right well my ex left me for my best friend and they will b movin in together soon as she lives near me but my ex currently lives 55 miles away so he wants to b near his sons we have an 11 month old and im due to give birth in 4 days lol!!! he doesnt have our son over night at the min as i dnt trust him (but do have my reasons y) and in the past 4 weeks hes cum to see his son 4 3 n hlf hours n since we split has not provided at all for either of his sons.
hes said once he has moved he will help out more and b a proper dad to them which i really hope he does but i doubt it very much! but wat do i do wen he does move n wants to take them bk 2 his do i let him meet his gf bearin in mind they have only been tgeva 4 months and how do i knw they will be safe do i ask to see were hes livin b4 i let them go? i mean 1 good thing is at least i knw the girl hes with not that i particuly like her now but its better than him bein with some random person if u knw wat i mean? they wont be stayin over night until we have sorted something out about trusting again.
any advise would be great xxx

Tough one hun as i can totally understand how your feeling. It does make it easier that you sort of know the girlfriend but i would feel very funny if my ex got with someone and she moved in with him! I wouldnt like lea staying over night with them until i knew what she was like and could trust them both with her!
As you say, think until you can 100% trust him with the lo's then i wouldnt let them stay, and yes i would ask to see their home etc, as there mum you have a right to know where they are staying and if its safe etc. Sorry if i havnt been very helpful but hope you all manage to come to some sort of arrangement soon xx

well me n his gf grew up tgeva been best friends since we were 8!! but tbh now i wudnt trust her with a dog plus b4 me n craig split my lo didnt like her (good judge of character already ) and after 4 months imo is way too soon to introduce sum1!! wen ive had baby he wont b goin to stay not until he is older he may be he dad but he aint gunna knw who the hell he is if that makes sense!! esp if he still goes about seein them wen he wants!! but says that wen hes moved closer hel b a better dad n hel actually get a job n pay 4 them! not that i can see that happenin!! lol
im glad u said that ud ask to see were there livin i thought that was just me bein over pro tective!!

Oh no, id def want to see where they were living lol, i think thats just protective instinct taking over and when you become a single mum, you check everything! xx

well an update hes decided when hes moved he wants them more i said no n hes takin me to court!!!! i doubt it wouldget that far but it just pisses me off wat he thinks he can do!!!