Okay thank you for the replies to last post this one is sort of related.

These neighborhood children my girls have made friends with have been around every day banging non stop to have them play with them. I have let them in several times now but the lack of respect is horrific. They all lie bare faced and are really agressive. I asked them to all play in our garden, or head home, so my youngest could nap and so I could watch from the step. They just kept pushing past me to come back inside. They scale the fences, and rip the plants in the garden up. They go into my fridge and cupboards and just eat our food with out asking. I have had more things than I care to admit go missing and I can't make the little buggers leave once they have come. They run about the house like it's a game to have me chase them, because when I ask them to leave they ignore me and keep walking away. The one girl is twelve she dumps out one of my girl's games and just stood on the pieces, breaking them, while ignoring me asking her to leave. I feel ridiculously ashamed to admit but I can't control these children who are as bloody tall as me with twice the attitude. Why do they want to play with preschoolers anyhow? Most of these kids are 10 ish years old. I told them they weren't coming in anymore because they don't listen and we are missing about £200 pounds worth of stuff and they have purposefully broken 4 of my children's toys. They stayed and banged on the windows and shouted, climbed over our fence to beat on the windows at the back of our house. The one boy came through the back door! I had to shove him out and lock it. Trouble is I had locked us in and it makes me a bit scared to let my children out if this continues. They hung about for nearly an hour carrying on. My girls are so upset they think their "friends " are mad at them. I have told them friends don't act like that. The problem is they live next door (or are friend with the next door neighbors) and the parents act like they don't speak english. We had tried to ask them to stop their boys tearing the fence between our gardens down. They just played dumb. We've repaired the holes twice, but that's how the children met, ours started talking to the boys through the holes they made in the fence, and I was a spineless looser who thought well surely it's not the end of the world for them to chat or know other children, and that since we were new to the area they had to make friends eventually.... Any advice please. I feel like such a pathetically ineffective parent. On one hand I know I can't pick my children's friend but can't I put my foot down and say no playing with children who are twice your age, steal from us, and don't abide by basic house rules? How do I explain this to my children?

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Holy cow, what a nightmare, I would just not answer the door to them and hope they get bored soon, must be a nighmare as the holidays have just started.

The other option is maybe the police, may seem harsh but should nip it in the bud.

I really feel for you but its almost as tho these youngsters are bullying you and therfore the police may be the best bet as you dont want any recriminations thrown at you about how you deal with them. they seemlike kids who would say anything,i would not want to put myself in a postiton where they could accuse me of anything. If you know what I mean.

Take care, Em x

i agree with emma -- these children have no respect for you and take no care of anything. they certainly will take no care of your children. your children would be very upset if this rudeness was aimed at them. it sounds to me like they are afraid of them being upset at them not becasue they are friends but because these children are bullies.
your children will maybe not understand but its disgusting that you have been treated like this and you are not being unfair to want to keep horrible children like this away from your home.
i would certainly see if you have some kind of community liason officer that you could have a quiet chat to about this because you can't be expected to deal with this on your own.
good luck to you x

OMG I can't believe I have read this. What rude, ignorant, nasty children. There is no way that I would allow them to be friends with my children either. I am would tell my children that they are not friends anymore and not allowed to play with them. Friends are supposed to be nice.

I would tell the parents although they sound they type as not to bother what mischief their kids are up to as long as they ain't being pestered! I would tell the parents that the kids are not allowed into your house at all. If they enter again then I would threaten the police. This is your home how dare they disrespect that. I think you can also contact your local council about anti-social behaviour. If is isn't nipped in the bud now then I dread to think what havoc they will be causing in a few years time

Hope you get this resolved! Let us know how you get on

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