hi Elaine - dont be daft, of course i'll try and help!!!
first of all, you now either need A-levels, equivalent, or an access to nursing course, as it is now a degree course. your local college will do the access course, but i am not entirely sure how long it is - i think 1yr full time, 2 part time, but ??? - if you post for Heather*Matthew*Joshua, she is doing this at the moment, so will be far more help on this than i am -sorry!!
when you train, you will spend time in uni which isn't flexible, but you are not always in from 9-5 mon-fri - you usually get a time table in advance so you should be able to work childcare.
any lost time (kids / you sick) HAS to be made up, and you cannot qualify without delivering 40 babies in your training - that is an NMC requirement. you also need to care for a certain number of women in labour / check over babies etc- you and the midwife you work with (mentor) also have to go through acres of paperwork, discussing communication skills, etc so you can qualify.
when you are on the wards or community, it will prob be 5 days a week (depending on uni/hospital), but these can be days / nights / weekends / lates / earlies etc so are fairly flexible, but you should work with one mentor so really should follow her shifts. it is acceptable that every now and then you work with someone else, but i know that Salford uni (in Manchester) will not pass anyone who hasnt worked with one person for a minimum of 40% of the time.
when you qualify, depending on your hours, most units are pretty good with flexibility - for example, it is much easier for me to work weekends for childcare, so i usually always do my 14hr day then. my 8 hr shift is on the Antenatal Day Unit, so is always in the week, usually a late. i can get my 14hr day during the week, but as they know it is easier for the weekend, they are very good to me!!
it will be very hard with the boys, due to their age. - the main problem for you will be the cost of childcare, as for the 3 yrs of training, until they started at school, you will be paying full time for them (unless you've got a good friend / mum etc). you will also need to find someone to have them flexible until your oh can take them for you.
as for the home studying - this can be quite time consuming, and you wont find everything on the net. you will need to spend time in the library, as they need you to look at all sorts - sociology / psychology as well as midwifery. you will need to do all types of research so you can write the assignments you will be given. textbooks are still as dear second hand on ebay, and you will need some good ones to set you up - maybe get as xmas pressies when you start? - they are about £25-30 each, and you will need a good anatomy one, and a good midwifery one at least!.
HOWEVER!!! once qualified, it really is a fantastic job!! it is hard work, even when you've been qualified a while, as there are always other things they want you to do - for example, i've been qualified 11 yrs, and now provide the support groups for all the girls who have been qualified less than 2 yrs!! this has also involved preparing a lot of them for their continuinng developement portfolio. i did 12 extra hours last month due to this!!! i also inadvertently volunteered myself to do 2 sessions for student midwives on basic care (ie drug administration / catheterisation etc!!), so there go 2 more of my days off!!!!
as for the pay..... full time on qualifying is approx £20k at the moment + unsocial hours. after 1yr, if you complete the portfolio, it goes up to about £24k + unsocial hrs
it wont be easy, but if you are sure it is what you want to do, then definately go for it!!! you wont look back!! good luck!!!
if there is anything else, let me know - i'm not bothered at all - you aren't cheeky!!
(i would like to stress that any spelling or grammatical errors are Isobel's, not mine!! she has "helped" me type my reply!!) 