Congratulations on your bfp.

All I wanted to say is, each pg is different. I had ms with bean, and still lost him/her. This time around, I know peanut was ok at 10 weeks, but I have had less symptoms apart from tiredness, everything else comes and goes.

Take one day at a time, try to be as relaxed about everything as you can. xx

12+1

Thanks mithical, yes, just taking it as easy as i can as well as trying to be as "normal" as i can be too if that makes sense xx

You sound a lot more comfortable now that you have spoken to your doc. Just listen to your body. Now that I do that I hear it telling me stuff all the time!!

Cycling and swimming are good. I also booked in for a session with one of the gym instructors which was free at my gym and she did up a programme for me to follow using the gym equipment so that might help you too. Its a change from the classes but there are still some classes you can do, just find the right ones for you. When/if you do ask for a programme to be done for you, it's worthwhile asking for someone who actually knows about pregnancy!!! I had to change my appt due to a meeting clash at work and nearly ended up with some guy who knew nothing about it!! Luckily I realised and changed my appt in time.

Its also a nice time of year to go for walks with your OH. So you could always take time out away from the gym and do that while you get through your first trimester. Glad you are getting some early scans too. That certainly helps to keep your mind at rest and the paranoia at bay. I hope everything goes well!
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Hi sim75,

Thanks for your kind words, yes my dr is really good and tried to reassure us. We went out for a ride and did 15 miles, the weather here was lovely on Saturday and i felt fine so hopefully will do that again as before i found out i was preg, we booked a little holiday in Sept - we're going to the peak district and gonna take the bikes - all being well i'll be 16 weeks then so will def have to see how i feel as don't wanna be falling off, lol.

Feeling a bit nervous today though as mw has phoned to say my early scan is booked in for this thursday - just know we're gonna be feeling so sick as quite frankly feel a bit like that now - 1 day at a time...i know but can't help worrying - i'll be 6+1 on thursday so not even sure if they'll see a heartbeat xxx

Try and get a good night's sleep tonight. You may not see much in your scan at 6+1 and dont be alarmed if you don't hear a heartbeat as it can sometimes be 7wks or more before you do. They will be able to check that your pregnancy is in the right place and check the measurements. Hopefully they will call you back again in another week or 2. I had my first early scan at 7wks on the NHS in the EPU, then I paid for a private one at 10wks, before my next NHS one at 12wks - in the "normal" scan unit!
Like you said, just take one day at a time. There is no need to rush. Im sure everything will be fine for you hon but of course I understand the nervousness about tomorrow. Just be positive. Before you know it that first trimester will be history, you will be getting ready for your Sep holiday at 16wks and will be bouncing with energy too !
xx

Thanks for understanding sim,

Will update tomorrow all being well xxx

I spent all yesterday thinking it was Wednesday, and today thinking it was Thursday!!! Losing it!
So ..... have another good night's sleep tonight and good luck for tomorrow hon !

xx

Hi Sim, Yes, thought that you were a bit confused but didn't like to say!!!

Well just to update everyone, we got a fairly decent nights sleep as advised to prepare us for the outcome of today. As always, we mentally prepared ourselves for the worst BUT MUCH TO OUR AMAZEMENT....OUR LITTLE BEAN HAS GOT A HEARTBEAT!!!!

It was such a fantastic feeling, i had a tear in my eye and shouted omg!!! It was amazing to see the fluttering of the hb. My hubby was sat beside me the whole time holding my hand, words cannot explain how we feel.

Getting on the couch and seeing the screen brought all the bad feelings back but those were quickly taken away when the sonographer quickly turned the screen around so that we could see our little bubba....aawww, we're so happy but obviously its still early days. I measured correct on the scan - 6+1 weeks. It was so good as we weren't sure what we would see with only being 6 weeks....anyway, i'm trying not to go on too much.

Just wanted to say a huge thanks to everyone for the support, its really appreciated, just got to try and wait until my 12 week scan now - only 6 weeks to go....god that seems like a lifetime away xxx

Yay!! Im so happy for you luv. The relief of hearing/seeing that heartbeat for the first time is just a great feeling. Just what you needed to put you back on the high you deserve to be on (good for bubba too!) Thats great that the heartbeat was there this early too....obviously a strong little one you have there!
The time will fly by quickly and before you know it you will be at 12 wks and seeing an amazing difference in the growth - and see your little bubba moving about in there.
Its a nice-to-have to be able to get another reassurance scan in between if you can. Some hospitals on the NHS may offer it so worth asking. Others just say NO! Depends what yours is like. You could get a private one if you start to worry. But honestly, the time will fly by.

xx

Ah hun, what wonderful, wonderful news! Am delighted for you! Keep us posted with how you're getting along, just keep positive now! xx

Thanks both, i really appreciate your posts. Trying my best to relax but you know what its like, every little twinge etc..... I've looked up the cost of a private scan, it would cost about £100 which is fine. Hubby not too sure as he feels we'll be just as anxious with the build up to it and then have to feel like that again for the 12 week scan, not sure how i feel really, part of me wants it but what my hubby says is true, i know i'll be a wreak again, think he's trying to protect us. Its so wrong that we feel like this but i guess its because we don't want it taken away from us again but are scared to enjoy the fact that we could be parents further down the line. Thing i'm gonna just see how i feel as i get from day to day.

Any of you lovely ladies had private scans?

Thanks xxx

wow congrats on bubs and the wedding but sorry to hr off the mmc.
in 98 i had my daughter who is now 11, i then went on to have a mmc in 2001 and a mc in 2003 i am now 17+5 with 2nd baby and i still get nervous even tho ive had 2 scans already and have my 20wk scan in jus over 2 wks time.

but my doctor has bin soo good, ive had a couple of uti's and bin quite poorly with them which has scared me a little but i no its only the infection and bubs is fine, it helps coz bubs is moveing already.

it helps to chill out and sounds like u have an amazeing hubby like i do and hes doing a gd job of looking after u hun.
plz jus sit bak and enjoy ur pregnancy and heres to a happy and healthy one at that :)

donna xx

Aawww thanks donna,

My god, you've been to hell and back if you don't mind me saying (don't mean that in any bad way whatsoever). I'm just so amazed by the strength of everyone that they have to keep going!!!

Yes my hubby is the best and i truely know that if we weren't properly together/connected if that makes sense, i wouldn't be able to carry on, i'm just conscious of how he feels too and don't want him to always have to worry about me as he is worried in his own way about how everythings gonna pan out. We do talk about it all though which helps both of us. I also have a very good dr like you that i can always get an appointment with and that def does help. I'm due to see my mw in 2 weeks for my booking in appt so i'm hanging on in there.

It must be so lovely to feel your little one moveing. I'm just hoping and praying that i too get to the stage where i feel a bit more reassured about everything and really start to enjoy the fact that i'm preg without worrying.

Thank you so much for your lovely words, you take care too and i wish you all the very best for everything. I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy xxx

That fantastic news, the worrying doesnt do you any good but in a way when you prepare for the worst its amazing to get such a fab surprise!!!

You will feel the same if you get another scan, and the same again the next time. Its unfortunately part of the process. I was telling a friend who had a mc last week that you panic at every scan until you feel baby moving, then you still panic until you go to midwifes and hear heartbeat, then you worry that everything will be ok at the birth, then you worry about feeding and so it goes on!!!!!

Maybe when all these bumps are 18 we will stop worrying!!

Well done you

Gemm x
10+6

Congratulations! I am so pleased to hear that your scan went well - that is fantastic news

Love NN 13+3 xxx

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I had a second scan at 10wks. Mostly because I had found out about my previous mmc at 10wks and it was kind of a milestone for me, but also cos we were heading off to Egypt of all places and doing a desert trip. (I knew if i booked that trip that i would fall pg!!!) Yes I was nervous going in, but the relief I felt afterwards to see bubba moving around in there - and to actually see a proper identifiable growing life which I'd not had before - was just THE BEST feeling so send me away with.

Take your time to think about whether you want to go for a private scan between now and the 12 wks. You need not rush into it. You can always book something at the last minute so that you have less waiting time to become anxious.

In the meantime, just keep enjoying the relief and happiness of getting this far. Not that one pregnancy relates to another, but you are further along than before, you have seen and heard that little heart beating away - and early on too! You have proved that you can conceive and it can go on to become a viable pregnancy, and soon you will see your gorgeous little bubba on that screen moving about. Honestly, the time will start to fly by hon. Keep your PMA up!
xx

Thanks for all your replies ladies, i never have any doubt that you won't be able to set me straight!!

Sim, totally understand what you said hon about reaching a milestone, i'm not there yet as i was 10 weeks also when i found out about my mmc but yes, the 6 week scan was definately a milestone in its own right as we saw our little one with a strong heartbeat as obviously we didn't have that option last time. I just need to give myself a talking to and i'll be fine i'm sure xxx