Hello

Just found out Im pregnant again... we were not exactly planning one yet - but its happened and Im kind of thrilled. Although shocked.... it was a one off time with no intervention so to speak. Other than that we have been careful... but im worried how can i love another baby as much as I love my Alf.. Will Alf suffer because I won't be able to show him all the love he has had so far?

I feel guilty Im not over the moon as I was with Alf, I have only just returned to work, and not told my husband yet as he is at work.. only one pos maybe I should do another before I go any further..

I feel scared... but again thrilled as the thought of a another wonderful baby in our life is just amazing.. but still so scared...

What will mu husband say?

x

Hi, and congratulations!

Please don't worry, Alf won't miss out on any love - you'll still have plenty of opportunity to show him how much you love him, and he'll be getting extra love from his brother or sister.

It is hard not to feel a bit guilty though, but it's entirely normal. I have Jacob who's 2 and Noah who's 20 weeks. I sometimes feel a bit guilty if I'm giving one some attention, but they do each get lots of love, and I think it's great for them to have each other.

It is a scary time being pregnant again, but for me it was easier once I'd got to know Noah when he was born - it all made much more sense then - he was his own little person who I loved, not just an unknown someone (although he was much wanted and I did love him before he was born - I guess I'm not making much sense, sorry!)

I guess you've told your hubby now - what did he say? xx

Hi Niblet...
Thank you for replying. I have told hubby - I must admit it was a pretty emotional night for us both. But 2 days on we are happily discussing names and cots and buggys and we are thrilled to be pregnant, It was the unexpectedness that threw me. I have never ever ever been or felt that shocked before,
Thank you for sharing your family details... I think you are right pregnany is so different that having a borgeous human being in your arms.
Just another 8 months of pregnancy ALOT sooner than I was expecting too.. eeuughh Im not the best at that bit,,,
I just look at Alf and think how can another of that be a bad thing.. it never could and I am relieved hubby thinks the same..

Thank you so much for replying - im not a regular poster and appreicate the time you took to share..

Love Alfs mum and bump! (well still Alfs bump officially - not gone yet!)

You're very welcome!

I'm so glad you and hubby have reached the excited stage after the initial shock, it's so lovely for you both!

I hope you have a brilliant pregnancy, God bless xx

Hiya congrats on No2. I had my little boy 7wks ago and my daughter is 20mths old. It does feel completely different this time round but I don't love him any less. When I was pregnant with Bethany my pregnancy became my whole world but this time round it flew by as I had a toddler to look after. In fact some days at the beginning I actually forgot I was pregnant sounds daft I know but I was busy being mummy. I worried that I wouldn't love him the same but Jamie came early and was in the neonatal dep, as soon as I saw him in the incubator I was in doubt that I was completely in love with him. Its hard with two I'm not going to lie but it is completely worth it and it feels like it was always meant to be the four of us.
Enjoy and take care xxx