Having a bit of a problem with my dh and wondered if any of you ladies can help. Pippa is now 3 months old and my dh won't leave her with anyon to go out with me. We have plenty of peopl willing to babysit, most of my friends are children's nurses so not like we'd be leaving her with an inexperienced teenager. i was going to buy him take that tickets, but he said if you do i'm not going, w want to see transformers 2 and my mil offered to babysit. She only lives 15 mins away from the cinema but he still refuses to go. Part of me thinks he's very sweet for not wanting to leave her, but i know we could really do with a night out as a couple. i've asked him why he won't leave her and he just says he won't. The only thing that comes to mind is that he never got over the two miscarrages we had before pippa.
Any of you ladies got any suggestions??
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Awwwwwww hun i dont really have any suggestions because im the same as your dh. Me and Lee could so do with a break but gracie faye is just such a shy clingy baby that i dont want to leave her with anyone :-( She goes to bed at 6.30pm and never wakes until the morning but still i wont leave her.

I really need to un glue myself xx

thanks hun, just really stuck as to why he won't leave her as he won't tell me he just says he won't. If he could tell me it would be easier to understand or work round it's the not knowing that's driving me mad
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He's obviously feeling quite overprotective which is natural with a father. I would give him time and don't force him to do anything he's not comfortable with. As your lo gets older he'll probably let someone babysit for an hour or so in the day whilst you have a meal in a pub or something like that.

Have you actually asked him why he's over-protective too? if he hasn't got over your mc''s (sorry to hear that btw xx) maybe he needs a little help & advice. xx

thanks guess i'll just have to wait, i've asked him his brother's asked him and even his mum has asked him (and offered to babysit at the same time) so just not sure. He won't talk about the mc's as there in the past but he never talked about them when they happened as he thought he had to be strong for me. Not sure what he's going to be like when i go back to work in january though
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Hi hun,

You oh sounds like my hubby. He doesnt trust or want to leave our Summer with anyone even tho we have had lots of offers from friends and family to babysit.
Almost 6 yrs ago we lost out little boy wen l was 5 months pregnant and that hit him very hard. He also doesnt like talking about it and l dont push him.
We do go out but we always take Summer with us. She loves having a nose about. We went to a lovely restaurant afew wks ago and we had no trouble. lm also looking into cinemas you can take your los with you even if ther very little.

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I don't have any experience of this as my lo was being looked after by my mum or sister when she was 2 weeks old and has twice spent the night away from us.

Dunno if you think this might help but what about getting someone in to your house to watch lo downstairs while you and hubby have something to do together inthe house but away from baby?? Like a picnic on your bed, dinner in your garden? Maybe once he gets over that initial worry of leaving lo with someone and realises that it will be ok the two of you can begin to go further afield.