i miss them too much! xxxx