My husband is jealous of our baby

Therapist Lesley replies: You are understandably irate your husband is behaving like a jealous sibling, competing with the baby for your attention rather than being the mature partner you need. It's hard to feel sympathy for him when you're coping with such a lot and getting resentment rather than support. But the feelings he's struggling with aren't easy either.
It sounds like your husband feels as though he's lost his place with you and is trying to get you back to himself. It may be a while before he's able to share you. Meanwhile, try not to make matters worse by shutting your husband out. This will only increase his fear that there's no room for him. When you become parents, it's hard making room for three, but you can help by making time for your husband, listening to him and encouraging him to build his own relationship with your daughter.

 

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