Hiya honies.

Really need some advice. A girl I know, her OH is cheating. I'm 99% sure of this but I don't know how to approach it, if at all. She absolutely loves him to pieces, and thats clear to see.

Only problem is.............is that its a girl I havnt met. I've found a website with him on saying he's single etc etc wanting fun, happy meets and the phots on there are not of the girl I know. They could be old photos of him and a ex although they look recent. He's certainly not telling people he's got a partner and a child/children. I like the girl and dont wanna see her get hurt.

Do I say something? Wait for him to tell her, her to find out?

Ignore it?

Arghhhhhhhhh why do I have to know!! Please help. I found out this afternoon and have been debating it since then. Please help lovelies.

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Don't know hun, if it was some one you knew in 'real life', for want of a better word, then I would say tell him what you know and give him an untimatum, either he fesses up or you tell her. Don't know how that would work in this situation though.
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I know. I dunno what to do, my conscience is getting the better of me and I wanna spill but i dont know!!

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uh oh - these situations never work out nicely

Personally I think you need to speak to him first, although it might look dodgy (and it does sound it!) it might be old. He might not actually be following anything up but just needing a confidence boost. Silly I know but stranger things have happened.

Tell him he needs to tell his partner as well - best it comes from him rather than you or anyone else.

You do run a risk of being the baddie if you tell her and the baddie if you don't. Really a no win situation and I don't envy you at all.

She does need to know I think, after all I would want to be told but I think my initial reaction would be to shoot the messenger! It's going to be bad enough finding out your partner is cheating without feeling humiliated that everyone else knows before you.

I'd speak to him and give him the chance to come clean.

Tricky. I would say that unless you are 100% sure then its best to leave it. Its very easy to get the wrong idea from things over the internet as there is always the possibilty you are wrong. I know you love your friend and dont wanna see her get hurt but you just dont know how she will react to you if you tell her and could make things worse for her.

mmm I think it can go either way she will either thank you for being such a good friend or wont believe you and think your causeing trouble . Is there away you can send her a link to the page ?

ooooooooooh didn't read it properly. I thought you meant the girl you hadn't met was who he is cheating with.

Ignore me - I don't feel well

Judging from the photos I'm 99.99999% sure he is. Just read some privvate messages of his and its disgusting. He's such a wanker!!

Mrs W - I have never met her, but I do like her.

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Judging from the photos I'm 99.99999% sure he is. Just read some privvate messages of his and its disgusting. He's such a wanker!!

Mrs W - I have never met her, but I do like her.

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Stuckinlimbo - I know she'll believe me lol the photos are plain to see!! Dunno how to send an annoymous link though.

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I honestly dont know then tbh x Id like to say id want my friend to tell me but I dont know if I would just shoot the messenger when it came down to it.

At least you have the proof online though so she cant say your making things up xxx

You could set up a new hotmail account and email her a link.

Hmmm I could do but she might've seen the post on here now lol!!

Shit - didn't think of that!!

Still got damn baby brain!!!

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oh is it a BE member?

*gives Takers a Paddington stare*

My oh has just asked how you found out it was him He says would I be annoyed that he was cheating, or to busy laughing because he could only find someone online

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[Modified by: Bedhead on July 09, 2009 10:44 PM]

My OH says I should take the Manuel (Faulty Towers) approach with the whole thing.

I know nothing..............

My OH says I should take the Manuel (Faulty Towers) approach with the whole thing.

I know nothing..............

well im slightly concerned that u have posted on here if the person in question is on here as this is probably not the way for her to find out if at all!! do u know for defo that her oh is cheating?? could the pics not be of someone who just looks like them ?? u have got to be totally solid in what u know if u are going to tell this person...do u live close by at all could u arrange to meet and tell her face to face as telling her over the phone could be 100 times worse for her(if thats possible)

this is really serious hun and if she is a true friend then tell her and be there for her but if there is any chance she might not believe u then be very careful ...hope this works out for the best xxxxxxxxx

I think maybe sending a link to her so she doesnt know its you but then atleast it will be there for her to act on!
I feel she should know, just because my ex obviously was heading towards cheating and would be awful not to know! xx

Well if shes on here its not the best way for her to find out so I'd prob delete the post and email her a link.

I know its not my OH coz he can only just about use ebay and youtube! LOL - Not to mention he knows I would chop off his balls and tie a knot in his member!!

i agree with junie mummy hun its not fair to have it on here if there a be member imagine how she will feel xxxxxxxxxx