He’s always working late

Therapist Lesley replies: If this has become a constant rather than a temporary state, I suspect there are some hidden underlying issues between you about fear of closeness. The workload may be genuine, but he may also be using it to keep your relationship more distant. Also, think of this as a shared problem. Often, women who complain how little they see of their husbands have an underlying fear of seeing them too much. Meanwhile, men who seem distant and busy may fear the strength of their emotional needs. Perhaps you're both afraid of being ‘too much' for each other. Try to talk about how this is affecting you - if you're feeling insecure, unwanted and shut out, say so as he may feel the same.

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