im in a bind today.im preg at mo but its my oh and dd(15/16) that ere causing me so much stress. first of all dd is just a pig full stop and i cant complain to oh even about simple things as he flies off the handle and gives out to me. he does not want to deal with her at all every reaction has to be extreme. there is no support there. i have a 9 and 7 yr old and im sooooooo sick of them growing up listening to what should be a mild teen argument blow up into a war. what it says to me is from my oh point you gonna get punished for annoying me with teen stuff. i feel very alone and my heart still in my boots cause the teen was winding me up and i called her wierd and wished i never had her. i am so dissapointed with everything and i waited nearly eight years to have my last thought it would be a special time but betweeen my oh and teen i feel like taking the other two and telling them both to clear the hell off.:cry:

sorry didnt want to read and run but i only have 1 idea that might work.
do you have family near by?

if so do it, move in with them, just for a long weekend but dont tell dd and oh how long itll be and maybe your daughter and oh will see how bad they have been and maybe they will try a bit harder to make things a bit easier for you when you come back.

i know its drastic but it sounds like you need a break from them and making them suffer a lil is well deserved i think.

even if it doesnt work at least youve had a time out for a while.

i hope everything gets better as you dont need the stress at the mo.

take care
xxx

u definately need a break hun,
15/16 is a difficult age isnt it, not a child but not quite a grown up (my dd is a pain)
i would call a family meeting where everyone gets a turn to speak and evryone has the chance to be heard, once everyone knows how their behaviour is making u feel they may change. xxx

thanx ladies i got through to hubby he really a nice man but as a teacher he sees this age every day and he says it hurts to see his own being brat but has stepped up and will not overreact anymore. i talked to madam but ive decided to concentrate on peace and harmony for me and other two im not going to react to sulks it not healthy. she still doesnt get it but whats the point in fighting as everyone else is hurting. im going to be clever bout this and not waer my heart on my sleeve.