I need to have some balance to my argument (I'm feeling a tad hormonal today) so please feel free to disagree with me, I promise I wont bite your head off!

It's Spence's 2nd b'day on the 20th July and my in-laws aren't coming up. I mean, they don't even sound sorry about it. It's not like we're having a massive party but I'd be more inclined to make an effort if the whole family was going to be there.

Do you know what they're doing instead? Going to a wedding of the daughter of someone who works on one of the other market stalls! Wow, just so long as it's a close relative. My SIL hasn't even mentioned it but I don't think she'd come without her parents (she's a 32 yr old baby).
It wouldn't bother me so much but they didn't come to his 1st birthday either. My MIL hadn't booked the day off work until it was too late and my FIL wouldn't come without her. My SIL was on a hen-night; was she a bridesmaid or maid of honour? NO.

My in-laws always buy Spence lots of pressies but I'd rather they saved their money and just put in the effort instead.

Rant over.
Thanks

Liz x

I would feel peeved off as well!! Do they moan about not seeing him enough by any chance??!!!

I think birthday's should be special time for grandparents and they should be there personally. Everyone else not too fussed about but certainly would be peed off if mine or in-laws didn't see her.

We have a current battle with MIL at the mo - she moans she doesn't see chloe and expects us at her convienience but then is away most weekends with her new fella and we work all week or i am out with chloe!! can't win sometimes!

As long as he has you there i'm sure he won't mind (although that not the point!!)

Hope he has a lovely day.

Lara xx

Hi
I totally understand your situation.Last year for Eve's first birthday my in-laws booked a last minute holiday - they are retired so can go at any time of the year.

This year my mum didn't see Eve on her birthday because we had a silly disagrement 3 months ago and she hasn't spoken to me since.
It made me very sad on Eve's birthday that she wouldn't even put it behind her to see eve on her birthday.
So totally understand your upset xxx

My inlaws didn't come to Shea's first birthday party and they live a 3 minute walk away!!! They didn't even have anything else planned, continued to sit in their own house!!!
But thats my mother in law - everyone is expected to go to them

It was her grandaughters 16th the other day and she couldn't even be bothered to drive 5 miles to take her a card and present, she posted it with some cash in!!!

She's not even getting invited to Shea's 2nd party! They think as long htey throw a bit of cash Shea's way thats fine, but thats how they brought their own son up and now he resents them

I used to let things like this wind me up, now I just think "i'll never do that with my son"!!!
Don't end up bitter, they're not worth it.

Spence will have a great day with or without them x

I know exactly how you feel but in my case it's MY family, my inlaws are fantastic.
My little girl turned 1 a couple of months ago and neither my sister or my mum and her partner came to her party PLUS she hasn't even got a present from my mum yet (she has seen her grand daughter 3 times in 14 months) .

It's really quite hurtful when people can't seem to be bothered but the way i see it it's them who are missing out on seeing my beautiful girl.

Grr families eh :-(

Oh welcome to my world, my inlaws are just the same, on Isaacs birthday his dad wouldnt come becuase he doesnt like walking (I had offered them a lift) His mum then decided at the last minute not to come becuase she had hurt her ankle, she could make it to her daughters house (who also didnt come) and look after her 1 year old for 8 hours but apparantly her ankle hurt too much to see Isaac. I was really peed off and upset at the time but just now I think sod them, it is their loss and they are missing out on seeing my beautiful happy boy, tbh they always annoy me anyway so I'm better off if theyre not there .