hi i was in a violent relationship for 2 years and towards the end i statered seeing sum 1 else and sleeping with them then i found out i was having a baby i was 50 / 50 to who the dad was then when i was 3 months gone my partner beat me up knowing i was pregnant so i left him and havent had no contact since. i have now had a beautiful baby girl and i said to the person i was sleeping with on the side about dna he took 1 look at her and said he dont want dna that she is his and always will be he has been coming to see her nearly everyday he is great with her and if i could choose a father for her it would be him.... my question is am i doing the right thing by not finding out for sure who the dad is... what do i do xx

Well whats it going to gain from knowing?

Sounds like your little girl has got a daddy who clearly loves her to bits already and WANTS to be a daddy. There are so many kids out there without, that your baby is really lucky!

Would it be for your own piece of mind? If you don't want the other potential father around then why bring it all out into the open for the chance that this other guy could get contact with YOUR daughter?

Sorry to be really blunt, but would you ever wnat your daughter to go through anything that you have?

Personally i'd do my very very best to try and forget the bastard who beat you and consentrate on your baby and the lovely guy who wants to be her daddy!

xxxxxx

I think my main worry is that he one day brings up that she might not be his n end up hating me as i really care bout him (even tho we nt 2geva) i dnt wnt my x near her i just so confused on what is best all i no is i love her so much and just want whats best for her xx

Personally i would have to find out, just because i think i would want my lo to know the truth incase she ever found out and like you said may end up hating me for it.
It is definately your choice though hun, y6ou know what's for the best, just consider your lo and even if it's so you know. I think deep down i would have to know just for peace of mind aswell. Good luck with your choice, im sure whatever you decide will be for the best, and it takes a special man to want to bring up a child as his own even if may not be his xx