I am SO confused as to what is happening with my body right now. Long story short I had a D&C April 20th for a miscarriage. I got my 1st AF exactly 4 weeks later. My hubby and I want another child so bad (we have a 2 year old son already). I am currently on CD 59 and still no 2nd AF and I'm not pregnant either. I had an ultrasound 2 weeks ago for a possible ovarian cyst but the scan came back normal and they said that I was premennstrual, but still nothing! I have never wanted AF to come so bad in my life! Has anyone else had this problem? If so please let me know. I feel so alone right now and I cant seem to find anyone else who has had this problem, specifically one who has had their first AF after D&C but hadn't had another. Please help 

Hey,

Sorry your feeling like this but your not alone....I have had 2 normalish afs (1st 4 weeks after medical management) then had a bleed 2 weeks ago (nothing more than red/brown spotting when i wiped began cycle day 16 and lasted about 5 days) and my af was due on Sat and no sign so it must have been an abnormal af and im so confused and worried now and just praying a more normal one appears in the next 2-4 weeks i am still trying in the mean time but so scared i now have PCOS or something as bad...going 2 docs 2 weeks on Friday and hoping to have an af in between then.

I dont have any children yet and im desperate for a baby...we were having a 'month off' to pay attention to my cycles and waste of time that was so i know im not pregnant as only BD'ed on fiorst day of last af then i did a test anyway and BFN like i knew it would be....

Its so hard, my mmc was in March and i can see me appraoching October and still trying when my baby would have been due...i only hope im ovulating and that i can try with hope then...

Anyway sorry this isnt about me but your not alone and i hope things return to normal for you soon...there are so many BFPs on here again and as happy as i am for everyone i just feel a little left out as though im the only one having an abnormal af and no chance of getting pregnant i know thats selfish but i dont mean it to sound like that...i am Bding in the hope i ovulate at some point and catch my egg...wishful thinking.

Lx

hey hun
my first cycle was 31 days, second was 39 days so a bit longer but 59 is horrific. you know you ov 12-16 days before af so even if you weren't pg before you could have ov'd extremely late...might it be worth thinking about? i'd keep on bd'ing if i were you as you never know...
good luck and hope **something** happens soon!!
xx

Can't help I'm afraid but I just wanted to send you a hug xx hope she arrives soon xx

Thank you Lauz. I really hope that you get your BFP. I've read quite a few of your posts and I am so sorry for your loss. You are not being selfish at all. I completely understand. I have a friend right now who is pregnant with her 3rd child and I just saw her new pics posted today of her baby belly. Its very disappointing, so I will pray for you and I'm sure your chance will come to have a gorgeous baby in your arms :).

Kristen, I am also praying for you to get your BFP. It's so disappointing that my cycle still is not regular. I honestly felt like one of the lucky women since my cycle came on time and I had such high hopes for another pregnancy. So of course the 1st day I missed my next cycle I felt so positive that I was pregnant again, but 5 BFN later and an ultrasound and blood test confirming the negatives I feel very lost. My dr has assured me that everything is ok and not to worry since I am only 22 but I just feel horrible. But I am praying everything is ok. Lets stay positive :)

Socks, thank you so much! I am just not sure what I would do without all of the nice ladies on here. I sure hope to read on here soon that you've got your much deserved sticky bean :)

Hey Chick,

How are you doing today? you are most certainly not alone and while i wouldnt wish what you (and what all of us have at some point to some extent experienced) on my worst enemy i find some comfort in the fact it isnt just me that feels the way i do....60 odd days is horrendoues....i am CD 33 (17 if my last bleed was an af but as it was nothing more than spotting i am putting it down to a breakthrough bleed which is worrying me) i have never ever missed an af before (always between 25-28 days) and my af returned four weeks after miscarriage and i coudnt believe it and actually thought i was 'lucky' now i wish i hadnt waited for it to arrive before trying again...i also thought i was lucky as it wasnt as heavy as before but now i think thats because im not ovulating and im so paranoid.....i got pregnant first month trying and also thought that was lucky but the thing with me is if i didnt have bad luck i would have no luck and i should know better than to think i am 'lucky' as look how things have turned out in the long run...

I liek you really wished to be pregnant again by now as it was so easy last time so there must be a problem now and i know stressing is makin it worse but i cant help it...this is a worse wait for af than what i had after my mmc i just dont know whats goin on anymore! My month of to 'monitor my cycles' was a waste of time as its been the most mucked uip and i was actually starting to relax a little and looking forward to trying again now rather than just 'doing it' so to speak!

I just wish it would show up..each month with different things that have happened and despite wanting a BFP i have just wanted my af to arrive but more so this month as there is some hope then and at least trying makes it feel like i am doing something where as i feel so helpless now....i even did another test even though i knew it was practicallt impossible to be a BFP i think i am actually losing the plot!

Sorry i didnt mean to make this all about me again but in a way it helps...i so hope your af arrives soon and that you get another BFP soon and a super sticky one..at least you have a child already you know its possible and once your af comes out of hiding (the bitch) you can send her my way and we can both try and build up some PMA eh? Bring on our BFPs......

Im here if u ever want to chat

Lx

Hi, I can't help with experience of late AFs but I really hope things get back to normal soon. Sending you big hugs, xxx

Thank you Angela, it's much appreciated .
Lauz, I guess things can only get better for us all, right? I am actually laying here in bed very sad and getting a little depressed. As if things aren't bad enough, I just found out my 17 year old little sister is 4 weeks pregnant. Although it does make me feel bad seeing her pregnant and me not, I am still doing my best to be there for her as much as I can. I'm just a little sad seeing that surprisingly our family is bring more supporting and happy for her than they were with me when I lost my baby. I felt like they all thought I made a big mistake by getting pregnant the 2nd time, yet they are "excited" for my sister who actually did get pregnant by mistake. I am hurt by their reactions in both cases. It's even worse now that shes excited about it (she was initially scared) and so she calls or texts me everyday and says things like she is starting to get more symptoms now and she just got a bunch of things for the baby and how she can just sit around and relax all day now since she's pregnant. I feel like that should be me too. I would be 18 weeks right now if I hadnt miscarried. Baby bump would be growing and we'd know the gender of our baby. I just want to cry . And my DH just doesnt understand, he tginks I should be over it because "everything happens for a reason." I could be rich if I got a dollar everytime someone has told me that. I guess I shouldn't be so selfish because I do have a child already and I should be thankful fot him. But is it so wrong just to want more children? I'd much rather be Fertile Mertile than Steril Carol hahaha. I'm sorry for the long response, but thank you for listening and I'd live to chat. Seems like we have alot in common and could both use a good friend right now. Hope to hear back soon :).

PS...keep your head up as well, our day will soon come again!!!

Oh hun, firstly I only had my d+ c a week and a half ago so cant help on the af front Im afraid, just read the post about your sis, it must be hard, and I dont know about your family but I know mine have found it hard to deal with and its not that they are not supportive but they havent wanted to make a big thing of it they are mourning in their own way. So what I am trying to say in a long winded way is that they do care they just maybe finding it hard to show this and in making you feel supported.And of course its not selfish to want a second. fingers crossed your bfp is just around the corner Luc xxx

Yes i suppose things can only get better for us as they cant really get much worse though i am always paranoid when i say that cause then something just as bad happens (touch wood!)

I think you are very lucky to have one child but of course there is nothing wrong with wanting another and having a child already doesnt make it any less painful or frustrating....i have always wanted 3 or 4 children (a boy first then 2 girls or 2 of each and i would love love love to have twins if i was choseing but we dont get what we want in life do we?) I would be soo happy to have one child at the minute and i mean that...i would be really grateful for being a mum but i know part of me would always still feel a little hard done by if i wasnt able to have more when i see all these jakies and little girls having 3 and 4 so easily by mistake and when they arent wanted but all i have ever wanted is to be a mum....the stay at home kind i would give up work in a second and i know i would love every moment of it even more so since i lost Poppet as it would make me appreciate my family life even more....espec as i dont really have much family around me left either!

Anyway sorry its not about me....i read your other post so glad ur af appeared so send the witch to me quick snap when you are finished with her lol - i shall welcome her with open arms for the first time in my life despite wishing her away during ttc as i was looking forward to a 'fresh start' aftr my month off but i need her to visit me in all her ugly glory first...

That must be tough with ur sister - mine is 19 and i dont know how i would cope if she were to get pregnant and more so since my loss so that must be really hard for you!

I find it hard being round babies which makes my job tough and pregnant woman and i feel so jealous....i should be 27 weeks now and the size of a house and im now and its so hard to get my head around that even thought its been 4 months since i lost my baby....

I have decorated all of my house now which is what i seem to do after each loss...i need a new sofa though so thats coming in 3 weeks and i am now looking at cushions, curtains, furniture and accessories i can buy lol...room was only really painted a year ago and i got new bits and pieces then but hey its a new sofa lol....and my car will hopefully be here in 2 or 3 weeks and i am goin 2 go away in a few weeks with my dog on holiday and my hubby of course no where fancy just somewhere quiet and relaxing...a scottish island maybe i know its all material things but im trying to keep my mind busy and off of my absent af which is really stressing me something awful... and seems to be my way of coping as best as can and with regards to material things well i should be thinking about things like cots and prams and baby furniture and all things baby realted and beng so excited and looking forward to the journey we would be beginning soon and planning how we will manage money and all that but im not so i think bugger it and im spending more than what i normally would..it wont make me happy but it makes me forget for a short while so thats what i do it,...i dont know if im even making sense here?

Anyway sorry, i also read you thinking of furthering your career and i am also thinking of going back to uni for a year and so would be putting actively ttc on hold for a few months which i dont really want to do but extra qualfication might be better in the long run....fate is taking over than decision for me at the minutey mum always said whats for you wont go buy you so clearly someone decided what was for me was a load of crap and hurt and tears and bitterness and sadness - but i just hope a child is in the plan somewhere at least one of them....

I think we do have quite a lot in common and anytime you want to chat feel free to send me a wee email or something.

sorry for such a long reply and i hope you are feeling a bit better today....

Lx

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