well after a very long time of me and oh trying to make our relationship work it seems we are both now going our seperate ways......i have a 4 month old son. i am just so sad i would really like some support at the mo and wondered if any of u lovely ladies could say anything to cheer me up. I just dont no how i'm gonna get over this awful time. I love my son soooo much and feel like i am completely letting him down. Have tried really hard for this not to happen but to much has now been said and done although i do still love my oh.
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hiya sam,

I was just looking through the forums and came across your post, i don't know that i can be much help as i have never had to deal with your situation. I'm really sorry to hear your relationship isn't working it must be really hard especialy with a 4 month old baby. But i want to tell you that you have in no way let your son down, sometimes no matter how hard you try it just doesn't work. To be honest if you and your other half arn't getting on then it's prob best to separate as if your are arguing and there is tension your son will pick up on it which is unfair!

I hope you have support from family and friends? Have you tried some sort of help from professionals? that may help. If you really don't want to part ways then it could be an idea?

Big hugs to you and your little one.

Danielle xxx

Hi hun
I saw in baby that you said you had wrote a post on here.
I am a single mummy, was with my ex for just over 3 years and i split with him when lo was only 3 months old as he was heading towards cheating on me and we were just not working out.
I had to leave our home as it was his flat and go and live with my parents for 6 months. It was a very tough time but i got plenty of support from family and friends and it is only now that things are getting better, but this is only because he has caused me alot of trouble.
You have not let your son down at all, i felt that i had let everyone down becoming a single mum as never imagined i would be! Thought i had my whole life planned out!
You and oh obviously need to have a very good talk about your future and what is best for all of you.
If you choose to do it alone then there is nothing wrong with that at all and it will definately make you a stronger person.
I now love being a single mum, i dont have the hassle of my ex and she no longer has to hear us arguing and i am so proud with what i have achieved.
If you ever wana chat, email me or im on here but good luck with whatever you choose to do and im sure it will be for the best, big hugs xx

thanks so much hun for ur kind words i really appreciate it so much at this lonely time. I've mailed u.
Thanks a lot ladies i no i've just got to get on with it and hopefully one day will look back and realise that this was for the best. sam xxxxxxxxxxx