my 3yr old dont want to know my parnter!!!
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Posted : Thu, 08 January 2009 18:14:40
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my 3yr old dont want to know my parnter!!!

My 3yr old just dont want anything to do with my new parnter. He's the only man to have been round since i split with her dad last year, she wont even go into the same room has him. When he comes round she spends the whole time in her bedroom or sitting on the stairs, and refuses to talk to him even to say hello. I feel very akward and i know he does too. As anybody got any advise on how to approach this situation or try and deal with it? please help!!Confused

whalemummy
Posted : Thu, 08 January 2009 19:34:57
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my 3yr old dont want to know my parnter!!!

Is this the first male figure around? As in is your dad around or do you have grown up brothers or male friends? Is her dad around? Maybe its just something new and scary. Have you tried like... taking her to the park with him around but focusing on her as much as possible and getting him to start encouraging her too? Doing loads of things that she likes to do?

My friend had this problem with her son and she just ended up having to take a HUGE step backwards and near enough start again i.e. introducing them, getting her bloke to get into conversation with her son etc. Getting her bloke to do little things like make cakes and ask her son to help. Cooks perks are always a bonus. xxx

sugaplum
Posted : Sat, 07 February 2009 12:43:20
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my 3yr old dont want to know my parnter!!!

september of 07 i broke it off with my kids father who are 4 & 3 and found my my new partner in jan of 08, at first my kids were the same they hated seeing me with him, untill we started doing things together that they liked but my 4 yr old who is also a girl and very stubbon just wouldnt warlm up to him so he brought them eaeh a toy and asked if they wanted him to play and i know u shouldnt buy love but if all else fails then it cant hurt hey, good luck

mummys yummy
Posted : Wed, 13 May 2009 20:12:34
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my 3yr old dont want to know my parnter!!!

It could also be a thing of jealousy, your daughter may think that your new bloke is taking you away from her!! try and be with her and make her feel like she is better than him when your all together and also try talking about him when your not with him and ask what she thinks of him.