Sorry to sound like I am moaning, as I really couldn't be happier that I'm able to be a full-time mum to Dylan, but.....

I just wondered what your OH's do to help you with your LO's? My dh works long hours, he has his own business which has suffered a bit with the recession & he really has been putting his all into it. I don't mean to sound ungrateful at all, as its meant a lot of sacrifices for me to stay at home to raise Dylan. It just feels like I do EVERYTHING all the time! Dylan has never slept through & is nearly 1yr old - i've not slept through myself since just before he was born (i had a huge bump, so v uncomfortable)!! The only ppl i'd leave him overnight with is my parents & due to ill health over the last year i don't feel its fair to leave him with them until he can sleep through.

I only feel like this every now & again, and really really don't want to sound ungrateful at all - i feel truly blessed to have the family i've got. I guess like many, somedays it just feels like its all a bit much - sure i'll get over it - lol!

Sarah x

My dh is a staff nurse so works day and night shifts. He only knows what shifts he will be on a few weeks in advance and i went back to work in january, now doing 4 days a week. DD is in nursery on mondays and the rest of the week we kind of muddle through with childcare. It can be tricky but no major problems yet. We are lucky as DD has been a really easy baby sleeping through from 9 weeks (shes now 18 months). DH is great with her and i think we truly split housework/childcare evenly. I was dreading going back to work but actually i am really glad that i did as it gives me a break and i think it does DD good to have other people care for her sometimes. I know other mums who have decided to stay at home full time and thats great for them. Everyone is different. Maybe you could get your in-laws to look after Dylan for a night if they are local? I wasnt keen at first for my in-laws to take my DD and i totally understand not trusting anyone except your own parents but you sound like you need some me time. Maybe a friend could babysit for a while and you go out with your OH? your son doesnt even have to know your gone, i.e. put him to bed at 7.00 then go out for a few hours for a nice meal. Sorry if i am rambling now. Its late and i should go to bed.

My oh is a computer programmer and in the week does absolutaly nothing because he leaves before she gets up and is home after her bed time but at the weekends he takes over so to speak he gives her 75% of her meals, changes her mum ,bathes her ect whilst i get on with other things.xxx

My O/h is an electrician he's out from 6.30am everymorn till between 5pm and 9pm in eves depending on job, but he does see avril most eves and spends quality tome with her and me at weekends. He has been redundant once fr a month during the time since avril was born (14months ago) and he was great 50% of duties.

Dont have any problems r worries though as Avril very well beahved, sleeps through, got her off dummy took off her 1 morn 3 weeks ago and never gave it her back :). Love being a ft sahm but miss o/hs help some of time xx

my oh works most of the time, when he does have days off he will do things i ask him to do, he does the garden but to be honest I like things done a certain way. I don't mind do everything, he works and I stay at home. if he work nine till 5 or later he will be tired maybe ask him to do something everyday to help you out, like ironing his own work clothes or cooking dinner for you both when he gets back.

hi,

my OH works from HOME! just call him if i need any help (i'm a housewife). very handy when i'm preg and morning sickness. he helped to look after my son, while i sleeps for 2 hr b4 he goes back to work. and feed my son, put him to sleep then work again.

but when he is on business call, i got to shut both of my kids' mouth! very hard. some days i got to bring both of them out.

really gratful that he work from home. cos he will settle e kids and give me time to cook and eat breakfast. he dun start work b4 9am!! cool!!!

cant ask for a better life than this!

hi, my husband works mostly a sort of backshift 2pm-10.30pm, so he is mostly never there for bath and bedtimes, BUT he is there for getting ready in morning etc, so thats good. He will alway TRY to do things when i ask. He is great at dressing/sort of feeding the kids (if its maybe only a snack thats required and not a meal), but he doesnt know what to do with housework etc.

I am home fulltime with the kids so it all works out fine actually. Sometimes i feel a bit unappreciated, but i think all mums/wives go through that.

I definitely always do all meals, all washing, drying, ironing. and cleaning of house.

He sometimes takes bins out, sometimes does dishes, will willingly change nappies and dress kids.x

My oh is a window/conservatory fitter in the week and a tattooist on a Saturday and sometimes in the evening. We have four children and ttc number 5. It does get a bit manic sometimes but he is good and helps out. He does most of the evening meals and the Sunday dinner. He cleans the floors on a weekend whilst i get the kids out of the way. Sara x