Hi all,

I've just signed up because i dont know what to do or who to talk too..

Went for my 12 week scan last Wednesday and found out i had m/c at 8 weeks, i passed the baby on Saturday night.. and now i feel so empty, i feel so down and even going round the shops seems a struggle.

This feeling is so confusing because the pregnancy wasn't planned in the first place, i had a tough time deciding whether to keep it (as i would have been a single parent) eventually i decided to keep it and just as i had adjusted my frame of mind this happens.

Obviously i understood there was a higher risk of m/c during the first 3 months but as i hadn't even started bleeding i thought everything was alright..

This was my first pregnancy, i feel so lost.. i feel a bit stupid for feeling this way, esp because i was considering abortion ( because i was scared) and now i regret even thinking about it!

Has anybody been through this and had anything thats helped them take the pain away a little bit? I just dont know what to do with myself!

Thanks for reading

XxX

i am so sorry for yr loss. This is tough enough without havig to go through doubt as well.

Emotionally, it will be so painful for you at the moment but i promise it gets easier with time. If you feel alone - come on here - the ladies are so supportive.

lots of love xxx

i am so sorry - this forum is so great though - my babies hearts stopped last friday and i had my erpc yesterday so feeling delicate.

I truly believe that my two beans are now the most beautiful angels - i feel lost empty heartbroken but i am sure it will get better. If you have any questions then just ask and the ladies here will help as much as they can.

Hot water bottle helps on the stomach and fluffy blankets and thick pajamas make me feel secure.

Lots of love to you at this horrible time x x x x

I am so sorry as well. You are not alone in how you feel and this forum is the right place to be. I had a mc on the 21 November at just 5 weeks but I was so so sad. It is a pain that you can't describe to anyone other than those that have been through it.

Stay on here and let us know how you are. Definitely snuggle down and be selfish - early nights, lots of things around you that you find comfort in and don't forget to talk to us if you need to. I couldn't talk to anyone as they wouldn't and couldn't understand my pain. This forum has given me such hope.

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this really sad time.

C.xx

Wow thankyou, i wasnt expecting to see so many replies so quickly.

I went to go and get my nails done this afternoon, thinking it would cheer me up a little...what a joke.. i got ready, took 5 steps outside and burst into tears and walked back in again, feel so run down, i guess i am being a bit optimistic in hoping i will feel better so quickly...

Thanks for making me feel so welcome, and for all your kind words, im glad i came here now.

XxX

That is what we are here for and why this forum is so special (along with the other mc forums). I am probably biased though!!!

You will know when you are ready to get your nails done. One small step at a time.

xx

This is so hard i mc on fri night - after 9 years of tring and my third and last attempt of ivf it finally worked but was all lost on fri - i was eight weeks and i just cant beleive its happened- i am the same as yourself - will it ever feel better.... one minute i feel ok the next i am in floods of tears- i guess time will tell. Look after yourself and keep talking....it has to help. xxx

omg im so sorry carh, i feel awful for moaning now *big hugs* and to all of you aswel..

You are all in my prayers and i hope things get better for everyone soon..

Love to you all XxX

I'm sorry to hear your bad news.

You will find great comfort & friends on this site everyone is very supportive & always happy to hear a moan or a grumble & give that little bit of PMA to keep you going. Honey you may have considered a termination but you didnt do it so there is no reason in the world to think you shoudlnt be feeling the way you are & i dont blame you for it crossing your mind it was an unplanned pregnancy these must always be a shock to the system & you had a harder decsision than most in that you had to decide to bring the baby up alone, thats a massive commitment.

sending you a big ((((hug)))))xxx
take care. xx

I agree, this forum is the bestest, without it i couldnt have got through the past few months.

I am still comming to terms with what happend to me (ectopic at 8 weeks, 6 weeks ago) but for all you ladies just starting this journey please take comfort from the girls on this site. We have been through lots of difficut times and practically every situation. No matter how bad things get, please believe me, you will start to feel better soon, the tears will gradually stop, you'll smile and laugh again and slowly you will find out just how strong you can be.

we all understand how important our special little beans were, so you will only find support here.

I hope you feel better soon x