Hey girls

You can probably see from my zillion posts that Im off work today! already driving myself insane and already read a 600page novel in the space a few hours to avoid the reality of the passed 24hrs!

to be honest the experience was not as bad as I had built up in my head, and to be honest it was only a few words that were spoken that made the ordeal 100 times worse then what they could have been.

When I turned up at the hospital I advised them of my fears and that I would like a re scan to check that the pregnancy truly wasnt a viable 1, they said it wasnt an option, so I said I couldnt do it unless I knew for sure, and also being a bit cheeky I had been reading through the notes that the EPAU had written ,and last Thursday they had written that the pregnancy had been a viable 1. I had got myself in a bit of a state and then the doc seemed to come around and allowed me to have a scan where the baby had grown slightly but still no visible Heartbeat, so at least it put my mind at rest that it was the right thing to do, as I have had no more spotting or cramps it could have been a while till my body realised what was going on so thats why I ddnt want to wait as it was so hard feeling pregnant when I knew it wasnt meant to be my time, well they prepped me up for surgery and I was in the anasthetic room when a total idiot made the whole experience worse he said HAVE YOU HAD A BOY OR A GIRL - LETS GET THIS PLACENTA OUT OF YOU! I couldnt say a word I was utterly speechless he then went on to say you are going to go to sleep soon THINK ABOUT SOMETHING HAPPY LIKE SITTING ON THE BEACH WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND YOUR CHILDREN! Sadly I dont have any children yet and this was my second miscarriage this yr. I came around a little while after the op and all I could do was cry, at least I let it out, wish Id have had the courage to say something he should have read my case notes first! after a couple hours of recovery apparently the doc didnt want to see me so I was free to go, I just wanted to get out of there, and must say the info that you guys on here have given me is more then what the medical professionals gave me in hospital! so thanks girls

Anyway I hope you are all doing ok, and hoping that there are some sticky BFPS coming up on here soon

Love Luc xxx

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh hunny are you alright?
I just can't believe he could say that?! Who allows people like that to work on wards where ops for MCs take place?
I know you felt like you couldn't say anything at the time as you were so rightly distraught but phone them or write a letter of complaint as that is not on as he needs to be spoken to in case he says things like that all the time and puts other poor ladies through the same distress as you!
What a f8cking idiot (sorry for swearing) but by god I am distraught and livid for you - I'll phone in and moan if you like??!!!

I'm so sorry you have gone through this for a 2nd time then also had to deal with that idiot - sending you a huge huge hug xxx

that is so awful, i would really write a letter of complaint, I know it won't do much now but will give you a chance to express your feelings and perhaps stop the idiot from treating someone like that again!

Hope you feel ok soon ))))))hugs((((((((( xx

Hey littleminx,
So sorry to hear about your experience!!! The doctor was an absolute idiot!! I hand my D+C in April but luckily the doctors were all women and they were very nice, some even shared their experiences with their own mc.
I defo think you should call in and speak to someone!! this should not be allowed to happen to vulnerable women going thru a horrid ordeal!
Sending you a big big hug
xx

Poor you, that sounds horrendous. I agree with the others that you should write a letter. Even if you don't end up sending it, it will make you feel a bit better. I'm so sorry to hear that you had to put up with this idiot. I work in a hospital and some doctors have no bedside manner and can be very rude but I don't think I've ever heard one come out with something that callous.

Hope you feel better soon and are recovering as well as can be expected, Big hugs, xxx

Hi Luc,

I'm so sorry you had such a horrible experience. What a complete **** of a doctor. I would definately definately write a letter of complaint, although I can totally understand you wanting to just try and move on but what he said is totally unacceptable. Honestly, I am so annoyed just thinking about it. What a complete pr*ck.

Sorry for the bad language but it just makes me so mad.

I really am so sorry honey. I hope that you are recovering well and things are slowly starting to get back to normal.

Take care sweetie,

Love Kristen xx

Thanks for your messages girls, I thought at first maybe I was just being a bit sensitive to it all. I am doing ok, havent been back in work yet not sure if I should go in tomorrow or not or just wait till monday, dont like taking time off but still trying to come to terms with it all, I know it will take a while.

I think I will write a letter like you all suggest, would hate to think that someone else was put in the same position, its a tough experience at the best of times, hope you're all ok

Love Luc xxx

So sorry to hear that you had such a bad time. When I had my D&C the nurse who was booking me in said I would need to take a pregnancy test before the operation took place in case I was pregnant - the look on my face must have shocked her - she hadn't looked at the notes properly and didn't realise I was having the op after a mmc (apparently they do D&Cs for all sorts of things). After that she was (obviously) so kind and supportive but it stuck in my head all day.

I guess you just need to try to put this all behind you now (easier said than done I know) and look to the future. Good luck with everything! x

Hi Littleminx,

Im so sorry you've had such an ordeal. I never understand why some individuals at hospitals are so insensitive, maybe cause they dont know how to handle certain situations so it makes you wonder wether there in the right profession.

I would def right a letter hun. In the meantime sending you lots of love & bigs hugs xxxx

Don't go back to work til you're ready hun - I took a week off all in all with mine as it was after the May Bank holiday so took that week and the following Monday and told work what had happened and they were so lovely and kind about it.
You're grieving and been through a traumatic experience so go back when you're ready
Hope you're OK
xxxx

Oh Luc, that sounds so awful...I'm all teary-eyed at work now! I totally agree that you should write a letter of complaint - it should be common courtesy that all those involved in a medical procedure should at least read your notes!!

Sadly I have heard worse from a friend who had late on mc when didnt even know was pg...I wont repeat it here obviously, but some doctors seem to have quite the opposite of bedside manners!

Massive (((hugs))) to you, and hope you start to feel a bit better soon. xxx

what an idiot! some people just shouldn't be dealing with others full stop. i'm so sorry you had to go through that. i'd definalty be complaining. he should know exactly what the situation is before he treats you. i hope you are feeling better soon. xxx

Hi all, i had a similar experience when i had a miscarriage in may. I was having my second bed bath of the morning as i was being to a different hospital. the nurses who had just started their shifts were asking what i was in with whilst cleaning me up!!! I felt obliged to talk to them and told them that we had been going through adoption when we discovered i was pregnant and then cancelled the adoption and then we lost the baby. as the ambulance man came to take me to the other hospital, the nurse said good luck. the ambulance man then said, what with, its not like she is going to have a baby!!! And boy didnt i know it. if i hadnt lost so much blood i would have thumped him x

Hey girls

thanks for the support, really sorry for those of you that have been in similar situations, doctors/hospital workers dont all seeem to have the best bedside manner and are probably unaware of the upset that they could have caused,

I hope you are all doing ok

Love Luc xxx

Hi Luc,
i totally agree with the other ladies. if you have the strength write and complain so this person can be spoken to. It would be better if this doctor said nothing at all!

Aw honey what a horrible inconsidrate pig!
Huge hugs and love to you! xxxxxx

What a wan*er!! Hope that you are recovering as best as you can, lots of hugs xxx