hi everyone..i have been at home with kids for a year or so now, but an really just getting into it because i have yo-yoed from wanting to stay at home to searching for jobs....bu tits official...im going to stop looking for jobs.....i am just going to embrace being a stay at home mummy!!

it feels quite exciting!

so, i know from experience its quite boring at times and sometimes we may wish we had something more in our lives or something for US... so i thought it would be good for us to list reasons why its fab to stay at home with the kids, so that when we are feeling linely and down about it we can rememeber that its not just all about us and how our kids will benefit from us being there for them, aswell as us not missing one moment!!!

anyway ill start with a few...

* not missing all the 'firsts'
* being in control of babys routine (i found when i was working my mum was more in control of what went on and this didnt sit well with me)
* meeting other mummys for a chat etc
* knowing that we are fully concentrating on our kids and sacrificing our careers for them
* seeing their wee faces when they wake in the morning (some mums dont see their kids til they get home at night)
* having breakfast with them round the table and not having to rush them out he door to nursery
* being able to take a bit more time over what to make for dinner and time isnt so much of a factor
* being there for them when they are ill, and need a cuddle when theyre tucjed up on their OWN couch

anyone think of anymore ?...

(i just also want to say that im not saying working mums a bad, im just tryin gto post about making stay at home mums feel better because it really is hard) X

I often bitch and moan about being at home. But I do think I have done the right thing for us.
Best thing is not having to pay someone else to do the stuff that I can do.
I also like being close to my kids, I hope they don't see me as stuffy or not approachable. Until i got heavily pregnant I was always running around screaming with them and playing hide and seek. I actually look forward to doing it again when bump is out.
I like the quiet when they are in school and I can clean and do chores in peace, and i like it when they are off school as there is no rush in the mornings, and we get to go out for the day. Even if it is just to the local park.
I also like having the time to sort stuff out, from the christmas shopping to the mundane like sweeping the front. I don't have to rush like a headless chicken all the time, i can just be organised and get it all done nice and easily.

Yes, it means we can't have EVERYTHING we want, but we have all we need and best of all we have time to enjoy it.
Hubby does miss out on a lot when he is in work though, but until we get that lotto win we can't both stay home.

I agree with you both. I am always moaning about being stuck at home all day every day, but at least I get to see everything, and haven't missed out on those 'firsts'. I really don;t think i'd like someone else looking after them all day. That said it is bloody hard sometimes isn't it? Trying to entertain them all day!!! I still don't have time to do everything i want to in the day, so i don't know how working mums manage!! Only just noticed this forum, it's a good one for mums to offload how they feel at the end of hard day. Got a feeling i'll be here quite a lot!!!!! Speak soon, take care ladies!

Hi Ladies,
When asked as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up I replied " A Housewife and Mother". How many people do you honestly know that actually get to live their childhood dreams. It may not sound ambitious but before getting here I had a career in finance which I loved and was doing very well at. I really did love my job, but...
Led to believe that we couldn't naturally conceive a child, here I am with 2 beautiful girls of 20 months and 8 weeks.
Some days I really feel I'm losing my sanity, but who needs it anyway.
I have never worked so hard in my entire life and never have the rewards been this great.

Faces of my angels to wake each morn and put to sleep at night
Every first moment they experience, I see and share
Watching life grow and helping it along
Being totally myself without any pretence to please anyone else
Laughing, Playing,Singing,Dancing,Reading,Drawing & Colouring
Making noise (supposed to be music)
Row Row Row Your Boat sung 20 times a day
Making a mess, making clearing up a fun game (good trick to learn)
Parent and toddler groups, made great new friends
Enjoying life in it's purist form, through the innocence of childhood
Having fun just being Mum

I often hear parents say don't wish away your childhood and here I am getting to do it all over again, but with the knowledge & experience of an adult. What better reasons to stay home. Financially hard but we have what we need and if that changes I'll worry about it then.
This is magical and for such a short time. I love my life and enjoy my days. I've learnt so much since being a Mum, how to clean up anything that lands on the floor or walls, how to multi task at a whole new level and plenty more, mostly about poo!

Enjoy
Ell
xxx

reasons for staying at home....hhhmmmmm let me see, Well apart from not being able to afford childcare for three children anymore, I'd say the best thing is being there for my kids, whenever they need me, Having time to make my house a home(something that I just didnt have time for before.) seeing all my kids growing, changing and to see them happy.
One thing my son said a while ago that really stayed with me is "I'm glad you can pick me up from school everyday" It was after one of his friends at school had to go to after school club even though he was poorly as his mum was working and couldn't get away. It made me glad to be a full time mum.
Day to day is bloody hard especially when they are all Ill or in a grump but I wouldn't change where or what I get to do for anything in the world.
I'm PROUD to be a full time mum even if others can't understand why we do it or those who couldn't cope with it!!!!!

this is great forum, ive actually found other women like me!!!yay!
im at home with three ie one grumpy at times 16yr old 9and 8 year olds and ttc our last. i went to uni ,worked for while but i do get joy from being able to raise my kids.i do see differencemy eldest wwent to chreche and i hardly knew her, it hurt.i think stay at home parents should recieve a payment for raising good citizens of the future. children need parents for a reason.all those millionaires that dont get targeted in every budget,they gey away with unbelievable evasions. women are amazing people and we should never let motherhood be downgraded it is the hand that rocks the cradle et al.by way nowadays men and fatherhood should take same line.phewww rant over.:D

hi i love all these posts esp Ellathome , yours almost made me cry!!!

i love being at home, i really do and im so glad to have foun dothers who feel the same way.

im so sick of people asking when im going back to work, or what do i do with my days???

i love my hcildren adn cherish every moment with them, ok it i svery hard at times, but i love it i really do!!!

career can wait they wont be kids forever xxx thanks everyone xxx

i just love the fact that you can relax and enjoy ur children rather than worrying about whos got them, what ur missing out on ect. My eldest has just turned 3 and starts nursery in Jan and Im dreading it - not for his sake but for mine - he'll love it!! But he wont be exclusively mine anymore he'll be doing things with teachers and in a way Im jealous. Hes my kid not theirs! But........ its all part of life hes gotta learn how to socialise ect Then the other 2 wont be far behind him *sigh*

Dont feel guilty/ bored/ worried about staying home - the first few years go so so fast and before you know it they'll be at school then u can go bk to work.